Bad Libra!

I am a young (23, until 24-09-06)!! Libra lass, and pride myself on my relations with all sorts of people. But, despite all the literature on us being the 'relationship' experts of the zodiac, i screw it up - every time. I dont know how it happens, but ive started to think that i love better from a distance. I mean when i start getting involved with someone ive liked for AGES, i start to dislike them, even though i think about them all the time that im not with them. They annoy me so easily, even though they aren't doing anything wrong. Does anyone else get these feelings? I mean it takes me so long to get into a relationship, and then when i get there i want out..this sucks!

p.s, my moon is in Saggitarius and Venus in Virgo..a bad combination!

I hv heard this same frm many librans. even my experience was almost same. Read somewhere tat its bcoz of Venus. dunno... 😢 but now for past 2-3 years things were lot better. I learned a lot frm my own mistakes. I am 26 now. 😉 I havent had any issues with Aries and Gemini till date.

Sola,
Did you say your Venus is in Virgo? (Oh No.) Sola, it's because of the position of your Venus. People with Venus in Virgo are so cautions that they find the merest fault of the person they admire, then they blow it up and make it the sole reason of why they don't like that person all due to the fact that they are afraid to fall in love. (My God.) My Libra admirer has a Venus in Virgo, and now I'm afraid that he'll do the same thing to me that you're doing. Great.

It is because you are a libra baby. Because we are the partnership sign, we learn all our life lessons through partnerships. Unfortunetly, we are also the sign of balance. Sooo when we are IN a relationship, we often want freedom. When we have our freedom, we only long to be in a relationship.

You just have to get over the fleeting moments and hold onto your own truth and what you really want. It is especially hard for you and me Sola because we have strong Sag placements.

🙂

Well thanks guys!! Im seeing a new Capricorn man (01-01-1980) and he really could not be sweeter. And, although i like his company, im just not as keen as he is. Its not that i am using him or anything..i just find myself pushing him further and further away. I do feel sorry for the guy, and i wish i knew how to change. Deep down i know that i dont want to because this is how i protect myself from hurt. Dreamy..we are not afraid to fall in love..the fear is simply that no-one will ever be good enough, be able to live up to our enormous expectations, and for me in particular, give as much as i do to a partnership. Sure it takes a long time for us to get there, but when we do then there is no more genuine, interested, concerned and in-love person in the world!! It just doesnt happen that often..damn!

Sola
the fear is simply that no-one will ever be good enough, be able to live up to our enormous expectations, and for me in particular, give as much as i do to a partnership.

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You're right, no one will ever live up to the Libra expectation of the perfect relationship. Including Libras themselves...

cappies— I remember what I read in Linda Goodmans book. "If you meet a happily married Libra-Cappy couples, you can be sure that either one of them is adopted and dont know their real birthday. So true in my case... I tried cappy 3 times in 3 diff cities in 3 diff years. All 3 times it failed in the excat same pattern. Instant attraction. lots of talks (mostly she asked questions and I answered)... going home, hanging for another 2 weeks. then one fine day......... all over... no reply sms, not picking phone calls.. she hesitate to talk. zero contacts. I started worrying if i did or said someting stupid.. no reply for another 10 days. then slowly she send one sms. I sense some effort to light it up. I already sensed some bitterness and decided to hold myself back...

I didnt gave much of thought to astrolgy those days. but third time, i experimented but still it ended in the same fashion which made me learn more on astrolgy.

not trying to discourage you... just the word cappy made me type so much...lol... keep posting how things start moving. 🙂 goodluck

yeah (thelibran)..i can see this pattern already!! And you know the stupid thing is, now that im worried he might be losing interest, im beginning to want him more and more!! This is me all the time..i only feel comfortable when there is no threat to my independence, or of anyone trying to get too close to me. I will get close to you, not vice-versa! Well..i'll keep you posted. (p.s, im always suggesting when we should meet up..should i stop doing this and let him make any future arrangements)?

Oh I hate it when people become emotionally dependent on me. It is okay once a level of intimacy/trust has been earned and established. But people that come on too strongly too soon ... doesn't work for me.

It is your ego that wants him more and more. Remember a few days ago, you weren't that into him.

My advice, as a general rule, is don't chase men. Having had two very serious relationships with virgos, I think this is very true of earth sign men. I don't think it works for women because femininity by definition is receptive and masculinity is aggressive. When women switch roles in romantic relationships, they become unbalanced. Suddenly, they become more needy because they are waiting to receive but can't receive because they just gave. Men become emasculated because suddenly they are receiving when their natural inclination is to pursue.

Know what I mean?

LS,

Wow, that makes perfect sense. I become unbalanced. Now I know what went wrong. It figures. Oh well, at least I learnt something with being unbalanced which is to become balanced again.

Also, I find men consider women "psycho" when the woman is more into them than they are into her, especially if she wonders or asks why or where they stand. If she calls too much ect ... he will dub her psycho because they only went out a few times or it was never that serious for him.

LS,

I fully agree with you. I haven't called Virgo guy too much. However, in the recent I did send numerous text messages since I hadn't heard from him. Hope that isn't looked down upon. Well, I've stopped doing it as I never get a response anyway. Why bother.