help again about my libra

So u mentioned before about my libra. Currently we are reaching the one year mark and i feel they arent that into me because we all know libras are the romance and action sign. So back yo my point here without having to go into too much detail. They are still friends with an ex but recently got depressed about them. I asked them back in june whats up with them because clearly u say ur just friends but yet u allow them to take hold of u and ur ex hit u put of feelings....i asked them if u guys are just friends why are they acting weird friends dont do that. Of course they got mad at me and said ibwas being jealous.....no im trying figure out whats going on before i invest alot of time..here we are almost year later. They recently daid the other day their ex cursed them out and my libra got all sad again...hmmm ok. Then they told me their ex said they cant be around them because kf how they make them feel and that they tried to kiss my libra.......so il trying to b cool about it and not say anything like ive done before because they feel i have no right to question them because we just dating etc.....not to mention my own issues with them me doing everything in my power to show them i care...they dont reciprocate so back in august i told them they didnt care in which my libra got mad at me for speaking the truth based on their actions....now this with ex...jan is our one year mark im trying be patient here because i do care for them, but i feel this isnt going to work because clearly this ex ur giving more attention than me....its sad because i feel the ones that r right for u u blow them off take them lightly...while still being hang up over an ex......this is my fault i know...i can always walk away and not deal with the bs....but i care....im trying give them benefit of doubt......and someone yelled at me on this post before i commented about walking away from libras.....well it will be for a reason here is the reason why i would walk away.....i dont feel appreciated....AND YES IVE TALKED TO THEM ABOUT THIS. They said im tripping....ive invested time money and love because im trying to fight for this person.....but i feel i dont deserve this ...but do u think im over reacting with ex.....should i not mention it..i question them before about this ex...and its a tocuhy topic where i look like bad guy.....im just sad right noe i know its my fault i have control of my happiness....just walk away...

I love your responses @luckylibra979 thanks its hard because my issue with me is i take alot of bs before i give up. I hate failing but the signs are so clear here 😢 im just sad i care so much its not fair to me

Communication is everything to me i want to talk about it again. I already know its going to b an argument and it shouldn't because they turn it on me loke7we just dating why i tripping my ex and i always be friends...then i say how long were u together and when u break up with them again? To gain clarity......i get backlash....now i have to prepare my approach so it wont b argument this is crazy but I allow it sigh

i don't know what the truth is but i would echo ll's sentiment and say walk away. regardless of the truth, you're not feeling secure and they are not doing much to reassure you. you feel the way you feel and that won't change. the bottom line is you don't trust them and you don't feel that your needs are being met. beyond that there is no relationship.

and dude, seriously, this medium relies on the written word. punctuation and grammar is your friend here (and yes, i realise this is hypocritical coming from someone who types like she is allergic to capital letters...) if you want people to understand you (and eventually help you), help them first by making yourself understandable.

Thanks @jeane sorry at work typing fast sorry for the errors. Your right hardest part is walking away. Everything you said is that simple. If they would just talk to me do i can understand better their situation with their ex i would be ok with it. When i bring it up its an issue. They r secretive about it and i see the signs how this ex still cares for them but they dont realize it hinders them being in a new relationship if yoi dont communicate or atleast keep the ex in check on a friend level.

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Thanks @jeane sorry at work typing fast sorry for the errors. Your right hardest part is walking away. Everything you said is that simple. If they would just talk to me do i can understand better their situation with their ex i would be ok with it. When i bring it up its an issue. They r secretive about it and i see the signs how this ex still cares for them but they dont realize it hinders them being in a new relationship if yoi dont communicate or atleast keep the ex in check on a friend level.

much better! i'm afraid my old brain is to blame. it struggles with any of this new fancy speak!

everything you've said indicates you've been reasonable in your attempt to sort this out. it might be that they may not be ready for the next relationship. if they are allowing their emotions to be affected by the ex then it seems they still have a lot invested there. certainly you don't deserve to hang around in the wings while they sort themselves out. if nothing else, its a waste of your time and to be on the end of a secretive partner? there is no reason for you to put up with that.

and you know, maybe giving them a cold hard dose of reality is the best thing you could do for them and your relationship. if you have something good then, maybe it will force themselves to deal with any residual feelings they may have.

I do aee a future i do want to be with them, but based on their actions i dont see they r that invested right now as jeane mentioned they seem to have ties with alot of issues and their ex than to see or take me serious. I have been financially emotionally and physically supportive and we r only dating @tiziani im doing my part but they r not which is why maybe its time to walk away idk 😢 i love them.

Posted by lovely77
I do aee a future i do want to be with them, but based on their actions i dont see they r that invested right now as jeane mentioned they seem to have ties with alot of issues and their ex than to see or take me serious. I have been financially emotionally and physically supportive and we r only dating @tiziani im doing my part but they r not which is why maybe its time to walk away idk 😢 i love them.

it's hard to walk away but you know, it's only hard for a period of time. what's harder is a continuing situation where you are being disrespected.