do librans confuse friendship and love?

is that one factor why they are indecisive if they want someone or not? = )

usually they can't figure love even if it hits them between the eyes.

*figure out

Funny but it is true. I guess I can attest to that being a Libra myself.

This is actually a really complicated question as I have a tendency to "fall in love" with my friends male, female, animal, plant. lol! But I am able to seperate romantic attachment from friendship. Just because I love you doesn't mean I will be with you or see you as a suitable partner at all. I think this is where people get confused about our intentions. We love you but don't want you for ourselves.

As I have gotten to know myself and what I need from a romantic relationship, I try to assess who is a sutable partner and who isn't based on those needs. Part of it is I am looking for an equal, someone who matches me, is compatible with me, but basically it comes down to ..."Can I be loyal to this person?" If I can't be loyal to you, for whatever reason, I will not have a romantic relationship with you. I may date you for awhile till I figure it out but usually I just know if it will work for me or not within minutes of meeting someone. Sometimes I wish it would work but know it won't.

But on the upside, your libra friend probably sees you in a light that no one else does and loves you wholeheartedly. I have so many male friends who I completely love and adore and would set up with anyone but who aren't right *for me*. One just recently started dating this very nice girl who I equally adore and I was all teary-eyed I was so genuinely happy for both of them. He is a phenominal "good" man and she is a wonderful, fun, creative woman. But he wasn't right for me, I wasn't right for him, and we would never have been happy together, but I can see them being happy together for a lifetime.

I hope this makes sense. lol!

Libras will love you completely and adore you completely ... but that doesn't mean you are right for each other.

i see sparrow... that makes sense

it's quite sad to know when you'll realize you aren't meant for each other even though the chemistry seemed so right =c

((it's quite sad to know when you'll realize you aren't meant for each other even though the chemistry seemed so right))

Chemistry might look right when you are blind with lust and passion. The capacity to see through those false promises is what brightens your future.

Totally agree with LS and thelibran. Libras love on many levels that others are not capable of. A trait I have learned from them. It is okay to love and not be "in love" with that person. Librans can be the best friends you ever have. They seem to know when a person is "right" for them early on. However like LS said sometimes they go through a back and forth when figuring it out. Once they do figure it out. Take them for their word. Not what you want it to be.

Good luck.

Librians are very INDECISIVE. But not because they are social morons or are insecure. Libras love harmony & can't stand confrontation. They hate to hurt others feelings & sometimes would rather stay with you & create a situation for you to stray from them versus them just plain out walk away from you out of fear of you resenting them forever. Libras know they are charming & know they attract alot of attention & have the atitude of being friends and being social with everyone. They are the types that will cuddle with you, take you out, enjoy being around you but that doesn't necessarily mean that they want YOU to be their life partner. The problem is they are normally attractive, so they're quite use to attention & flattery, and when you come along, you appear to be just like all the others. In order for a Libra to point YOU out in a crowd of a million people who feel the same way about them you have to show them your independent side, the side that flatters them one minute, but then lets them know at the same time that they have the strength to walk away from them too. Libras in the first stage of love or relationships need to feel like the person is not shy to openely express their feelings for them, even if they know deep down they can't do that for you. But a big turn on for a Libra is for them to see that while you like them, you can still keep your self-dignity & walk away from them with the infamous "You're not all that!" phrase, which in general for any sign reverses the role, which would end up in the Libra actually chasing you! Libras like to be chased for the most part but once they find themselves chasing YOU, then that's when YOU will clearly stick out from all the others. One, because they will ask themselves why they are chasing YOU and not the others. And two, because they rarely chase others, which would in turn make it hard for them to deny any kind of feelings for you. Even when Libras can't make up their minds, make sure you stay within reach of them just in case they end up picking YOU in the end. Don't disappear & run away from a Libra in times when they confuse you b/c in the Libra mind, they are not seeing it the way you do, they are seeing it as they need to analyze everything & make sure they are making the right decision (which is a justifiable reason for them to be indecisive). Once a Libra feels like you've quit chasing them, they will quickly eliminate you as a possible option.

*whew* complicated. deja vu.

Sounds like a lot of work..When you could be spending time with someome who is decisive and knows who and what they want...

***Even when Libras can't make up their minds, make sure you stay within reach of them just in case they end up picking YOU in the end. Don't disappear & run away from a Libra in times when they confuse you b/c in the Libra mind, they are not seeing it the way you do, they are seeing it as they need to analyze everything & make sure they are making the right decision (which is a justifiable reason for them to be indecisive). Once a Libra feels like you've quit chasing them, they will quickly eliminate you as a possible option.***

I disagree. You should never wait around for anyone to decide. Especially when you know your worth. I also find they get frantic when they think you are out of reach and will relentlessly look for you to be sure you still care.