How do you libra men like to be loved?

I'm just really curious as to how you libra men like to be loved?

I feel like I'm doing everything wrong.
I'm letting my emotions get the better of me and its pushing away the guy I care about
I got confirmation from his friend saying that he does still care about me/like me just that he can't handle my emotions.
Its fair enough... I understand now. Its just incredibly difficult with me being a pisces. I'm all about emotions. and I do tend to allow them to rule me...

I just don't know how I'm supposed to show him that I care without coming across as emotional.
He then tends to shut down and ignore me for a while... which makes me crazy.

I'm learning to step back and give him his space...
but I just want to know how am I supposed to express myself to him without scaring him away?

I am not a libra man, but i am in a relationship with one and have been for 3 plus yrs. He is also has a very objective way of going about things which sometimes chaps my ass, lol. I am more emmotional and subjective, when I let the better of my emotions get to me, what I FEEL is more important than what I THINK. I like the fact that I am an emmotional person accept for the fact that I sometimes let the emmotion get the better of me and say things that I don't really mean. I work to improve that but sometimes slip... Thank god we have learned to comprimise with eachother a little and we are able to see the other persons point of veiw even if we dont agree. The ingredience of a mature relationship.

Lets take the fact that you are a pisces out of the equation, YOU have the power to be what you want to be, whether your a pisc, a sag, a libra, ect. I think our signs tell us what we tend to do if left unchecked but we have the power in our lives and we choose who we want to be, we all have the power of choice.

The important question here is do you really want to change the fact that you are "over emmotional" to fit the mold of someone who may not be right for you? If he is not willing to accept you for the person that you are today, he may not be right for you. Really ask yourself, do I generally like that I am an emmotional person? If the answer is yes, then stick with who you are and find someone who accepts and loves you for you. If the answer is no, i dont like it, then work on finding techniques that will help you react less emmotionally. Maybe before you feel that twinge of reaction, take a deep breath and a step back and try to look at things from a birdseye prospectve. Take some time to THINK about the situation before you re act.

The trouble of trying to change yourself to catch someone is that you will never be happy, you are always going to be on your toes wondering if the other person finds your every move acceptable or not thinking "oh, god, did I react right, did I say that right, is this person going to hate me now, ect" and that my dear is no fun at all as I am sure you are well aware. I feel for you and I know that reading this you may be in a bit of denile, because your Feelings for this man are probably clouding your judgment. I have been there, you just want so bad for this guy to like you the same as you like him...Just remember be true to yourself and your values before ever trying to please someone else and You will

come out on top 🙂

Much love my emmotional sister and good luck to you in this life lesson.

Posted by angeleyes


The important question here is do you really want to change the fact that you are "over emmotional" to fit the mold of someone who may not be right for you? If he is not willing to accept you for the person that you are today, he may not be right for you. Really ask yourself, do I generally like that I am an emmotional person? If the answer is yes, then stick with who you are and find someone who accepts and loves you for you. If the answer is no, i dont like it, then work on finding techniques that will help you react less emmotionally. Maybe before you feel that twinge of reaction, take a deep breath and a step back and try to look at things from a birdseye prospectve. Take some time to THINK about the situation before you re act.

There are times i'm ok with my emotional-ness. but most of the time its a pain in the butt. I think I am too hyper sensative most of the time and it will be a lot easier on myself and others if I can work on this aspect of myself. I over analyze, jump to conclusions... I dig myself in a hole. I'm trying to work on this part of myself. really. and I have been getting better with it.

I step back and look at myself and think "oh, yeah, no wonder he reacted that way. I think I would too."

I allowed myself to get so lost in HIM that I lost MYSELF. I realize that now, defninitely.

If there are aspects of that side of you that you would like to change then definately work on it... Try not to look at it from a perspective of condemnation of your self, try to think of it more as an aspect that you would like to change to help you better cope with the world around you, not you around the world if you know what I mean... You are the MOST Important person in your world and if you think it would make you better to be less emotional then work on it.

If he wants to come around to the person YOU are then that is great, if not, NO LOSS to you because he would only hinder who YOU are 🙂

How do you libra men like to be loved?

upside down!

Sorry... I will go read the posts now.

Well never mind... Angeleyes slam dunked this one.

Posted by LibraSid
Well never mind... Angeleyes slam dunked this one.

thanks libra 🙂 Its hard to get recognition round here when Im competing with Nico, lol jk, Its not really bout the recognition but I appriciate it anyhow.

@dreamin pisces: what does your chart look like

@angeleyes: I am amazed by you libras...maybe I am generalizing...but all of you seem to give wholesome advice...I guess that's what they mean when they say that you guys know your way around arguments and verbal communication.

Posted by angeleyes


If he wants to come around to the person YOU are then that is great, if not, NO LOSS to you because he would only hinder who YOU are 🙂

🙂
thank you, you do give great advice.
next time I see him.. whenever that may be... i will make it clear to him that if he is going to want to be with me that he is going to accept me for everything that I am. Good and bad. Just as I have done for him 🙂

Posted by ScorpSage
@dreamin pisces: what does your chart look like

here it is 🙂

Sun 9?? Pisces
Moon 1?? Sagittarius
Mercury 14?? Aquarius
Venus 0?? Pisces
Mars 23?? Taurus
Jupiter 28?? Taurus
Saturn 11?? Capricorn
Uranus 4?? Capricorn
Neptune 11?? Capricorn
Pluto 15?? Scorpio
Ascendant 7?? Libra
Midheaven 7?? Cancer

We like to keep thing balanced and in harmony( at least we try). Maybe your emotions overwhelming him, maybe not, not all libras are made the same.

Posted by dreamingpisces
I'm just really curious as to how you libra men like to be loved?

I feel like I'm doing everything wrong.
I'm letting my emotions get the better of me and its pushing away the guy I care about
I got confirmation from his friend saying that he does still care about me/like me just that he can't handle my emotions.
Its fair enough... I understand now. Its just incredibly difficult with me being a pisces. I'm all about emotions. and I do tend to allow them to rule me...

I just don't know how I'm supposed to show him that I care without coming across as emotional.
He then tends to shut down and ignore me for a while... which makes me crazy.

I'm learning to step back and give him his space...
but I just want to know how am I supposed to express myself to him without scaring him away?

Speaking from my own perspective i'd suggest to be just be yourself. I hate it if potential partners are playing "the dating game". Don't think to much for him and don't act the way you expect him to like you to be. If he'd would like you enough to get involved with you, it's nice and if he doesn't there's no need to drag a dead horse. It should not be that hard you to find some other guy.


And as far as emotions are involved, give the guy enough space to breathe. He already knows that you care about him, so he doesn't need any reinsurance. Good luck! Could you keep us informed?

the dutchman, you're right... he should like me for who I am good and bad. so I'm going to make that clear to him that if he wants to be with me he can't just completely freak out and shut down on me at the first sign of me showing any sort of emotion because if thats how its going to be then its not going to work out.

but thank you, and I'll keep you all informed.
So far I haven't heard from him since Saturday and its getting really annoying/frustrating idk how much longer I will wait around for him.

Posted by PandorasBox

Have you tried makin any other sort of contact since w/e happened happened?

(haven't read entire post, sry)

He'll come around if he likes you and as soon as he realizes what a vadgebag he's bein lol..

yeah I've texted him and called him... but no answer to any of those. Haven't actually heard from him since like Saturday
I really haven't done anything so terribly wrong to get this silence treatment from him thats what really is getting at me.
I wish he would talk to me so we can talk things out... figure out whats wrong.
I'm so confused... but thank you I do hope he comes around.

Hi, i am virgo woman and know libra male 3yrs. He started flirting with me a month ago n now he is full on cos he nows i like him. Says he felt somtin first time he met me but i dont even remember first time we met. Says so many times he wantd to tell me but shy, so many times he wantd to just grab me - can't believe i didnt see any signs of this at all. Since his very sudden declarations (which have only been by txt) he has txt me almost every day, somtimes 3,4,8 times a day but we not seen each other since as he is away. But he b bak soon n i really like him but he is married (20yrs)and has suggestd we get to no each other beta before we do anything daft. Also says he not done this before. Seems so full on but is he for real or just want a fling. Can any libra men out there give me some advice, please?

Posted by zaffron
Hi, i am virgo woman and know libra male 3yrs. He started flirting with me a month ago n now he is full on cos he nows i like him. Says he felt somtin first time he met me but i dont even remember first time we met. Says so many times he wantd to tell me but shy, so many times he wantd to just grab me - can't believe i didnt see any signs of this at all. Since his very sudden declarations (which have only been by txt) he has txt me almost every day, somtimes 3,4,8 times a day but we not seen each other since as he is away. But he b bak soon n i really like him but he is married (20yrs)and has suggestd we get to no each other beta before we do anything daft. Also says he not done this before. Seems so full on but is he for real or just want a fling. Can any libra men out there give me some advice, please?

you'll probably get more replies for your situation if you made a seperate thread for this, dear 🙂

Accepting you isn't the problem...Accepting you doesn't mean accepting all of your negative feelings, all of your anxiousness and worries....feelings are CONTAGIOUS, if you feel bad he feels that and when men can feel our icky stuff it pushes him away and he doesn't want to be around a woman when she has no emotional control over herself, it's unattractive, it feels hard being around you and it feels desperate and needy for particularly this man.

Libra men are not hard to please IMO, maybe some will not agree but I dated a libra for a few years and that was never an issue but when it was hard, when things felt hard he kept to himself and did the things he enjoyed, things that made him feel happy...BE HAPPY, no you may not like some of what's going on within the relationship with him but that doesn't mean that you have to allow whatever that issue is to make you feel unhappy...No man should have that much control over your happiness

If you want to bring him closer, give him space not just emotionally but mentally as well...forget about him for a little while, just think about you, your happiness and do what makes you feel good inside, that will draw him closer to you but if you consistently obsessively think about him (give him no mental space which includes no emotional space) he will not come your way...Don't call him, don't DO ANYTHING to try and fix it...get back into your girl energy, by leaning back and allowing him to come to you and when he comes around don't WORRY about trying to talk and fix things...see to some men he figures if he has to talk about it to fix it then it's NOT WORKING OUT with you...that creates more distance...Men are not women, they don't wan to sit around sharing their feelings and talking about love and fixing things with women, if it has to be fixed then it's broken, if it's broken then it's not worth fooling with...

This particular guy will come back your way if you take all of your energy away from him...It will be hard not to want to fix things, to obsess and think about him constantly but NOT DOING so actually resolves your situation and will be the way you resolve things with him...

Posted by PandorasBox



Dreamin: How long have you guys been together officially? My Libra disappeared some before we were an exclusive couple.. The longest we spent w/o talkin/txtn was around a week or so... He said we were datin, but to me, we were just buddies so I didn't trip cus what he did in his own free time was his business... Now that we're together he doesn't let a day slip by w/o contact..

Best thing to do is wait til his scales stop see sawin and take care of YOUR needs meanwhile. Do stuff that makes you happy and just live YOUR life.

we have been together since Feb. This is both of ours first relationship so its really complicated for us. I'm really trying to keep that in mind when he acts like that and just let him have his space. He just seems really lost. idk.

But yeah I've been detatching myself from the situation 🙂 being me, and staying focused on other things that are important also.

He has been texting me things like "hey" and totally random things. idk. but i answer them and don't try to push more conversation from him if it doesn't seem like he wants it.