Libran Re-invention Explained?

Hey you all 🙂 Yes, yes, I know I've been a little quiet lately but here goes....

I have noticed a HUGE (enormous) change in my Libran (in many ways and all of a sudden) and for all you LIbrans who understand yourselves LOL (gawd, can ya— coz we can't), is it possible to explain what goes on when you "re-invent" yourselves?

I've noticed:
* A more outgoing man
* No longer spends countless hours on singles sites YAYAYAYAYAYAY
* Having his mates from before I met him over (before this he was a loner)
* Being more assertive with his ex (seems to be getting over her ruling him)
* Actually gets things done!!! No more procrastinating
* Is making decisions - wow!!!
* More time for moi (have been in contact every day for the last week woohoo)

Maybe its my imagination but he's just doing a complete and utter turn around which is really good - does this class as a re-invention? As LIBRA said, he may be getting out of his misery and into his happy place?

Nothing has changed with us except for the daily contact (which in itself is really good)...Im waiting for him to go silent again LOL

Whatchya think? is there more good stuff to look forward when a Libran changes for the better?? Im so relieved he's doing all the above....the smile on his face lately is yummo!!!

Oh yeah and he called me "BABE" the other night *dances around with delight*

hehehehe.....I think he's actually shocking himself with how he's being around me, not to mention shocking me!!! (in a good way) LOL

Yes, I know, I normally come here to complain, whinge, whine, sulk, yada yada....Im here to smile today 🙂

Oh lordy, what a ride!!! wouldn't change it for the world *laffs*

Re-invention maybe, realization definately.

Re-invention to me means to change the direction in one or more primary aspects of my life. This would fit possibly as you are becomming or have become one of the primary aspects of his life. Re-invention to me most clearly is changing the way I live my life and the goals I am attempting to reach.

To answer your question pertaining to how it works, I will over simplfy it because an incredible hunger is draining my mental energy at the moment.

The process begins at conemplating the subjective. We realize that we are analyzing the things that we want and desire, going back and forth like a gold miner using his sifter (the world around us) to reduce acres of earth until gold is discovered (objective truth). It is when all of this "sifting" reveals basic undeniable truth in the how, why, where and when that it becomes re-invention. When the subjective (inspiration) can be filtered to reveal the objective (reason) and it all lines up with the desire is when we emerge in a sudden fit of motivated change.

We don't start and stop, we curve our way around the world as we see it until the most ideal, ideal is discovered. Our re-invention is calculated realization that we need to change our direction to reach that ideal. The bigger one, the external one that is our "cause" that makes all of the other ideals leading up to it self evident.

That was supposed to be short, yeah, it's complicated. 😉

This is what causes us to be described as elitists by astrologers. were not looking for "the way" were looking for the "best way" and that requires a lot of mental energy.

wow!!! I have to read that several times I think....thanks Nic!!

As always, something to "think" about 🙂

Go eat!!!!!

Ahhh, this is why i like Nic...

Awww thank you.

Everybody likes NIc!!! How could they not?? sheesh!!

Hmmm well my LIbra came around yesterday afternoon (to collect something he left behind the other day)....he said "this give me visiting rights" with one of his smiles...WTF— I said "you don't need a reason to visit"......he just gave me one of those looks as if to say "really?"....sheesh!!!! Talk about insecure!!!

He is so mine!!!

*head hurts* nic' sure has it in the mental depth department. Wow. We Aries DON'T reinvent ourselves----maybe we should!

"He is so mine!!! "

Like the lion and the gazelle, he put up his fight in the beginning, kicked and bucked when you got ahold of him and now he has no choice but to come to terms with his fate at the paws of the lioness. lol.

"*head hurts* nic' sure has it in the mental depth department. Wow. We Aries DON'T reinvent ourselves----maybe we should!"

Or maybe us Libras should just stick to something 😛 I can see how this drives people crazy, and makes us seem insecure. So I can make fun of myself too. At the bottom of it insecurity really has nothing to do with it, rather an idealistic drive for the best possible outcome.

If you see a libra who is completely content with everything then they are old, wise and accomplished or something is wrong.

""He is so mine!!! "

Like the lion and the gazelle, he put up his fight in the beginning, kicked and bucked when you got ahold of him and now he has no choice but to come to terms with his fate at the paws of the lioness. lol"

OH YEAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! *giggles*

Chatz - good stuff!

If he's just come out of his misery then build him up by turning a blind eye on the misery and never hihglight or question the bad. Not now.

If you quietly support him and not call him on the things you don't understand, you can help him get his confidence back. Whatever has hurt him in the past has affected him deeply. Show him that he rocks your world.

Libra

***Or maybe us Libras should just stick to something I can see how this drives people crazy, and makes us seem insecure. So I can make fun of myself too. At the bottom of it insecurity really has nothing to do with it, rather an idealistic drive for the best possible outcome.***

As decisive as LP seems, he mentioned this exact thing to me the other day.

Thanks guys...I think you might be right...he kinda wore his heart on his sleeve a bit on Sunday afternoon when he visited...very rare for him...I didn't know what to say but just listened to what he said (it was re: his family - think he's embarassed over them a LOT lol)...I reminded him that every family has its fair share of black sheep/tossers (as he put it) and alikes...dunno if it was wrong not to say much but I didnt know what to say...guess I was just shocked that he came to me with it all.

"I remember when "I" decided Mr. Scorpio did have my best interests in mind, I really was testing him to say the least. I think I gave him EVERY reason to not invest his time in me in the beginning. I was over my divorce, but to fall in love again, that was an entirely different set of rules" Hmmmm I think I've been through all those tests well and truly as well....talk about learning patience and understanding...my life will never be the same LOL....that's a GOOD thing I've learnt through knowing him - used to live my life a little too fast, didn't really think about things too much before attempting...its all good I think 🙂

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If you quietly support him and not call him on the things you don't understand, you can help him get his confidence back. Whatever has hurt him in the past has affected him deeply. Show him that he rocks your world" Yeah Im good at that...I try really hard not to bring up things that will upset him (as above, I just sat there and listened)...hope that was right.

Things are going to be ok - he's not going anywhere...he's proven that over the past 7 months....I think Im getting under his skin LOL

xx

"As decisive as LP seems, he mentioned this exact thing to me the other day."

"seem" I am very decisive. Sometime, maybe all the time. Maybe I'm not, well, I think I am. I am and thats it.....sometime. LOL

I am very decisive. But sometimes others put doubt in my mind.

Ahhhh yes welcome to another week of work......yes, yes, I know...you're still on Sunday!!! Im trying to step off cloud 9 as I saw my Libra last night...OMG is all I can say again LOL.

Just thought I'd share!! As usual, he surprises me everytime I see him...he just lets a little bit more of himself out and he initiates the affection now (before he was all shy and waited for my first moves), and all the cutesy names...yeah, yeah, I know...vomit, vomit, vomit LOL......Im having fun and this morning I said to him that I don't see him often enough and he just plain old came out with..."well what days this week would you like?"...sheesh!!! Its all too easy now and I think he shocks himself with what he says and does (acts) lately......slowly the caterpillar is turning into a butterfly *laffs* Mind you he also mentioned the ex again and how much of a bitch she was...that was a mood killer but I said nothing...just let him vent!! obviously there is still underlying issues with that situation but hell, what can ya do?? she aint with him, I am LOL.

LIfe is good...how's everybody else going over yonder??

ouch a Libra discharging— ouch!!! THAT has got to hurt...whoah!!

THAT is one thing I do not look forward to ever seeing mine do....he is 6'5, has a loud voice when he does use it...OMG I would run for cover!!!

PS...I hope you made up again!!!!

;( 😢 😢 Missing my Libra desperately.....

"If you have a leebra you really have a great partner, even if we are damaged. If we even let you come close to us, you have us. No fooling" I can see that...but no r/ship is perfect and its constant work to keep it alive - that's the fun part 🙂 Must admit, Im having a really fun time with him now 🙂

"Of course we made up... I mowed the lawn and he was hiding in the grass" OMG that's hilarious!!!!


";( Missing my Libra desperately....." *hugs for QS* It won't be long and we'll be reading all about how great things are with LP....we'll all be envious of course!!! Enjoy the peace QS - that's what you always told us to do LOL....*hides from LP's shoe throwing*...hehehehe.

"As decisive as LP seems, he mentioned this exact thing to me the other day."

There are some things that will spark our decisiveness. Or rather, maybe it is better said this way, we hold specific truths to be self-evident and if a question arises regarding that issue then we come across as extremely decisive because te answer is already made.

Also, there are a lot of instances where we are actually really indecisive but others see us as the opposite, very decisive. the indecisivness is kept below the surface until the decision is made, so the indecisiveness is never really seen by those around us. We will dwell on an issue that no one is privy to but us and then when our mind is made up we take action, all anyone else sees is the taking action.

I have a lot of friends that describe me as very intuitive, self assured and decisive. If they only knew lol. We seek advice in weird ways too, we will rant about something which will spark an opinion from someone else and we are actually disecting it as it comes out...getting advice from it without the other person knowing. This keeps us from seeming unsure.

I think it is a Libra goal to be decisive in the end. Guys like LP who have some life experience and their stuff together are going to be well down that path. The age that Libra represents is exactly the common age range of the mid life crisis. Putting that into perspective the whole Libra re-invention thing becomes a lot clearer.

Every Libra I know weather outwardly displayed or not has a really nervous sense of urgency about their life. Everything needs to be accomplished ASAP and we hold ourselves to becomming as good as possible at something as fast as possible. This makes others percieve us as show offs and it really has nothing to do with it. we have a sub-concious feeling of running out of time or taking to long to accomplish something. I have done and seen a lot more than most my age and I feel as though I am dragging my feet. Even when we are lazing about we are comming up with elaborate schemes inside our head to leap frog to the next level in whatever we are interrested in. This is one of the reasons we are not good at "following the plan", we see opportunies or variables change along the way and we change with it.

As always, an inspirational post Nic!!

***";( Missing my Libra desperately....." *hugs for QS* It won't be long and we'll be reading all about how great things are with LP....we'll all be envious of course!!! Enjoy the peace QS - that's what you always told us to do LOL....*hides from LP's shoe throwing*...hehehehe.***


LOL! Chatz, yes our next vacation trip is to a cabin get away in Gatlanburg, will hot tubs, pools loft cabins, in the mountains.... Yay!!!

Seriously, there is no peace without him!

Well here's the update we all didnt wanna see I guess.

It seems his majesty's re-invention has indeed made my LIbran friend a little more happier and even adventurous than I thought. Last night we were chatting after not having communicated for almost a week...we do the obligatory how are you's and what have you been up to and he says "I got stood up on Saturday night"...I jokingly said "what? she stood you up for a romantic dinner?" he replied "she is from interstate, it wasn't a planned meeting as such, just friends catching up but the weird thing is now she's back interstate again..a weird feeling"....I just wrote back "I don't want to hear/read about your dates with other women"...he replied "but it wasn't one though, shall we change the subject?"....needless to say it was coldish from thereon.

This morning I sent him a text after having spent yet one more sleepless night on him "Done a lot of thinking&its not healthy for me to have feelings for a man who seem me merely as an upaid hooker whilst continually searching for others. Ive done this for almost 8 months and I deserve better so please let me hurt, let me heal and let me go cos you dont want me&im sure you have plenty to take my place...its been fun but its really starting to hurt now...take care of you xx"

I knew I would somewhat regret it but it had to be done.

Anyway 3 hours later he replied "Hello (my name) Firstly let me say I do not think of you as an unpaid hooker. I actually think that you're a really nice woman and im really sorry if i have made you feel that way. Seriously I do apologise. I can see how you could feel and I have been selfish to let it go on. I haven't been actively looking either but I can't be something that Im not ready to be. It would just end in disaster and then that really wouldn't be fair on you. I have to be ready to once again dive in head first and at the moment I know im not ready for that. Im dipping my big toe in the water and its bloody freezing. I dont have a list of people to take your place and in time I will probably regret not being more serious with you but this is me at the moment. Im really sorry. I will delete contacts etc as you're right it is not fair on you. Take care (my name) you deserve better x"

Wow, I must have meant a hell of a lot to be deleted!!! There's my answer....I feel even worse to be forgotten THAT easy 😢 Anyway that's it...time for me to do as I said, hurt, heal and be free.

Oh and since I sent the text (and yes I've been stupid enough to check) he's been on his singles sites constantly (during working hours). tomorrow he is meant to be coming to my work to try to get his foot in the door of selling his stuff...he wouldn't have even got a look in had I not set it up 😢 What sort of a fool am I you ask? one who is in love with a man who is totally unavailable....yup, the biggest fool.

Ahwell too late now...Im sure he'll do well selling his stuff here at my work and in time we will have forgotten one another.

Thank you to you all who have tried to help me with advice.....it just wasn't meant to be

*** can't be something that Im not ready to be. It would just end in disaster and then that really wouldn't be fair on you. I have to be ready to once again dive in head first and at the moment I know im not ready for that. Im dipping my big toe in the water and its bloody freezing. I dont have a list of people to take your place and in time I will probably regret not being more serious with you but this is me at the moment. Im really sorry. I will delete contacts etc as you're right it is not fair on you. Take care (my name) you deserve better x"***

Chatz, sorry to hear this, definitely sounds familiar, sort of. I thought he expressed exclusivity? Where did that fit in in this equation?

I know I have been mentioning all along that it didn't seem he was ready and that he was in the space as you were, but I am glad he finally told you straight out. I know it is painful, but it always better to move on when someone isn't ready, no matter how bad we want them to be.

Libras are the total oposite when they are sure about how they feel about you and that they want you. If they aren't sure about themselves, then it impossible for them (or anyone) to be sure about someone else...

Again, I am sorry to hear that. 😢 ***Hugs***

If I had to explain why I reinvent myself is to make things more interesting. I also have the need to shock people and be unpredictable or I'm totally whipped and changing for the love of my life(no that can't be it, can it?). I guess its a libra trait to completely change for the person they love because thats who we are, we LOVE partnerships and usually are willing to do anything to make it work as long as were comfortable with it.

relationships suck...

amen, sister.

*** I guess its a libra trait to completely change for the person they love because thats who we are, we LOVE partnerships and usually are willing to do anything to make it work as long as were comfortable with it.***

This is a true libran trait.

Yeah well he's just nowhere near that...in fact, he even said he's very selfish right now but can't help himself...whatever!!

I replied to his last text and said "geeze its a bit harsh deleting me entirely" and he replied back within a couple of minutes this time "I thought that is what you wanted"....then this morning first thing he called and we talked for 20 minutes...he NEVER CALLS!!!!!

We've decided to be friends for now...he said "I don't want to lose you but Im not ready right now...I also understand I can't ask you to hold on for me as you deserve better but perhaps in time, we might get a second chance"....he's right, I can't hold on...I am at peace right now coz I don't lose my friend...its sad but its ok too. I don't expect to talk/email/sms/see him too much in the next few months - we both need time now and of course he'll keep himself busy on his sites....maybe, just maybe he'll realise what has walked away in that respect but I won't hold my breath LOL

People, I am going to date again...if Im worth it, he will find a way to come and get me (that's if he can get past his own depression)..Im sure one day it'll just fall into place for him, but I won't stop living...he's aware of this too - tis all ok 🙂

Just glad I sent that last text as that troubled me a lot him deleting me...never thought I'd be treated like that no matter who was at fault. I don't blame him for being him and the way he is...it was me who didnt want to let go.

Up and on 🙂
xx

Chatz, great attitude and you are correct.