Confused by advice from libras and non libras

After break up blues. Not sure what you want. Head and heart are in different places. Maybe for the best. Libra wrong me with his lies and. I Have trust issues. I understand the whole disappearing act. I never got that during the 6 months. Now since break up has happened I'm getting the coldness. I decided to stop calling after that since I'm feeling this from him. Maybe this is what is needed to move from him being a Leo my pride will kick in. BUT

I'm trying to fall out of love and reading things ppl say leave them alone and it's over and you'll move on fast. Which I believe but I have a libra friend who was telling me I should wait a week and call him. I'm thinking why would I do that when I already tried this, but she wants me to call and just say hi how are you( non confrontational) Lol here's my thing he wrong me even though I love him still but I'm suppose to give him time but call and check on him!!!! Seriously! Even asking her about her disappearing she sounded shock saying oh I don't do that and our friend said ....yeah you do lol. I don't get it.

Libras confuse the hell out of me. I'm not calling this dude anymore off the strength he hurt me. I nagged and bitched to him YES I DID, but because I didn't trust and you ended things with me and run away. She swore he will contact you but I think you should call him tho. Smh. Do you'll really want to be chased like that?

I'm not a libra- don't call him. You already did & he acted cold towards you. Besides, why should you care how he is when he is not picking up the phone to ask how YOU are? He did you wrong therefore you don't owe him anything, not even a call.

And yes some of them do like to turn the tables on you (take the blame off themselves), to make you feel guilty/2nd guess your decision etc, when they're the ones that messed up in the 1st place. Don't give him the satisfaction, HE DID YOU WRONG, so he should be the one that sweats trying to rectify the situation..not you.

No. Your Libra friend is completely wrong. Some of the shit advice I hear women give makes no freaking logical sense because they think with emotions not logic.

If you were to contact him, we're talking MONTHS time, not weeks. Everything is still too fresh to be contacting him. It'll make this phase of "mourning" harder to cope with.

If you're the one that broke things up, it's even worse and a really, really selfish thing to do to contact the other to see how they're doing. It would just make you look like a real dick complicating things.

Some Libran women sometimes tend to live in lala land and play devil's advocate when giving advice. Some of the advice many Libran female friends gave me was atrocious. Hell, even my Libran MOM has given me some pretty questionable advice. They're thinking with estrogen so its bound not to make sense anyway. :/

Also, if he were to contact you, that should/would happen on his terms. Why the hell would calling him do anything anyway??

Not a damn thing. God works in mysteries ways. Shortly after writing this and I got a call from a co worker(which is random) telling me her best friends friend went on a date with my NOW ex who was my bf at the time. Small fucking world. Told me where they went and everything. She wasn't lying because these are places not ordinary. It hurts but I feel like all my suspicions and feelings were right on. I text him everything I found out in 10 minutes time this fool went from what are you talking about , to I'm not a cheater, to you didn't want me, to I really realize im a cheater. Smdh!!!! Like I said although it hurts like shit but I feel good and glad to be rid of this loser

FUCK HIM! If I never met a libra man again it would be too soon

It's amazing how little they make sense when you corner them on their bullshit. They waffle, backpedal, and say all sorts of crazy bs. Anything to cop out of conflict. :/

A Libra will only waver if they weren't totally sure themselves that they wanted to end it. If however, they were definite then there's no going back, not permanently anyway.

And yes they will feed you full of shit when you call them out on truths that make them look like cunts, remember they don't like to look bad or be wrong. They will then go behind your back and turn it on you so that everyone that you may be in contact with from the relationship will think that you were at fault and the pyscho ex. You contact him and that will be more ammunition that he will use to prove his theory.

As hard as it is, keep walking and don't look back. You know in yourself what he has missed out on, even if he never does see or feel it!

As hard as it is, keep walking and don't look back. You know in yourself what he has missed out on, even if he never does see or feel it! - this is very true ! I was doing the same mistake as you every time when he disappeared. It is true, was working this way, but just until next tim when happened more bad ! But I was doing that because in what was happened, I founf a little bit my fault too, but now, after he told me some things clearly ( even it may not be true and it may be just a reason for a long time space) , it would be bad from my side to still contact him because it was not my fault at all this time ! I was doing the last thing : I told him in some messages, all what I had to say, withtout any complain or bad words for him. I told him in fact what he lose ( without to use the words " you lose me" or something like this) . Now, I totaly disappeared ! No contact , no call , no messages, no add in messenger again anymore ! In a word, no desperated ! I am sure he will open again that phone, and when he will see since when I didn't sent him any text, there will be a difference. He will see he lost me. If he would see that I didn't text to him since yesterday and today he would open again the phone, this would be like : "oh, she still desperate searching for me "
But when he will see I am not there again and anymore, he will miss that words. In your case te same. Let's him miss you . If he ever did this before, he will do it again . If he wil not missing you, then why you still want him back ? I wish you can pass this " hurting time" and get what I mean. And I am sure you can do it ! If you want descharge your soul, write to him the last texts and tell him everything what he lose. Make the text in a way that it will make him think much about you.Just like you image you are talking with him. But without to say angry words or complain. In this way, you let your door open . Then disappear completely from there ! Do not contact him anymore. Even to not care if he still have that number after this ! Nothing ! When I started this, it was very hard in the first 2 days. Then if passed 2 days without to text anything , without to want to see if he opened the phone ... it was so easy ! I tought I will never can give up like this. Who me — Yes , me ! So I can, you can too ! Be strong ! Just think : I do this to make him come back or to see if he really loves me " .

I had no intentions on chasing him, especially the last call and him sounding cold. I got it message clear. He was done. But despite all the advice which I appreciate and understand you will question but why?.

I'm not hurt I'm just angry now. Why go back on dating sites looking for a long term relationship and going on dates but calling my mom in the same week telling her I'love your daughter and idk why she thinks I'm cheating on her all I want is her. You unhappy break up....period right? What's the point of holding on to me. Now feeling like possibly EVERYTHING WAS A LIE!

And even after catching him that was the response I get. No apology just admit I'm a cheat now. Wtf! I get it libras don't like this or that but playing with ppl heart regardless what sign you are makes you an asshole.