I feel this libra man is testing me.! help peeps

This topic was created in the Libra forum by bucky on Sunday, April 18, 2010 and has 6 replies.

Understanding if a Libra man is testing your intentions

A Libra man may test you by observing your responses and consistency to gauge trustworthiness and maturity. He values honesty, balance, and genuine connection. Showing patience, being authentic, and maintaining calm communication can help build his confidence in your intentions.

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@bucky
16 Years

I've read that they are game players, cheats, liars etc. This particular guy seems cautious rightfully so, he's had some bad breakup's in the past. He's recent break up was this past october 09 he rekindled a relationship with his 'highschool' sweetheart, whom they dated for 8 month's. Apparently, she was selfish, rude and not understanding. Prior to that one, he fell 'head over heels' with a woman that was completely comparable with him in everyway. from what i gathered she either started or was using drugs at the time,he stood by her through it all. Ultimately,she left him because of her drug addiction leaving him totally 'heartbroken'. I think he's great guy.I've recently realized how much i do like him and would like to have something with him. We meet it was a cluster of a mess, friends of his got involved , i didnt handle things maturely, neither did he...it was consuming in every sense of the word .Now, i started up lines of communications and he's being receptive .Im being very relaxed and behaving very differently then before (like a mature adult should) he's doing the same ( but cautiously). I feel that he's testing me ?! anywho, need some guidance here porfavor!

Thank you all in advance

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@Red_Diamond
16 Years

Bucky please who is testing you? You seem paranoid. Trying to be perfect to make everything go the way you want to go. That is call control. You want to control the damn man. Please if you want to be with this guy then just be your self and keep communication open. BTW, any sign can be a cheater and liar, etc??_.

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@little_sparrow
20 Years5,000+ Posts

My guess is he is being cautious because although he doesn't mind contact he doesn't want you to "get the wrong" idea and think he has romantic feelings for you especially since you contacted him not the other way around.

Drama doesn't go over well with us so it probably was a deal breaker.

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@myguys55
16 YearsLibra

Ok coming from a Libra.... YES he is testing you! MOre than that he is testing himself! As much as he wants to jump into a "good thing", he is cautious! And until he feels that you two are seriously on the same page and will be on the same page, he wont let his guard down! You just gave two huge reason (the ex's)why he head can't calm down in his head! He needs to feel secure in letting him self feel!

If you want something with him... you need to let him know he is desired without smothering his independence! We will walk away when we don't feel desired or if we feel caged! I know that is sounds like a roller coaster, and it is... I'm sorry for that! And we always let you know how we feel... you just have to listen really closely, cause we tell in small ways!

Another thing.... we love information.... we like to know where you stand.... we like to have our facts so we can weigh our options! in which we always need! Let it all out and how you feel and desire.... with that info he can either let his guard down and let you in, or chose not too.... either way!

I hope all the best love!

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@little_sparrow
20 Years5,000+ Posts

I whole-heartedly disagree. Sorry Myguy.

Everyone has my trust until they prove otherwise. The way he is acting is the way I act when I am uninterested in a romantic partnership but want to remain on friendly terms.

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@nedley
16 Years

Posted by little_sparrow
I whole-heartedly disagree. Sorry Myguy.

Everyone has my trust until they prove otherwise. The way he is acting is the way I act when I am uninterested in a romantic partnership but want to remain on friendly terms.

Yes, I agree. Everyone has a certain degree of trust from me until proven otherwise, regardless of how many pains I've been through. Though this has got me in trouble before but...oh well, it's the way my libra mind works.