gemini girl madly in love with libra mail

we met on net,exchanged mails, phone calls and texts for three months .we live in different countries .My man told me that he is very sympathetic , caring , loving mail who strongly dislikes lies , cheating and fake people .I trust him and shared even my intimate stuff with him .Recently i detected some of his lies but didn't show him that i know about his lies .A few days back we met and got engaged to be married in a few months .He had suggested we go to some place together to know each other better as we would not be meeting for months after that .But when the moment came recently after our engagement , he went there with his relatives and didn't tell me at all about his tour .I was waiting for his call .I came to know accidently that he had altready left for his trip .I am so badly hurt about his uncaring , cold and strange behaviour .Why did he lie ? How could he forget that i trusted him and was waiting to meet him after three months of distant affair ?Are librans so insnsitive to their loved on's feelings ? Should i look ahead for a happy and fufilling relatioship with him ? I cry a lot over this .Plz suggest something .

OMG. This is strange. Seems like we are gettin to know abt the weird sides of libran men lately. I shud chk if I hav any of those weird nature hidden somewhere. 😢 Gemini girl, dont cry so much. Ask him what happened and wait till he replies before you start crying.

i am afraid of loosing him cuz if i ask him anything about his strange behaviour he tells me to stop being insecure .
In his mails ,calls and texts he seemed to be dying to take me in his arms but after engagement , he showed no such signs .I thought may be he is with his family after long and that i should give him space , but didn't he know that promises were made by him .I just wanted that he should have atleast informed about me about his changed schedule or that he wanted to go out with his family , i would not have got hurt but concealing things and then expecting love and trust from me ? I still love him despite all that
Earlier also he stopped talking to me , that too after telling me that he loves me very much .After ten days when i had lo9st every hope of his coming back to me , he again started mailing me and saying sorry and that he was thinking about our relationshaip .He told me that he was not seeing anyone else and i trust him .
My worry is that if he continues his off and on behaviour after marriage what will i do .

"A few days back we met and got engaged to be married in a few months".

Lovelorn this should be some of the happiest days of your life - you are just engaged, you should be on cloud 9! But what's happening, already after so short a time, you are all cried out! over this guy - not a good start to any relationship

And why oh why, are you getting to engaged to someone after only knowing them 3 months? I know sometimes love can happen fast and furious, but hey, to get to know someone and be ready to marry them, for me anyway, would take a full year or more.
What countries exactly do you come from? Is this an arranged marriage or something? If you met on the net, then probably not. And why can't you be together for the next few months to get to know one another before the big day—? Is this a culture thing?

"Recently i detected some of his lies but didn't show him that i know about his lies" - you know yourself, then and there, you should have confronted this guy and asked him does he practice what he is preaching...and if so, then what's the story with his lies? You missed "a turning-point" moment or opportunity there.

I don't wish to be a "bubble-burster" for you or anyone.....but I am thinking alarm bells should be ringing loudly, sirens blaring and screaching in your head.....it's not a good set-up, the whole scene as you yourself have painted it points to the "danger-zone", in my humble opinion.

What can you do about it?
You meet, talk face to face, heart to heart.
If you are not satisfied 200% with his behaviour, actions and words, then it's time for you to say adios and bail out - an engagement is meant to be just that - to "engage" one another - it's not happening for you in any way.
If you are happy with him after your face-to-face, then fair enough.
But as things stand presently, only a "rose-coloured tinted fool" could see a rosy future ahead for you.

Don't be a fool for anyone....take the initiative.....find the power within to do what you have to do and don't let your "madly in love" be "badly in love" for Mr. Libra.

Good luck lovelorn.

Alana x

Why are you marrying a man you do not know? You cannot get to know someone *over the net*. You can only get to know them by watching them in real life.

You are in love with a fantasy not the man.

Everytime I met a gemini girl over the net, it was intoxicating. I could hardly manage to get some time for myself and was chatting for more than 12 hrs everyday. I guess something has got into his head inbtween. You can freely question this libran guy without a slightest worry of loosing him. Sometimes it can even get a bit violent but a gemini girl is always a macho man living inside a girls body. so you know how to handle. Ask direct questions and be yourself. Tell him you want to find another guy if he is not interested in you or not loving you. Or try to find out wats happening with his life. Libran guys hardly need any space since they are detached from even themselfs. So it cannot be space. Can be indecisiveness. Might be worrying too much if he just made a wrong decision by getting engaged.

I normally jumps and does something mainly to tweak my indecisiveness and later worry for long time like aries wondering if i did the right thing or not.

thanx every one over there , for giving valuable suggestions .I talked to my man today and he explained the whole situation .I know he too loves me but , u r right 'thelibran' , he sometimes start wondering whether we are really so much in love and when he realizes that he too can't live without me ,he apologises without hesitation for causing hurt to me .I think , i should be more patient with him .He is speeding up the immigration stuff so that we do not have to live away frm each other for long .
I just want to know what pleases libra guys and what annoys them ? He never tells me about this .Every time i ask him he simply says nothing surprises , annoys or shocks him as he had been hurt in his earlier marriage .

That is probably true. A Libra in love who has chosen you as their life partner, is pretty accepting. They will twist themselves into a pretzel in an effort to please you and they won't give up until left with no option. If what you want is not in integrity with what the Libra is and wants, it can get messy and the Libra will lose all balance.

Just convincing us that you are our life partner is the hard part.

And you can't expect us to accept too much or we go from devoted, devoted, devoted to someone else like that. (snaps fingers)

"They will twist themselves into a pretzel in an effort to please you and they won't give up until left with no option."

This is so true. Once committed, especially in marriage, libras really do bend over backsides to please and be considerate and caring. They are wonderful, I hope you got yourself one of those!

As a Male Libra I will have to agree with Little sparrow and lubenica.

Thanx every one .u know i have been with my man recently before he flew back to his country .We spent some quality time together and now i have no fears about loosing him .He told me that taking a decision is very difficult for him but onc he has dcided to be with me , that means he has analyzed almost very aspect of our relationship and he knows that we are going to be happy in each pthers company .

He is so calm , composed and cool .Haw .. who can escape from libran charm .

One thing more .He used to tell me to not have expectations from anyone if i want to stay happy , but during our talks he told me what he expect from me .I was more that happy that atleast he expects something from me .

U know guys i have already started making changes in my life style so that he is comfortable around me , when we are together.

any kind libran to tell me about the sexual habits , choices of librans . i mean i wanna know how can i please my libra man in bed ? all i know about u guys that u are romantic and passionate .

libran sexual habits—? we just love to have sex 24x7. and being a gemini u dont need to have any advance knowledge. do whatever u love to do. librans will just love it even if u find it stupid or silly or weird.

u r absolutely right thelibran , i too feel so .

GOOD LUCK WITH YOUR HUBBY~ I hope he is not using you to get a VISA or CITIZENSHIP because lol.. I know too many cases like that. 😉 Watch out. See if he still loves you, tell him not to get married for at least 4 years, you know? Or go to his country.. if he sticks around, then it's worth it and if he doesn't. Well you saved yourself a whole lot of trouble.

Wait a mintute? You're in love with Libra mail? Isn't that a Federal Offense?

we r not going to get married for some months and there is no such Visa or citizenship thing from his side .On the contrary i will move with him to his country .

You're in love with "mails" huh?
I have a post, mayeb you're interested?

lol, J/K