What is this Libra guy playing at? So many mixed signals

Hello Everybody,

So I was dating this Libra for a couple of months, it was an instant connection and he couldn't get enough of me and the feeling was mutual. Then in the space of a day he went from really hot to being distant and withdrawn.

We kept on chatting and kept things light but it was like he put a wall up and wouldn't commit to making any plans. I asked him directly if he wanted to date or if he wanted to be friends. He said he wanted to be just friends...for now.

I said that was fine I was happy to be friends. Now normally when this sort of thing happens you give the situation so space but he texted me the next day, if I have to give the just friends talk I give the situation some space before I contact them. Never text the day and normally not for a couple of weeks.

9 times out of 10 it's him texting me first, we still talk almost everyday and they seem to be getting a bit more flirtatious. He was talking about getting into some of the same hobbies as me and that he was getting really enjoying to them.

It just kinda feels that he's trying to keep the connection open but at the same time still insisting that we stay friends. It's left me in a place where I want to be friends with him but not if he's going to play with my emotions. He just keeps talking about how busy he is and how his weeks are going to fly by.

What do you guys think? Plying games or actually just trying to work out how he feels? And what the hell is friends for now?

I had a Virgo pull this crap on me - friends for now means "no commitment to a relationship". Watch out, he might try to turn you into a booty call. Don't fall for it. Friends give friends space to move on

Hahaha no chance of that! I like him but I have no intention of falling for his charms again, if he just want's a friend that's all he's going to get!

I just don't get why he keeps messaging me? I would stay away from someone if they felt more than me.

He doesn't know what he wants and he's keeping you around as an option. He's determined he doesn't want more from you right now, "just friends," but the second another option rolls around, he'll be long gone and your friendship will be nothing.

Keep the friends angle if you want, but just fyi, he's going to be doing a lot of questionable shit because he has NO IDEA what he wants and will string you along in the process.

There are no secret feelings here. He's just a selfish dipshit that wants his cake and to eat it too by keeping you around.

Posted by BloopGem
Hahaha no chance of that! I like him but I have no intention of falling for his charms again, if he just want's a friend that's all he's going to get!

I just don't get why he keeps messaging me? I would stay away from someone if they felt more than me.

He's emotionally selfish, that's why he keeps texting you.

I agree with you I had someone doing the same thing always texting not really wanting to have another type of relationship I guess he just wanted attention. I just stopped replying him for my own sanity I felt that it was not healthy for me

Posted by tiziani
Yeah he seems a bit oblivious. I was on the end of that behaviour this whole week. Someone ending it with me then texting me day after day what problems they have. It was as if they just wanted a text relationship more than anything. Meanwhile my health was just deteriorating, the texts just kept coming. I don't think it is playing games or malicious, it's just oblivion and you're better off maintaining healthy boundaries or you'll only have yourself to blame.

@tiziani meant to quote u

Posted by jessbtwin
I agree with you I had someone doing the same thing always texting not really wanting to have another type of relationship I guess he just wanted attention. I just stopped replying him for my own sanity I felt that it was not healthy for me

This. The attention is great for their frail ego.

Something similar also happen to me with a sexy cap. When we met up for lunch one day and I asked him directly wasup. He admitted I help get his mind off alot things thats weighing him down.... he's married by the way. He's always the one with the sexual flirting, has no problem showing off his manhood, travel 3 hours to have lunch and calls all hours of the night. We never got to the physical part because well duh he's married. When I choose to ignore him, he would get hella upset and depressed. Made shrewd comments about me finding someone else.( like it's his business, the hell) Anyway I finally got annoyed and ended it by making him feel guilty about the whole thing between us. (This went on for 2years)

Like how would I treetrunk when you gotta go home to your wife....cookiemonster please. It was fun while it lasted.
Never heard from him again after I blocked him on facebook.

Maybe he feels free to keep communicating with you because you know he only wants to be friends.