Dating older man with daughter all in the bizzz!

I am dating an older man for 2yrs and his daughter is close to my age. You cant help who you fall in love with and I sincerely and truly know that we both love one another. Like all couples, we have problems, but the root of most of our problems always seems to be with his daughter. She is spoiled rotten with no respect for her dad and sometimes she finds a way to throw me in the mix. She has him rapped around her finger, I am very secure with myself, and I do know that blood is thicker, but it is creating such a problem. He stresses over her disrespect and now it is to the point that she is going out of her way to be rude and unkind to me. She was so kind in the beginning but now I discovered that it was apart of her plot to get what she wanted from her dad and as soon as she got what she needed the booty was given for me to kiss. However, I will never

She could have a father figure complex of sorts although the last part of your statement makes no sense, "booty" what?

That's her dad if she want's something from him she has a right to it. She could be a 'gold digger' and the man's her father.

Kill her with kindness 🙂 ...if it's a must that you pay her any attention... never react to her at least not in a negative way...

She could have a father figure complex of sorts although the last part of your statement makes no sense, "booty" what?--- I think she was saying shes not kissing any ass.

She's probably just a brat... if she were younger I'd say cut a switch and take no pity

I think she means the daughter wants her to kiss her buttocks.

Body slam her and kick her head in. The "spoiled brat" syndrome will then cease. j/k

Understand where she is coming from. Her dad is dating a woman her age. Few women would be comfortable with that. He has set up a situation where you are in direct competition. Her anger with you, is really her anger at him.

Well, you know how girls and dads are. Girls can normally do no wrong in the sight of their fathers. Also the age thing is probably getting under her skin like LS said. Although I could care less if my dad was dating someone my age - his life, not mine, and I respect his decision, but that comes with maturity. That is something you and he have to come to a common ground about.

Hmmm, but now that I think of it, my dad is re-married (to someone close to his age)but my younger sister and they don't get along at all. His wife thinks she gets between them, she is the baby and she probably does. She is truly a "daddy's girl too". Hmmm.

***Body slam her and kick her head in. The "spoiled brat" syndrome will then cease. j/k***

LP, yeah right. This coming from a guy who melts when his daughter says "daddy....."

"LP, yeah right. This coming from a guy who melts when his daughter says "daddy....."

Just jokes baby, just jokes. FYI I don't melt.....I deteriorate. I'll have to say though, if my daughter was purposely trying to cause confusion in my relationship, there would be trouble for her. I don't play about mine. See, my perspective would be that she didn't care about my happiness and the demanded respect for my loved one. She'll receive a reckoning. You ever heard of the Libran sudden burst of rage? Its no joke baby, and I will use it for destructive purposes...heheh.

If he's a rich guy then the two of you must be competing for money - what does "booty" mean anyway other than bum?

Oh I see you will never kiss her booty.

You're not one of the ass kissing types.

You're not an ass kisser.

You're not wimpy, you don't kiss ass.

You don't ever bend down and kiss ass.

You're more likely to kick ass.

Yup that way you wouldn't be a wimpy ass kisser cuz you kick it instead.

Y'know like kicking ass to the curb, makes you some kind of bad ass.

Like when you become a kick ass bad ass.

LP, I know that statement was a joke... I was thinking in general. Just saying that you know your daughter can get to you.

What I meant by booty is that she just gives me her ass to kiss now. The story is so much deeper. He complains to me how she has done so many manipulative things to him and he stresses over this, when he stresses I stress. This man has given her a condo a truck and no he is not rich. She e-mails people in his family and states he has never done shit for her. Meanwhile the home she grew up in he brought and now his x-wife her mom lives there with her new husband?Drama. Not to mention he paid her way through college. All I am saying is that it hurts him because he loves her dearly and she just does not seem to get the fact that she is crushing him to pieces. Yes, the RAGE of a Libra is truly no joke, but for some reason this Bitch is getting to me. Get this, she is a Libra and so am I so what a mess?.Like I stated you cant help who you love and I cant walk away because of her wicked ways. She needs to focus on her relationship not her Dads. His family gets along with me so well, they see what I see.

Firstly, I never demanded a thing from her. Secondly, she should have not been so hypocritical in the beginning. Why wait 2 years later. She was so nice like I stated until she got what she wanted from her dad. That is my issue, I don't need to try and please all. I do not like the way she treats him, I stay out of it, and this is my way to vent on this forum. If she is acting like a BITCH then hey I call it like I see it. In addition, as far as you letting me know what is natural and unnatural that is your personal. However, what I think is unnatural is the disrespect that she gives her Dad. Bottom Line People just have to do better.

You need to communicate to him how much it is bothering you. You need to be careful to make it clear that you are accepting of his daughter as a part of him and the last thing you would ever want to do is come between them but she needs to be confronted by him about her behavior. It is a sticky situation, because no matter how you ease into pointing out he needs to do something he is going to feel like your both against him. I would just re-inforce that you care about him but you are going to have to take a step back soon if this continues because you can't keep yourself in this kind of situation and stay sane.

you also need to keep in mind that part of this is going to be nautural. This phase usually comes earlier than her current age but if she was sheltered pretty good then it can come a lot later and it needs to run it's course. She is figuring out exactly what she can get/manipulate from her father and what she can't. It will continue until checked.

branh0913 ?..What part of immature and what catfight did I ever engage in with her? What are your reading? I am talking about my concern to the stress that she is putting on her Dad.

We talk, we are a couple and it bothers me to see him stress over her disrespect to him. If you have read, it has been going on for 2 yrs, but lately she is putting me in whatever issues they go through that is all I was saying. There is not control, where and how you are making these presumptions. I will never come between family I have no need; I encourage her Dad to have patients with his daughter. And trust me my man sees no pettiness when it comes to me. I'm educated have a excellent career and personally I would be careful before you make perceptions on what you think is the real deal.

I needed to vent and that is all; you are taking it to a whole other level, with the fights and coming between the two. There is nothing petty of my man stressing over what he does not deserve and I am and will continue to be a support system for him. Maybe I can hook you up with his daughter up sounds as if you both make a great couple. Then maybe she will not worry about our relationship she can focus on hers.

He perceives me to be this female that is being controlled in a relationship. And what if I were young like he stated early 20's. I'm not but if I were that makes a difference. I don't know about his girls but I have always had my shit together. Personally, any man dating a woman to control over them is weak and I do not date weak men.

In addition, being educated with a great career and no one caring means nothing to me. I'm proud of myself. As far as me writing for concern of others, now you are talking about something totally out of my league.

?Early 20's being petty around the age?

That is to say that are the girls he dated. He could not get any better. I know plenty of females in their early 20's that have it together. Comments like that show me you live to make perceptions.

Funny DC!

So what all are the sun signs here??

?So what all are the sun signs here—

I'm not sure what you mean by this. Please explain?

wats ur zodiac sign. Wats ur bf's and his daughters—

I am a Libra Bf sign Aquarius and daughter Libra. As of now, I am so over her for now that is. I have decided that no one is worth the trouble. My BF and I have decided that it is not me and my age. I recently found out that she was the same with his X, who was close to his age. Therefore, I take one day at a time.

Young libras raise hell when something, or they percieve something to be wrong in their life. I know, I did A LOT of hell raising. A lot, as in, I am lucky to be a free man.

This is going to be a pain in the ass because NEITHER of you are likely to be able to get the mental upper hand on the other, unless your experience weighs in heavy as we are clever, clever creatures. Just as the Aquarius is, and if it is any indicator, my father was the same way with my sister, she was infalible in his eyes and gave her what ever she needed/wanted similar to this situation. It might help to consider you and her as very, very similar people because you are even though this situation is not going to make you want to admit it. It is not the what, it is the why.

Libra woman vs. Libra woman

*sippin vodka while eating popcorn*

This will definitely be a challenge for the both of you. One of you will have to compromise and agree to disagree in a respectable and tactful manner. Maybe its just me but this seems territorial.

Yeah the fact you have the same sun sign is going to be a real challenge. Air signs most formidable challenge across the board is othe air signs.

* Maybe its just me but this seems territorial.

Nope. I think you hit it on the nose there LP.

* Air signs most formidable challenge across the board is othe air signs.

I totally disagree. I have a horde of Libra friends. One even shares me birthday. I even live happily with another Libra and have for a year now. My oldest friends are Aquarius.

Water is the biggest challenge to me. Too much water in a chart and I just blink at them. It is like they speak another language completely. I have no way of relating and they have no way of relating to me.

LS, I don't think its to say that Libra/Libra can't be friends. Its just that when they disagree, they can have quite a mental battle. My best friends are Libras and we agree on most everything. I've had one Libra enemy and we just about killed each other. One has to compromise, or bad blood will go on forever. It takes maturity to be the bigger person. Of course, this is all based on background and life lessons.

Just my 49 1/2 cents.

* Its just that when they disagree, they can have quite a mental battle.

awwww! gottcha.

I dunno. There is only one Libra I met who I didn't like. She was a nasty bit of business. That was a long time ago and we were both a bit immature. When we were in our mid-twenties. 😉

For years, I couldn't even hear her name without flying into a rage. She really got me.

I find the whole situation kind of funny now. Hindsight is a blessing. I would have probably handled the whole thing differently now. In fact, the whole thing probably wouldn't even bother me now. The things you learn eh?

Sorry for the total sidetrack there. lol!

QS

Even if he DID want her ... he is still an messy drama king. This guy is just not a good place to hang her heart. No stability at all.

Uhhh, LS, I think you posted to the wrong thread.

LMAO!

ughhhh yeah .... just ignore my comment to QS.

"I totally disagree. I have a horde of Libra friends. One even shares me birthday. I even live happily with another Libra and have for a year now. My oldest friends are Aquarius.

Water is the biggest challenge to me. Too much water in a chart and I just blink at them. It is like they speak another language completely. I have no way of relating and they have no way of relating to me."

I completely agree with you. I was referring to adversarial situations. Being against another air sign is when what I said comes into effect.

My best friend is a Libra; I totally get along with other Libras. ----?Well some of them?, as with any sign. I just wish his daughter were not so nice to me when she first was introduced and for some time after as well. She had motives and I am clever enough to know this. The problem is not with me. I'm mature enough to know this. The problem is that she wants her dad in a rocking chair baby-sitting her son with no life only an extensions to hers. His family sees this as well. She is a piece of work. I let him know that what she is doing is trying to place me in a competition. We all know that is something that I will always be on the losing team. I will never place myself in such a competition. I do know that he has to learn to separate us on two very different levels. FYI his daughter created the same destruction in his past relationship.

Its just a bit complicated till one of you break the ice successfully than holding to their own pride. You give her your best smile and ask her what you need to do to see her happy. Whine a bit about the neighbors to her. You know the rest. 😉

I would love to but she is impossible. I just rather stay away from her and smile if I have to cross paths with her. I don't trust her and she has done so much to keep me from her dad and her tactics are so lame.. At this point, I give up. I rarely give up on anyone but there is more that I cannot share because some will say and you're still dealing with this man. I cannot take out what she does on him but she is a hand full.