Bad bad dream

I had a terrible dream last night that my Libra was seeing someone else on the side. In the dream, I had called him, and he thought I was the other girl. SO, he gave himself away by saying "you're going to meet me outside, right? I can't wait to see you." So, in the dream, I told him off. He called the next day and asked me to see him "not tonight, I'm tired" but the following day. Of course he was tired b/c he was out with someone else, so I said, "I don't know about that. I think we have some things to talk about."

Uck, I woke up with the uckiest feeling about us.

In real life, he seems to be putting up a distance between us right now. I know that he is in the midst of figuring out his life, his work is changing, etc. It's hard for me though, b/c I typically get into a relationship and continue to get closer to the person, rather than get close, move back, get closer, move back again.

He's been calling me daily to check in, and last night when I said, "well, let me know if you want to get together this week," HE said, "I'm not so sure. This new schedule is hard for me." Well that pissed me off - so the ball is in his court for sure.


Sometimes I think I'm just wearing myself out in this relationship!!!

OK, just venting.

Your Libra will be greatly entertained if you mention your dream. You can tease him with that. He'll repsond sweetly to it.

Is it in any way possible that you could have lately been comming accross as needy or clingy? Not trying to turn it around but if there is a little of that, it will at least give you an idea of "why".

In response to his telling you "I dunno life is hard woe is me" it might be a good idea to tell him "Look, I understand things aren't easy right now, but it doesn't seem fair that I should step aside when things aren't going well, I would rather be there going through them with you."

Sometimes we will allow ourselves to appear overwhelmed so that we can get some distance. While we do take life a little too serously at times and we require some time to brood, we don't like doing it in front of other people. It doesn't come accross as fair to us to bring others into our problems so we create distance.

I don't think I've been clingy...it's really not my style . If anything, I suppose I've pulled back very slightly b/c I was on a pattern (a few months ago) of creating drama in my own mind about the relationship and I'm wanting to get away from the dramatic thinking, knowing it does me no good.

If he's just brooding - I'm ok with that, but I wish he would just say "I need some time to think" or something to let me know what's going and why!

Well he basically did indirectly, which is how we communicate.

You're right...and that's been a challenge and a learning opportunity for me. I am incredibly direct in my communication and I think the two of us have had to find a happy medium in terms of getting each other. I have to be careful not to offend him, and he has to be careful not to confuse me.

I spoke with him last night and again, he was indirect about what was going on, so I asked some gentle questions and found out that he is brooding, very heavily, so I will offer myself to him during this time, but let him have his space if he needs it.