Bumped into my Libra Ex last night

Good lord, don't over think this trivial bs so much. It's clear you're still desperate for this to work out. Try not to think too much about it. It'll just drive you nuts. When I bumped into my ex at a party, it was 2 years later and he still acted a bit odd. I couldn't figure out wtf his deal was and just said eff it.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Good lord, don't over think this trivial bs so much. It's clear you're still desperate for this to work out. Try not to think too much about it. It'll just drive you nuts. When I bumped into my ex at a party, it was 2 years later and he still acted a bit odd. I couldn't figure out wtf his deal was and just said eff it.

Dang, I just love rockys attitude

Can't see that he has made any attempt to reconcile...you texted him after the night, not the other way around.

Everything he did at the party falls right in line with how I would act around an ex, that was more about him not you!

Posted by TaurusNikki

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Good lord, don't over think this trivial bs so much. It's clear you're still desperate for this to work out. Try not to think too much about it. It'll just drive you nuts. When I bumped into my ex at a party, it was 2 years later and he still acted a bit odd. I couldn't figure out wtf his deal was and just said eff it.

Dang, I just love rockys attitude

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Believe me, I had that period where I was caught up in my head trying to figure out wtf was going on when I saw him again and the strange behavior that followed. But once it proved to be a whole lot of bs, that's when I said eff it.

I get where the OP is coming from and it's hard getting through the first phases of a break up. But the only thing she really needs is honesty. I was fed SO much bullshit after my break up and it strung along some of those phases for far too long. Some people here give really shitty, useless advice. It's nothing but sugar coated bullshit, tbh.

Best thing- just say fuck it, and move on. If the guy/girl feels like coming back around, fine. But don't even think about waiting on that shit. Life's too short to be emotionally hijacked for most of it.

Not literally said to the guy, tard.

Also, stfu. You're doing the typical libra devil's advocate bullshit and encouraging her to stay where she is with that "well if she does that then he'll NEVER come back." You're a male. You don't know what it's like to be a female in this situation. You're not helping, you're making it worse.

Posted by LIBRA1234
BUT, i think sometimes it may be a good start if it hurts too much and u see no point in overalayzing stuff over and over... Obviously this guy is not coming back for now, and u thinking about every little detail of your relationship and overanalyzing his behavior will not bring him back,. Unless u r telepathic and can influence his mind lol, start moving on slowly and dont think he will ever come back. Having hope he will eventually come around will not help u heal. Also u mentioned u r a good looking girl and popular with guys, u should not waste that for a guy who doesnt care, use that to find someone who does!

Excuse my typos, ipad challenged

The main point of that advice, really. We all get stuck in that neverending cycle and once you're in a situation much like she is, then yes, 'fuck it" is the appropriate term. Fuck trying to figure out what every little trivial action means. Go do you. It can be hard to do, but you have to tell yourself that to help move on past this phase.

THEN later down the road once you're beyond this point, you can evaluate some of this stuff further if you want to figure out wtf is going on. But it seems pointless, imo. You can't fix douchebaggery.

I'm sorry but I dobt see any of his actions as suspicious and nothing suggests he's still interested. Most Libras I have had interested (including.ex's) have came at me full force almost to.the point where it became annoying that they were always communicating with me. Delete him and block him from facebook. You can unblock him.once your over your obsession as its not healthy! Facebook just encourages people.to be nosey doesnt mean they are interested. If I see an old school friend comment on one of my friends status I have a snoop through their profile if its open not because I'm interested just pure curiosity.

I think you are hoping we will all tell you there is some hope atleast the way you have written your posts suggest that. However as I have already said theres nothing to suggest anything more then curiosity.

Just curious and not trying to be mean OP, but what did you hope to accomplish by telling your friend not to tell him? You phone going off, etc. I think by telling her, maybe a part of you wished that she will tell on you so he can know that you're "moving on". A word of advice...after a break up be as mysterious as possible, keep him wondering. And if he is still interested then he'll return because you are now a mystery to him. Never be all over his sights or let him know things about you after a split. Let him find you. At least that's how I deal with my break ups, whether I still like a guy or not. All have sought me out btw and I told those I didn't like anymore to go take a hike. Be like a magician and vanish into thin air.

Plus you heal better and faster when you dont see the person. Out of sight sometimes means out of mind

You're confusing yourself here, he's not. Until there's really obvious wtfery going on (which there isn't), you should stop stressing over all of this and reading into all this like the photos and him out and about. He's living his life. Not doing it to make you jealous. If he's trying to live his life, so should you.

Again, I know it's hard to get through this phase and not look for snippets of something to give you hope that he wants you. You gotta stop doing this to yourself. It'll take time, but try to at least start working on NOT doing this shit. At some point, you have to tell yourself "Ugh, WHAT am I doing??"

trouble with what happened at that party is ...you both started looking at each other..and a confusion started about why the other was looking. 90% of the looking was probably..why are they looking at me? Why are they still looking at me. Ie you were both prompting each other..It wasnt because of feelings more because of worry. Then he drifted over to try get some clues as to why you kept looking at him. The Question left unanswered was WHY? & thats why got you all flustered. But the answer to the why isnt anything to do with attraction.

The reason he was looking at you was cos he was wondering why you were looking at him. Did you have a problem with him. Was a conflict on the cards or something equally unpleasant. He came to chat & saw it was cos you were developing feelings. So he knew if he wanted to start again with you you were up for it. But he didnt take you up on the offer cos he wants to move on. He was just concerned there might be a problem...and was checking you were ok. Thats it.