How to help a libra man get over a love?

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MiraajK
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My ex is still in love with his ex fiancé and I feel really bad for the hurt he's going through. I'm with someone else and he knows that. He texts me all the time talking about her. I do help him but I don't understand why can't he just move on? We all do right? I took 2 months and I was over him. He hurt me so much because he was never fully out of his past. It's been 3 years now. The girl cheated on him and he broke up with her. Now he says he wants her back. & he won't/can't fall in love ever again. She's married to someone else. Please help me!
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Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
So that means you got to leave to and should have if you felt and he told you that before. It has come up before in a conversation so how did that go when it was a problem in the beginning of your relationship? What did he do or say first and now he is saying he rather have the other woman and not you?

What made you think he was over an wx?
When we were together you mean? Oh it was awful. I had good and bad days ofcourse. But I've moved on happily. He always said to me he hated her and I used to tell him not to hate and forget & forgive. He said he'll never forgive her. We broke up because he was getting pissed at me for even ringing him at times and he'd ignore me for hours & hours. Then he told me more than once that he's not ready for any commitment and I knew what I deserve and walked out. Now he's back after a month apologising. And confessed why he treated me the way he did.
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he wants her back. & he won't/can't fall in love ever again. She's married to someone else. Please help me!
Help none of you guys, clearly you need to find somebody else. He made up his mind and I think he needs More Help then you, no offense.
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Omg so I should leave him be? He texted me early morning today really upset. Says he saw her in a dream and he can't get over her. It's been 3 years. What's holding him back?
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Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Sorry for my scatter brain thoughts I'm at work. It's why I deleted but you got it.

Well he's no longer with you so be glad right
I really mean I am not sure what to do other than what can you possibility do to help.
Yeah he never mentioned he still loved her. Which is ok for me. I just feel bad he wasted so much of my time/money/energy. I don't control his heart.
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he wants her back. & he won't/can't fall in love ever again. She's married to someone else. Please help me!
Help none of you guys, clearly you need to find somebody else. He made up his mind and I think he needs More Help then you, no offense.
Omg so I should leave him be? He texted me early morning today really upset. Says he saw her in a dream and he can't get over her. It's been 3 years. What's holding him back?
He is using you as a shoulder to lean on. If he had even the slightest feelings for you, he would keep his feelings for her at bay.. and would probably cry at home on his own. Us Air signs deal with emotional differently.. What's his Moon Sign in? Also, his Mars and his Venus??
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Ofcourse you need to let out your feelings and I don't mind if he chose me todo that. He feels very comfortable sharing his feelings for some odd reasons. But I don't mind that or I would've blocked him. I really want to help him balance himself emotionally. Cuz I know how this feels.
His dob is 8/10/88
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he wants her back. & he won't/can't fall in love ever again. She's married to someone else. Please help me!
Help none of you guys, clearly you need to find somebody else. He made up his mind and I think he needs More Help then you, no offense.
Omg so I should leave him be? He texted me early morning today really upset. Says he saw her in a dream and he can't get over her. It's been 3 years. What's holding him back?
He is using you as a shoulder to lean on. If he had even the slightest feelings for you, he would keep his feelings for her at bay.. and would probably cry at home on his own. Us Air signs deal with emotional differently.. What's his Moon Sign in? Also, his Mars and his Venus??
Ofcourse you need to let out your feelings and I don't mind if he chose me todo that. He feels very comfortable sharing his feelings for some odd reasons. But I don't mind that or I would've blocked him. I really want to help him balance himself emotionally. Cuz I know how this feels.
His dob is 8/10/88
You don't know his birth chart? in order to do a birth chart birthday alone is not good enough.. You need to know the Exact Country and City he is from. Stars and planets are aligned differently in different countries, cities etc.. putting the wrong country or city can give you wrong information.. in that case we won't even know the slightest reason, on why he is acting, the way he is acting.
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I just checked, his mars is Aries, moon and venus is virgo
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he wants her back. & he won't/can't fall in love ever again. She's married to someone else. Please help me!
Help none of you guys, clearly you need to find somebody else. He made up his mind and I think he needs More Help then you, no offense.
Omg so I should leave him be? He texted me early morning today really upset. Says he saw her in a dream and he can't get over her. It's been 3 years. What's holding him back?
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Getting over someone is so much easier said than done for some of us especially if feelings are intense, so don't judge him on that. He's already aware it's a curse (it really fucking sucks, I'm going through it myself right now).
I have a friend whose gf broke up with him 1,5 years ago and it was ugly. To this date he still mentions her in every other conversation even though he's been seeing someone else for over 6 months. It's very sad but his close friends just let him vent out. If you're not ready to go through this on a regular basis, then create some distance and be honest about it.
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he wants her back. & he won't/can't fall in love ever again. She's married to someone else. Please help me!
Help none of you guys, clearly you need to find somebody else. He made up his mind and I think he needs More Help then you, no offense.
Omg so I should leave him be? He texted me early morning today really upset. Says he saw her in a dream and he can't get over her. It's been 3 years. What's holding him back?
He is using you as a shoulder to lean on. If he had even the slightest feelings for you, he would keep his feelings for her at bay.. and would probably cry at home on his own. Us Air signs deal with emotional differently.. What's his Moon Sign in? Also, his Mars and his Venus??
Ofcourse you need to let out your feelings and I don't mind if he chose me todo that. He feels very comfortable sharing his feelings for some odd reasons. But I don't mind that or I would've blocked him. I really want to help him balance himself emotionally. Cuz I know how this feels.
His dob is 8/10/88
You don't know his birth chart? in order to do a birth chart birthday alone is not good enough.. You need to know the Exact Country and City he is from. Stars and planets are aligned differently in different countries, cities etc.. putting the wrong country or city can give you wrong information.. in that case we won't even know the slightest reason, on why he is acting, the way he is acting.
I just checked, his mars is Aries, moon and venus is virgo
Hmm.. he probably means it when he says he won't fall in love again. He would have to meet the woman of his dreams in order to. Virgo's usually stick with one love for a lifetime, and if it ends.. He will make it harder then it was for the other girl to get to his heart. Give him his space to get back down to Earth. Being a Libra it probably has him feeling Alienated for sure. Your going to have to let him take care of his own situation, I am assuming he is a grown man
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True about Venusian Virgos
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he wants her back. & he won't/can't fall in love ever again. She's married to someone else. Please help me!
Help none of you guys, clearly you need to find somebody else. He made up his mind and I think he needs More Help then you, no offense.
Omg so I should leave him be? He texted me early morning today really upset. Says he saw her in a dream and he can't get over her. It's been 3 years. What's holding him back?
He is using you as a shoulder to lean on. If he had even the slightest feelings for you, he would keep his feelings for her at bay.. and would probably cry at home on his own. Us Air signs deal with emotional differently.. What's his Moon Sign in? Also, his Mars and his Venus??
Ofcourse you need to let out your feelings and I don't mind if he chose me todo that. He feels very comfortable sharing his feelings for some odd reasons. But I don't mind that or I would've blocked him. I really want to help him balance himself emotionally. Cuz I know how this feels.
His dob is 8/10/88
You don't know his birth chart? in order to do a birth chart birthday alone is not good enough.. You need to know the Exact Country and City he is from. Stars and planets are aligned differently in different countries, cities etc.. putting the wrong country or city can give you wrong information.. in that case we won't even know the slightest reason, on why he is acting, the way he is acting.
I just checked, his mars is Aries, moon and venus is virgo
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Hmm.. he probably means it when he says he won't fall in love again. He would have to meet the woman of his dreams in order to. Virgo's usually stick with one love for a lifetime, and if it ends.. He will make it harder then it was for the other girl to get to his heart. Give him his space to get back down to Earth. Being a Libra it probably has him feeling Alienated for sure. Your going to have to let him take care of his own situation, I am assuming he is a
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Yeah you can't do anything. Only HE can help himself. He needs to heal and he needs to do it on his own.
He can't he says. Which means he's a hopeless case?
Can't or won't? There's a difference. Either he does it on his own or seek therapy. Sounds like he's going through depression.
Exactly and 'Depression' is a state of mind.. he needs to learn to control his emotions.. having his Venus in Virgo is very surprising that he would even 'Allow' himself to even go that route.. Usually they are very logical and sensible in love.. How he was raised also plays a huge roll.. he must of went through something when he was a child because Venus in Virgo are not prone to go 'Coo Coo' in love.. unless it perhaps literally WAS the love of his life. I wonder what that lady did to him? Poor guy. and she is Married? He needs to Respect himself and Respect her and Definitely Back Off. His rising sign or his other placements must be heavily in the water signs.. He is acting like a Scorpio or Cancer that lost the love of there life!
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That girls cheated on him with his best friend.
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Yeah you can't do anything. Only HE can help himself. He needs to heal and he needs to do it on his own.
He can't he says. Which means he's a hopeless case?
Can't or won't? There's a difference. Either he does it on his own or seek therapy. Sounds like he's going through depression.
Exactly and 'Depression' is a state of mind.. he needs to learn to control his emotions.. having his Venus in Virgo is very surprising that he would even 'Allow' himself to even go that route.. Usually they are very logical and sensible in love.. How he was raised also plays a huge roll.. he must of went through something when he was a child because Venus in Virgo are not prone to go 'Coo Coo' in love.. unless it perhaps literally WAS the love of his life. I wonder what that lady did to him? Poor guy. and she is Married? He needs to Respect himself and Respect her and Definitely Back Off. His rising sign or his other placements must be heavily in the water signs.. He is acting like a Scorpio or Cancer that lost the love of there life!
That girls cheated on him with his best friend.
"That girls CHEATED on him with his BEST FRIEND"... Umm.. What best friend? He needs to find new friends. It seems like HE is his own Major Problem. I have No Sympathy for humans like him. He comes across as 'Stupid' / Dumb, no offense. For his age, it is unnecessary.. Only kids in high school or under should be going through these issues. I can see why his fiance Left Him. He has A lot of growing up to do, I mean if he wants to go back to a cheating woman, who is married and was once upon a time HIS Fiance, he has major issues. I wouldn't even bother helping him, he needs to help him self. I'm done going back and fourth with this guy, he needs to find himself. How can he Love somebody else if he doesn't Love himself? He needs to find himself, and on his OWN terms. Leave his business alone and tell him to figure it out and give him space please, he Highly needs it.
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Ok thanks. I will.