Dating a Libra and need some insight please!

Hi, I recently started dating a Libra man (I am a Scorpio female); I am completely smitten by him. We have the best conversations, laugh constantly and seem to have a good connection (physically as well and emotionally). I have never dated a Libra man and am somewhat confused as to his motive. He will text me out of nowhere, sometimes we will go back and forth for over an hour, other days I won't hear from him at all or he will be short (although he is busy with his business, so I do understand). How do I know if he is really interested? Sometimes I think he is contacting me to ask to see me again, but then there is no mention of it and we just chit chat. I am a patient woman, so do I continue to wait it out and become friends first while he "decides", as Libras do? Or, should I take the lead and ask to see him again? I hate playing games but never having dated a Libra I am lost. Thanks for any input!

Thank you tiziani! I do feel like we would be a great match for each other and the companionship is there not only on a friend basis, but a romantic one as well. I know Libras are flirtatious and often have more than one woman at a time. I suppose I should take it one day at a time, continue to express my interest, and see how he responds. He's definitely worth waiting for! It's just so hard to read him and I am usually really good with my intuition. I feel he is interested but taking his sweet time in evaluating if I am the right girl. Keeps me wanting more from him!

Physically? As in you've slept with him?

No rockyroadicecream; I have not slept with him; we have only kissed. And he is very touchy feely with me. He grabs my hand, puts his hand on my knee, etc...there is definitely a physical attraction there...why do you ask? Are they slow to move in that department? He kissed me on our first date if that helps any.

tiziani; I agree! I love my intuition; and thank you for your input. Hopefully he will find me as attractive as you found your Scorpio! 🙂

Sassy how much time has passed since your first date?

If it's been more than 2 weeks since he last asked you out I don't think he's as interested as you.

Could be one of many women he's involved with that's causing this delay. Rotating between you and others.

Many moons ago I dated a libra and he didn't hesitate, was the first to ask me out, say I love you and I barely knew that much about him. Inevitably I dumped him, too immature.

Hopefully you're keeping your options open dating wise.

A lot of men can be complacent and use technology as a buffer to remain distant.

Use text messaging sparingly, an hour is too long and it encourages complacency. When I met my now husband I only used text messaging to say I'm late etc...I did not use technology to communicate, I have my reasons and encouraging laziness is one of those reasons.

I think if you set a few boundaries around how you're going to communicate, minimize an hour to say 5 minutes, he'll eventually notice he's getting less of your time and attention which can encourage him to get some face time.

If he's got you for an hour via text then he really doesn't have to ask you out when you're so readily available to communicate for an hour or more via your cellphone.

Curious is he single? Is he married? Have you asked/checked to ensure you're not getting caught up over an unavailable guy?

tiki33, thank you! It's been three weeks since our first date (I know, not that long). And he has been really good about keeping in touch in the meantime. The last time I saw him was this past Thursday for a quick drink since he was in the area on business. We chatted a bit yesterday via text but I have not heard from him yet today and I have not reached out. I am just confused as to how to approach a Libra. Usually I am straight forward (being a Scorp), and would have no problem saying how I feel, but with him I feel like I need to be cautious.

I am fairly confident that he is single and available. I met him online on a dating website and he has been very open about who he is, his business, his family, etc...so I know he says who he is. At least I think; he appears to be pretty open and honest.

I am keeping my options open; I always do. But with him, I really want to spend time with him and get to know him more which makes it hard when he contacts me but doesn't mention getting together again.

As far as the texting, it comes and goes. Sometimes it is emails throughout the day, a text here and there just checking in, or a lengthy text session (usually silly banter). Some days I won't hear from him at all but that only lasts a day or so.

I suppose I am just confused as to how to approach this whole situation since I am getting mixed signals. Or am I getting mixed signals? I don't know what is typical Libra behavior when it comes to this and I don't want to scare him away.

I asked because you said "physical" which implies sex.

I don't think he's all that interested in you either. I was involved with a Libra who acted just like this and he wasn't all that interested, either.

You should just kinda take it as it goes/go with the flow, but don't allow yourself to get so emotionally tied up/invested until he starts showing actual signs of interest.

I wouldn't be surprised if you were one of many, tbh. You're falling prey to Libran charm. :p

Posted by tiki33


Many moons ago I dated a libra and he didn't hesitate, was the first to ask me out, say I love you and I barely knew that much about him. Inevitably I dumped him, too immature.

My experience too. He was pretty immature. Most guys who move way too fast into things usually are.

@rocky...that was my gut feeling too. Well, for now at least. I am going to let it play out and see what he does. I will have to go against my Scorpio nature and let him take the lead (which may be hard). If it's meant to be I guess he'll come around! Thanks for being honest. I appreciate everyone's comments. 🙂

Also, there is no excuse or coddling to be had with "mixed" signals. If you're getting mixed signals, chances are you shouldn't be tiptoeing around to keep a guy's interest because the interest is barely there to begin with. You should not have to try so hard to get someone's interest. It either happens or it doesn't.

Posted by SassyScorpio76
@rocky...that was my gut feeling too. Well, for now at least. I am going to let it play out and see what he does. I will have to go against my Scorpio nature and let him take the lead (which may be hard). If it's meant to be I guess he'll come around! Thanks for being honest. I appreciate everyone's comments. 🙂

Always follow your gut. It rarely steers you wrong.

Yeah, I don't do well with mixed signals which is why I'm asking on this forum about Libras. I only know one other Libra and she's a female co-worker who is NOTHING like this guy. I should just stick with the other guy I've been seeing off and on in addition to Mr. Libra (he's a Cancer who adores me and has no problem telling me how he feels about me). Why do I always want the mysterious ones?!?! Lol!

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Also, there is no excuse or coddling to be had with "mixed" signals. If you're getting mixed signals, chances are you shouldn't be tiptoeing around to keep a guy's interest because the interest is barely there to begin with. You should not have to try so hard to get someone's interest. It either happens or it doesn't.

+1

Amen! I couldn't have said it better...

Does he live in your city? How do you know he's not in a committed long term relationship or even married? His inability to seal the deal by following up is a red flag. What could be holding him back if he's available?

He doesn't seem too interested in developing a real relationship if he's not at least attempting to spend time with you. What are you supposed to do, date your phone? That in and out behavior is maddening.

Unavailable men appear mysterious (at first) when really they are just plain ole unable and unavailable to follow through so they end up stringing women along instead of just moving completely on.

I don't recommend friendship only b/c I have zero tolerance for bullshit behavior but that's just me....Follow your gut instincts.

3 weeks is too long without planning another date.. unless something happened to him. If he is interested, he would make it happen much sooner

Well our first date was almost 3 weeks ago, then he was out of town for business and I saw him again on Thursday (at his request). And I know he is single b/c he took a call from his sister when we were together and told her he was on a date with me. I have also seen his FB page and there is no sign of him being connected to anyone. Just going to play it safe, trust my gut and take it slow. It seems like a lot of you are telling me (maybe not directly), to be cautious, which I am totally ok with. I hope it works out though, we seem to have quite the connection; almost unexplainable. If we end up being friends, that's just as good!

If he was interested in you he'd make sure you knew. If you are unsure and tiptoeing now before you even have a relationship, you are in for some real awakening once you do. Libra men are complicated and the wait and see approach you have now is going to magnify x20! They march to their own drum and cannot be manipulated or rushed.

Take a Take it or leave it attitude; nobody us worth being unsure about. Good luck!