GeminiinimeG
@GeminiinimeG
15 Years
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Gemini woman, and Libra Male-R they made of STONE?
Posted by THEKingofLibra
Ugh you are smothering me with all these emo questions 😢
Emo? yes I maybe explained a bit too much, and I'm aware you Libras like when we just get to the point, so I'll reiterate
Why the HELL do you always Lie?
Why is it ok for YOU to flip out and it's not ok for me to flip out?
Why is it always a contest? like who does more around the house, who pays more bills, who is nicer to who, who asks more of the other one?
Why do you never give a CRAP about anything important, or is it just that you can't express it?
Why do you push people away, help them pack their bags, and call them a cab(not literally), and then as soon as the cab gets there you sweeten up and beg us not to leave?
Seriously lol that was HYSTERICAL... that's my problem... I am a Gemini ( takes A LOT to impress/entertain me) and Libras are just a ball of confusion and mystery- It drives us INSANE( In a sexy kinda way) I can't get enough! I hate it!!!!!
What do you think of a Gemini girl with a Libra man?
PS- I like Metal, Not Emo 😉
What do you think of a Gemini girl with a Libra man?
PS- I like Metal, Not Emo 😉
Why the HELL do you always Lie?
I try really hard not to lie. I hate being lied to so I tell the truth.
Why is it ok for YOU to flip out and it's not ok for me to flip out?
What are we flipping out about? I don't want any one to freak, but if there's a reason for it, it happens.
Why is it always a contest? like who does more around the house, who pays more bills, who is nicer to who, who asks more of the other one?
I never made this stuff a contest. I am very competitive but not about relationship stuff.
Why do you never give a CRAP about anything important, or is it just that you can't express it?
Important stuff is the only things I care about. What's for dinner? I really don't care. You have a problem and want to talk? What's up?
Why do you push people away, help them pack their bags, and call them a cab(not literally), and then as soon as the cab gets there you sweeten up and beg us not to leave?
If I packed your bags I'm done talking, I won't even be at the door. This sounds like he was waiting for you to stop it, when the cab shows up he freaks, sees its real and gets scared.
I try really hard not to lie. I hate being lied to so I tell the truth.
Why is it ok for YOU to flip out and it's not ok for me to flip out?
What are we flipping out about? I don't want any one to freak, but if there's a reason for it, it happens.
Why is it always a contest? like who does more around the house, who pays more bills, who is nicer to who, who asks more of the other one?
I never made this stuff a contest. I am very competitive but not about relationship stuff.
Why do you never give a CRAP about anything important, or is it just that you can't express it?
Important stuff is the only things I care about. What's for dinner? I really don't care. You have a problem and want to talk? What's up?
Why do you push people away, help them pack their bags, and call them a cab(not literally), and then as soon as the cab gets there you sweeten up and beg us not to leave?
If I packed your bags I'm done talking, I won't even be at the door. This sounds like he was waiting for you to stop it, when the cab shows up he freaks, sees its real and gets scared.
Posted by GeminiinimeG
any guy that's gonna smother me with affection is gonna BORE me quite quickly ...
Did you tell him this at one point?
It's a lot more than that Q, they been living together six years and engaged for three. There ain't no getting back in his good scale. He's just riding it out.
Posted by THEKingofLibra
Well..
1. I would fuck you, but I won't love you
2. I would get bored if you kept up this nagging shit. Live in the moment. If you have a stable job/career - that's great. Don't rub my nose in it. Don't compare yourself with me. You are not better than me even if most of the planet might see it that way.
3. If you want some changes, formulate it in your head. What is it that YOU want? Before you come bug me with it, formulate a plan, optimize the solution, and try to see what possible benefit might be in it for ME before you approach me with it. I.E lets say you want to have a kid. I don't. The end.
4. Sex = happiness = love. Unless I don't love you, then sex doesn't bring me happiness. Then I want someone else.
Once again, KoL with a rough delivery but making some good points.
Thanks Libra Sid!
He ALWAYS LIES, and says things like well I didn't want you to get upset, but I mean after 6 years? I should know how much he's getting paid, or when he gets laid off, or when he's unhappy.
We flip out about FINANCES, he is the WORST- we could be on the verge of eviction, and he'll spend his last 20 $ on something STUPID.
HE doesn't give a turd about anything- he genuinely doesn't- he sits there all the time like nothing is wrong, when SO MUCH is wrong-the issue is that he doesn't like talking about anything, EVER, he wont ask me if I need to talk, or even make me feel like he cares when it comes to conversing. He wants everything to remain as FAR from serious as possible, and say things like " it will be fine" or " stop worrying" and expect that to end the convo.
I do agree that he pushes me to see if i'll actually leave. That is true. but honestly i've done so much for this guy, he'd be stupid to let me leave.
He ALWAYS LIES, and says things like well I didn't want you to get upset, but I mean after 6 years? I should know how much he's getting paid, or when he gets laid off, or when he's unhappy.
We flip out about FINANCES, he is the WORST- we could be on the verge of eviction, and he'll spend his last 20 $ on something STUPID.
HE doesn't give a turd about anything- he genuinely doesn't- he sits there all the time like nothing is wrong, when SO MUCH is wrong-the issue is that he doesn't like talking about anything, EVER, he wont ask me if I need to talk, or even make me feel like he cares when it comes to conversing. He wants everything to remain as FAR from serious as possible, and say things like " it will be fine" or " stop worrying" and expect that to end the convo.
I do agree that he pushes me to see if i'll actually leave. That is true. but honestly i've done so much for this guy, he'd be stupid to let me leave.
Posted by LibraSid
It's a lot more than that Q, they been living together six years and engaged for three. There ain't no getting back in his good scale. He's just riding it out.
OMG +1
Posted by GeminiinimeG
We flip out about FINANCES, he is the WORST- we could be on the verge of eviction, and he'll spend his last 20 $ on something STUPID.
I'll admit, I am an irresponsible spender. I've always made more than enough money to pay whatever bills I had so I never worried about it. I'm far from rich but I never carried a lot of debt so it didn't matter. When I got married I used to drive her crazy with how I spent money so I let her take over the finances. She was a control freak anyway so that worked.
I also say "it'll be fine" and "don't worry" a lot but I back it up with plans. I am very easy going but I don't think some magic fairy fixes problems or anything. I break stuff down, see what I can change and what I can't. I'll do whatever it takes to get on the right path if there's a problem but after that I don't let it bug me. I'll take it one step at a time and don't let it overwhelm me.
Gem Girl.. I don't know how this is going to come out, so let me apologize in advance if anything I say is offensive to you, because that's not my ultimate goal. Buckle up, I talk a lot sometimes.
Libra is on his way out, and you can take THAT to the bank. He's just riding it out now. Right now, he's frozen in that frustrating indecision phase.. wrestling with choices, what to do, doesn't want to make the wrong decision. Something's very wrong in your relationship, but there's a lot of GOOD too.. so he CAN'T let go until he knows 110% that it's for the best... or until YOU make that choice FOR him. It's not that he doesn't love you.. six years, of course he loves you. But this isn't about love, exactly.. this is about a broken connection.
I could be WAY off (sometimes I am, though not usually).. but here's what I think... YOU are doing way, way too much in this relationship. Maybe a combination of your forceful, active personality, maybe some control issues, maybe that you picked up the slack because HE wasn't. Problem is, that's now set the tone of your whole relationship... you busting your tailfeathers to get everything done, to make everything good, and him sitting there like a lump, like a taker, just riding it out. I sense a lot of anger, frustration, and outright hostility in you (this has been going on so long, it's clearly eating you up inside!).. can't imagine what HE feels from you day to day while the pressure builds.. but can imagine what it's doing to him.. it's making it worse. He's shutting down and closing off.. the connection is broken... he's JUST as frustrated as you, you know.. you just express it differently. But what you don't realize is that YOU have ALSO closed off and shut him out. He lies to keep the peace, he sits like a lump to keep the peace. He knows something is very wrong.
I post a lot about male-female relationships, and a lot about Libra males in particular. I can't fix this for you, but I can give you a starting place to fix yourself. I recently posted A LOT to a girl about closing herself off out of fear, anger, etc.. read some of that https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/relationships-astrology/i-cant-decipher-what-libra-male-meant-help-2376040/ ...I have a ton more where that came from. But I'll mail you something, so look for it.
Libra is on his way out, and you can take THAT to the bank. He's just riding it out now. Right now, he's frozen in that frustrating indecision phase.. wrestling with choices, what to do, doesn't want to make the wrong decision. Something's very wrong in your relationship, but there's a lot of GOOD too.. so he CAN'T let go until he knows 110% that it's for the best... or until YOU make that choice FOR him. It's not that he doesn't love you.. six years, of course he loves you. But this isn't about love, exactly.. this is about a broken connection.
I could be WAY off (sometimes I am, though not usually).. but here's what I think... YOU are doing way, way too much in this relationship. Maybe a combination of your forceful, active personality, maybe some control issues, maybe that you picked up the slack because HE wasn't. Problem is, that's now set the tone of your whole relationship... you busting your tailfeathers to get everything done, to make everything good, and him sitting there like a lump, like a taker, just riding it out. I sense a lot of anger, frustration, and outright hostility in you (this has been going on so long, it's clearly eating you up inside!).. can't imagine what HE feels from you day to day while the pressure builds.. but can imagine what it's doing to him.. it's making it worse. He's shutting down and closing off.. the connection is broken... he's JUST as frustrated as you, you know.. you just express it differently. But what you don't realize is that YOU have ALSO closed off and shut him out. He lies to keep the peace, he sits like a lump to keep the peace. He knows something is very wrong.
I post a lot about male-female relationships, and a lot about Libra males in particular. I can't fix this for you, but I can give you a starting place to fix yourself. I recently posted A LOT to a girl about closing herself off out of fear, anger, etc.. read some of that https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/relationships-astrology/i-cant-decipher-what-libra-male-meant-help-2376040/ ...I have a ton more where that came from. But I'll mail you something, so look for it.
Basically, you took the reigns and unmanned him.. and now you're pissed that you're holding the reigns.. and he's not being The Man. Why would he try to take the reigns back? You're doing SUCH a good job being The Man, and it seems to be what you want. (But OMG, it is SOOO fucking up your relationship!) I get it, I do.. we women get so damned FRUSTRATED when the man isn't stepping up and doing that manly stuff.. and with those people-pleasing but rather passive and VERY indecisive Libra men especially.. we finally get fed up and go, "THIS is how it's done!" and we do it. And we keep doing it. And he does less, so we do more, picking up the slack.. and getting more and more resentful all the time. And the Man (Libra lol) is baffled.. doesn't know WHAT to do, can't figure it out.. everything is just so tense and hostile and awful.. so he withdraws.. sits like a lump, playing games. After all, what can HE do about most of this? He has no clue, all the knows is everything he says or does is somehow WRONG and making things worse. So he withdraws more. He's waiting for YOU to decide what you want, cuz he's out of ideas. His hands are tied.
You want him to take the reigns back, you don't want them anymore. Problem is, you cannot simply hand them to him.. he'll look at them perplexed.. wtf is he supposed to do with THESE? So.. you have to DROP THE REIGNS.. and ALLOW him to pick them up. And if he CANNOT or WILL NOT pick them up... then maybe your relationship HAS run its course, and you need to decide if you want 6 years "wasted" turn into 12. (I say that tongue-in-cheek.. nothing is ever WASTED, not even relationships that have to end!)
Now you need to figure out exactly HOW to do that, HOW to give him back his Manly Power.. cuz you can't force it on him, you can't DEMAND he do it. Won't work. You have to INVITE him to do it.. INSPIRE him to pick them up and take an active role in your relationship. Because right now, your demands are falling on 90% deaf ears.. deafened from the screaming-silence created by your broken connection. You have to rebuild the connection, to get back to what drew you together in the first place.
Be proactive. You can't FIX him! YOU are the ONLY thing you have ANY control over. FIX YOU FIRST. Then see if HE is inspired to make changes of his own. And if he's not, by the time YOU are fixed, you will no longer feel STUCK THERE, and you will know whether or not your relationship can be saved. By then, you'll be okay with either.
You want him to take the reigns back, you don't want them anymore. Problem is, you cannot simply hand them to him.. he'll look at them perplexed.. wtf is he supposed to do with THESE? So.. you have to DROP THE REIGNS.. and ALLOW him to pick them up. And if he CANNOT or WILL NOT pick them up... then maybe your relationship HAS run its course, and you need to decide if you want 6 years "wasted" turn into 12. (I say that tongue-in-cheek.. nothing is ever WASTED, not even relationships that have to end!)
Now you need to figure out exactly HOW to do that, HOW to give him back his Manly Power.. cuz you can't force it on him, you can't DEMAND he do it. Won't work. You have to INVITE him to do it.. INSPIRE him to pick them up and take an active role in your relationship. Because right now, your demands are falling on 90% deaf ears.. deafened from the screaming-silence created by your broken connection. You have to rebuild the connection, to get back to what drew you together in the first place.
Be proactive. You can't FIX him! YOU are the ONLY thing you have ANY control over. FIX YOU FIRST. Then see if HE is inspired to make changes of his own. And if he's not, by the time YOU are fixed, you will no longer feel STUCK THERE, and you will know whether or not your relationship can be saved. By then, you'll be okay with either.
Posted by LibraSidPosted by Nefer
I talk a lot sometimes.
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Sometimes?
I'm an Aqua in disguise! lol
^ Effing wonky Quote function. :/
Posted by THEKingofLibra
Haven't fucked a Pisces in a while.. Yo Nefer, do you do pro bono work?
Awww... are you hitting on me? Can't decide if I'm flattered or aghast. Either way, you couldn't handle me. Trust me on that. Know what they say about women my age and sex? It's true. And I was an absolute terror to begin with. My poor Libra is looking a little haggard *wink*
The post was yet another Quote function fuck up 😛
You'd have to bring enough alcohol for me too... but I think "enough" and "too much" will inevitably overlap and I'll be comatose. But you'd probably like that too, you little freak 😛
You'd have to bring enough alcohol for me too... but I think "enough" and "too much" will inevitably overlap and I'll be comatose. But you'd probably like that too, you little freak 😛
.. however, please do use the unexpired condom. I'm not eager for you to leave anything behind as a "lasting impression" on me. Lube would be nice too. Kthx.
Posted by TasteOfChaos
Nefer, if you just lie back... you wont feel a thing 🙂
"You'll only feel a little prick, I promise!" *poke*
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