How to deal with Libra Man

I met this Libra Man over a month ago on an online dating site. He messaged me first and eventually hit it off. He would text and call me first every day. We have been dating for a month and things were going great. Things were going too fast and I had mentioned it to him throughout the time we were dating and he said he had started to have feelings for me and likes me a lot. I went along with it and would clear his busy schedule to see me. Then, all of a sudden he ignore me the day after Valentine's Day when we were going to have dinner and did not get a response from him. I called and texted him and no response. I got worried about him so I went to visit him and he said he got overwhelmed because his dad got laid off from his job and was helping him out and work was slow so he said he had to focus on a plan to make his business prosper and be more successful so he needs time to focus on himself. He said he cares about me but doesn't have time to date but said we can hangout every once in a while and catch up because he does not want to lose my friendship and said he wants to make our friendship stronger and see if we still like each other along the way when things are right I listened to what he said and I agreed. He later texted me that it was nice of me to visit him and he was happy I'm the person I am. But it's confusing cause he reactivated his profile on the dating site and logs on so I'm thinking maybe he's looking to date other girls. I'm so confused! I'm giving him his space and have not texted or called him until he initiates but he's still on my mind. What should I do?

He's just not that into you.

Case in point: he stood you up. It would have taken 30 seconds to text you that it was off and he couldn't make it, and he didn't extend that minimal curtesy your way.

Posted by fabulous24
But it's confusing cause he reactivated his profile on the dating site and logs on so I'm thinking maybe he's looking to date other girls.

Nothing to be confused about. He's looking to date other chicks. Move onto someone else. He's not the one.

When you say you dated for a month can you elaborate. How many times did you meet up face to face? Did you get intimate with him during this time? Did he ever allude to having sex with you?

We went out on 6 dates. We would cuddle and be intimate during the time we were seeing each other but no sex.

Posted by fabulous24
We went out on 6 dates. We would cuddle and be intimate during the time we were seeing each other but no sex.

What dating site?

On OkCupid

I heard that most Libra men like to be friends with someone before they know how they feel about you, like if they only see you as friends or if they see you as more than a friend. In his situation, his line of work is quite stressful and fast paced and he did say he got carried away with having feelings for me that fast since we clicked since our first date. So I think Libra men need space to really know what they want.

My theory, OP, is that he's looking for a hookup not a relationship. After several dates over that month once it became apparent you weren't going to be an easy lay he moved on.

So should you.

Posted by fabulous24
I heard that most Libra men like to be friends with someone before they know how they feel about you, like if they only see you as friends or if they see you as more than a friend. In his situation, his line of work is quite stressful and fast paced and he did say he got carried away with having feelings for me that fast since we clicked since our first date. So I think Libra men need space to really know what they want.

Naw. He fed you the friends line to keep you in his back pocket in the hopes that he could hit it in the future. He's not looking for anything long term with you...

I should just move on. He also mentioned he had not been in a relationship for 4 months now. So I should just move on with my life and if he contacts me again, I'm just going to ignore him.

He wants to fuck.

He's not into you.

Move on. Don't make excuses. This is not the only man you'll ever meet. You will survive. You did before you met this guy and it's only been a month. Get a fucking grip. You'll be okay, I promise. Wasting time pining after a guy who rudely stood you up is not cool anyway.

I agree with what everyone here is saying. I know it is hard but not everyone you date is meant to be ThE oNe.

Dating doesn’t automatically mean a forever and ever relationship. Dating means I am going to try this relationship on for awhile to see if it works for me.

Things don't work out for thousands of reasons. None of which is really in your control. They aren't ready for a relationship. They have addiction problems. They are too damaged. They travel for work and need things to be light. You can't control any of that stuff and truthfully don't want it anyway. You can only control yourself.

The trick is to date until you meet someone that works for YOU. Don’t take the other person’s stuff on. If you don’t work for them, they automatically don’t work for you. Get it? Make it about what you want. You want someone you like, who has good character, who is kind, who makes you laugh, fun, etc.

And don’t try to be what THEY want. See if they are someone YOU want.

In other words, the question shouldn’t be “do they like me? do they like me?” It needs to be, “Do I like them?”