Calling all leebs.. How do you cope with not being able to move on

Trying to see what else is out there, even spoken to a potential few but am not feeling it one bit. I constantly compare them to my ex and nothing feels even remotely similar to the feeling I got from speaking to/seeing him. The moment me and him first spoke/met it was like fireworks for me. An instant connection. I know there's no hope in trying to recreate the feelings you had in a previous relationship when trying to move forward with someone else but I am feeling almost repelled by any man that I come in any kind of contact with since my break uP
Any advice? I think about my ex at least once a day since the break up.

When yall break up? Date lightly for now why did u break up

Posted by lovely77
When yall break up? Date lightly for now why did u break up

Its been about 40 days. We broke up because he was acting shady and disappearing and erratic behavior and being incredibly cold towards me and I asked if it was someone else and he basically just coldly ended it without any real explanation.

I agree with the above repsonses take ur take yirl 40 days is nothing its been 3 years and im ready but 30 days no way your heart is healing. U deserve better than a man who does that eont mess it up by dating ppl too soon because u wont see how great THEY ARE. All u see is this ex right now.

Posted by lovely77
I agree with the above repsonses take ur take yirl 40 days is nothing its been 3 years and im ready but 30 days no way your heart is healing. U deserve better than a man who does that eont mess it up by dating ppl too soon because u wont see how great THEY ARE. All u see is this ex right now.

Thank you
I think you're right. I need to give myself more time to heal before I dive back in the dating pool. Otherwise all I will see is him. Compare everyone to him. It hurts thinking about the future we could've had and knowing it won't be the same with anyone else.

Also, this shouldn't be something im actively seeking. If someone is meant to come in to my life, then they will.

Thanks girlies

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Libras think too much—you're letting this keep hold of you tighter than it has to. Surround yourself with other influences, and keep your mind occupied.

Sometimes talking helps with the Libra, but sometimes they just want to be left with their thoughts [this, however, can be a very bad idea..]. If you're thinking too much, you'll find yourself always looking at the worst case scenario, something along the lines of "I'll never find love like that again", and that's not true in the slightest bit, sweetheart.

Libras will let a bad thought eat them alive. I know thing suck now, but you'll be okay. ^_^

Music, running helped me. Everytime I started to let my mind wonder, I went to the gym. Find a hobby you like.

It took me 2 years..dated in between. All different kinds of guys. I traveled the world and hung out with friends/family.

I lost myself in him/that relationship...I took time to find me again.

Posted by PrincessLouise
They move on faster than cancer! Or pisces!

I have Cancer moon it is a nightmare. I will look at an ex's page over 20 times in one day especially if it ended abruptly. I like to have things explained even if they are painful. I respect people more that way and I can even have a total lack or respect for how they acted and I will still stalk them online for answers or to see if they are thinking about me or not. Silly I know, but I don't believe in false connections and when I make them they can be hard to break. I just have to stop attracting mutables! LOL

But to answer the question. I normally dance or listen to audiobooks while cleaning or sewing. I will not listen to any music with a love message. If I need music I listen to Little Dragon's first album. I also run especially if I am angry because it takes a lot to get there so when I am there it doesn't feel contained. I try try try no to obsess. I have this terrible habit of building too many memories with people in a short amount of time and a wonderfully and terribly accurate memory so every little thing can trigger a memory. So I just try to always do something I have never done before. Go to a new café or restaurant and read for an hour, meditation, and just doing something random. Like a couple of weeks ago when I was feeling heartbroken I wanted to go get a henna tattoo after getting my eyebrows threaded, but I knew watching some type of art take place would help.

Time. Also occupying your mind with other things such as working out, school, work etc.

It's tough though. Sigh!

Haha oh my god this is so me. What I've been doing is listening to music that reminds me of him and checking his Facebook updates. I do it to purposefully hurt myself so maybe I'll realize he's shitty and move on. I linger around with the good memories and have to force myself to remember the hurt. I feel like it's purging.

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Posted by libralotus
Haha oh my god this is so me. What I've been doing is listening to music that reminds me of him and checking his Facebook updates. I do it to purposefully hurt myself so maybe I'll realize he's shitty and move on. I linger around with the good memories and have to force myself to remember the hurt. I feel like it's purging.

This is so me... Girl you forgot: back reading messages over and over and over again.

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you're my girl. Let's be friends

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Posted by DollyLuxe

Posted by libralotus
Haha oh my god this is so me. What I've been doing is listening to music that reminds me of him and checking his Facebook updates. I do it to purposefully hurt myself so maybe I'll realize he's shitty and move on. I linger around with the good memories and have to force myself to remember the hurt. I feel like it's purging.

This is so me... Girl you forgot: back reading messages over and over and over again.

you're my girl. Let's be friends

We should. And yes.. I'm doing these things at the moment.. Will stalk and backread got the next.. Two months I'd say..

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Yeah it's been awhile and I'm still not completely over it even though he's moved on