Changes are comming to fast, can't keep up!

Hello duncan ville people! (that is what we used to call the people who post here)

Anyhow, the new Scorpio love interest might be moving away to Mendocino to start a new job that pays very well. He shared this information with me last night and asked me what I thought about it. I said if it is something he would be happy doing then he should do it. He went on to explain that he had lived in that area before and that it is beautiful. His most influential contacts were from that area as well so I am sure I can guess where this might be going.

I have a one to two year commitment to help my son get through the first part of his college education. And we are set up for it to happen here in my hometown, partly because the university is one of the best schools for computer sciences in the US. So I simply am not in a position to relocate for some time. And the relationship situation is far to new to even consider doing something that permanent.

I know he would come see me when ever he could but long distance relationships are very difficult to sustain. But I do not want him to pass up this opportunity if it is a once in a lifetime offer like some dream jobs are. (dream job) to me that means being able to do something you love to do and make money doing it. It doesn't get better than that as far as employment choices right.

I am worried that he will pass it up because he simply does not want to leave me behind. Granted I am not crazy about the idea of us living some distance away from each other as well, but there is just no easy answer to this new development.

Man I am so torn about how or what to feel about all of this. There is one valid point though! That is if the relationship is meant to become a solid lasting union for both of us then there is not anything that will stop it from becoming a reality. I find this to be true most of the time in situations such as this one.

If two people decide they truly want to be together they generally find a way to do so, right?

On the other hand this would leave little doubt regarding his true intension's. And if he is serious regarding his feelings for me. But I am fairly certain that his affection for me is not a passing fancy kind of thing. And that fact kind of scares the pants off of me!!!Wow we wait all our lives to find that one person we can connect with on a deep emotional level, and when it does finally arrive we choke! Seriously we turn and run in the other direction as fast as we can,

Man my life is starting to resemble a soap opera, and I am not thrilled with that fact!

Well guys any advice or pearls of wisdom you would like to share with me? Gosh why do I always seem to find myself in situations that wind up being so complicated? Where's my fairy godmother when I need her? This is a Cinderella story right, but the prince doesn't make it back to reunite with his beloved Cinderella. There is so much he has already shared with me, so much that has been promised, so much that is right. So when is the other shoe going to drop? Plopping me right back into my little corner of the world with only a fading memory of how close I came to a happy ending.

You know when a person starts thinking like that it is called (stinkin thinkin)and they say it can become a self full filling prophecy. So I better watch my P's and Q's, dot my I's and cross my T's also. In other words stop engaging is self destructive thoughts and try to accept that I also have a right to feel happy, safe and loved.

You know my Scorp did say one thing to me I just now remembered! One day after a serious conversation between us about some of the things we experienced in our past, He stated "So then you have never been truly loved have you" I asked him what he meant by that and he replied again "You don't know what it is like to be truly loved" After thinking about his statement awhile I replied "No I guess I don't". He then said "No wonder your scared to death" This is the real deal and you don't know quite what to do with it! He then went on to say that he will always love me and take care of me until the end. And that he intends to treat me very well, this includes spoiling me rotten. I replied that he did not have to do any of those things. The only thing I would require from anyone is honesty above all else. Integrity is developed from being honest. And I feel that a sound moral base can be obtained if truth is where you start.

My beliefs regarding the ability to nurture and sustain a lasting relationship are as follows. My parents followed these guidelines and they were married fifty three years until my passed on! So they must have been doing something right!

No secrets or lies no matter how bad the truth is. This my friends is the one thing we all seek out and need from each other. Without it we can not form a lasting relationship with anyone. Always remember to treat your partner better than you would treat a perfect stranger. Be best friends!

Sorry for hogging the posting space! Guess I have allot on my mind to deal with right now!

I welcome any and all responses to my posts. I have walked away with so many wonderful words of wisdom, shared experiences and support from the people I have met here in the past few years. It is kind of like a personal support system in a way and there have been times that were so difficult for me. And during those times the people I shared my life and situations with were one of the main factors that got me through it all.

So here we go again! One more time around! There simply are not enough words to define what I received here on this web site from such great people. Thanks Guys!

!!!!!Big Hugs >:< 😘!!!!!And Kisses !!!!Smootch 🙂 !!!!

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There darn it!

Ok now! I typed the symbols just like my instruction sheet showed them! So why didn't my emoticons come out right? Well scratch the hugs and kisses visual for now! Geez! If anyone can tell me what I did not do right so that they would be there-Please share the info. K

Well I figured out what I left out on the Hugs, but still can't figure out the Kisses-I probably used the wrong dash on my keyboard!

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Oh I give up!

kg=she be wise. Scorps have their own unique faithfulness / dedication. The soap opera dust will settle. Focus on your path. And, yes, if two people really want to be together they will find a way. There is nothing more powerful than agreement (look at the power of covenants). And Scorps are some of the strongest people anywhere. I think it will work out better than you think.

p.s. The Fairy Godmother put the whole thing in your hands to make your own decisions best for you.

Sorry for being such a piglet with my never ending post! LOL!

Atom, I must agree with your observation that there is truth in the statement (kg**she be wise). It is true that Scorps are some of the strongest people anywhere. And they are tenacious while pursuing something they set their sights on. This is true regardless of the goal they wish to attain. I have also seen first hand the faithful dedication that is uniquely theirs alone. It very well may work out better than I could imagine at this point in time. One thing that I feel will be of great benefit for myself (being a Libra) is their ability to stay focused and dedicated to whatever challenges lay before them.

My experience has been with female Scorpios for the most part, but I am relatively sure that their male counterpart is just as intense if not more so. They can be loving, attentive compassionate partners. His intensity is something I am still trying to adjust to, as our personalities differ in quite a few areas. I take the diplomatic road to negotiation, while he simply states what he expects to accomplish and then does it.

I am thinking his strong points will compliment my softer ones, and perhaps we may find a beautiful balance of entwined harmonies. Time will reveal answers to many questions!