I ended the friendship with my libra friend :(

I am a capricorn with Taurus moon and Gemini ascendant while he is a libra with a capricorn moon.
I truly liked if not loved the guy. I am not (in love with him) but I am actually loving and caring for him a lot = I mean I can accept and deal with his flaws and still love him. The thing is he has lots to go in his life and he just want friendship but lately he's been confusing me with his mixed signals and how clingy he is. He will call me everyday and we would text all the day. I will see him twice a week too but not for so long!

This all was confusing and stressing me. I truly started to love him so with the helping advices I got here, I decided I will cut him off.
I was not planning to do so, I was going to ask him to slow down and see other people, but I think in my mind, I knew I couldnt control how much I see/talk/text him .. He is always welcome and I always love him around 😢

Now I wonder, do libra tend to honour such decision?
And if he came back, how do I act about it? I am very clear, his friendship confuses my feelings and I told him exactly that I feel I need to end the friendship because of that. He was shocked mostly because his voice went "dead" and he did all the talking .. was like I was honoured to meet you and you were a great friend and all the nice good byes ..

I wish I would be in a serious relationship with him, I truly do. But he is emotionally not available 😢 ..
I know I will miss him but this is the best for me and I need to know how to respond to him if he tried to win me as a friend back? I want a way to reject him politely.. After all, he is the sale manager in his company and we get to see him where I work as they have a contract with us.

So wishful thinking has you hoping he'll come back around and want you more.

He may respect your wishes, he may not. Depends on how much he wants to push being around you.

If he does come back around and push for more, you just need to stand your ground.

I know what I want for me and he just confuses it all. I can't allow him to do that honestly especially that I am going for a master degree and him around, can get me no where but in a sadness island. I decided I don't want to hang around and wait because the more of him, the less I am focused on my goals.

Exactly. Guys like him tend to keep women around on a string for options until they understand what they want. ...if that ever happens. Some people never do because they're so obsessed with chasing and finding "better" that they never focus on what's in front of them- something some Libra dudes are NOTORIOUS for.

I know of a Libra who was on the rocks with his wife and swore up and down that they were going to seperate/divorce/whatever. Happened to come across a chick from his past and they got to talking and all these old feelings resurfaced and they had some sort of sexual affair during whatever rift he and his wife had at the time. She would take him on trips with her, buy him stuff, etc.

Then he ended up going back to his wife. The chick took it okay, considering she knew the situation, but it still left her heartbroken and he ended up confusing her a bit and stringing her along a little after the fact.

He basically wanted the best of everything without the responsibility.

...he and his wife went through another split shortly after.

Btw, they were a Cap/Libra combo. Cheated on her early in the relationship and the trust was never the same. The only reason they were together to begin with was because he knocked her up after the second date and moved her in a week later. It sucks she allowed herself to get caught up in his fairy tale bs that Libras are prone to.

I would hate for such a mess to come in to my life! I pray I hold strong to my ground and just handle my life with more care.
And I agree with you because in my case, I didn't understand how can you be separated for 2 years and not finalise things yet or know when to finalise it? I have no idea how can he function with things not solved in his life. As a capricorn, I tend to finish and move on but libras like to hold on and find it very hard to do so..

I hope that my emotions will be in control because he is the first in long time to get to my heart but I know he is totally the wrong guy. Thank you a lot for sharing your advice and story .. I will keep that in my mind always in case he chased me back.

So was the wife and husband a Libra/Cap mix? I donno if it works but in this case, the guy and I had great time and though our differences we learnt to adjust with them but I am glad I never allowed him close to me emotionally .. the closest he got is holding my hand .. I never even hugged him because I knew I liked him more and didn't want to lose control on my feelings.

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And I agree with you because in my case, I didn't understand how can you be separated for 2 years and not finalise things yet or know when to finalise it? I have no idea how can he function with things not solved in his life. As a capricorn, I tend to finish and move on but libras like to hold on and find it very hard to do so..

Unfortunately, with this type of Libra dude, unless they feel things are just not DONE, then they'll linger like that and keep things open ended. It's about having options. When they do decide that things are DONE done, then you'll never hear from them again and they never look back.

So was the wife and husband a Libra/Cap mix?

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Yep. That entire thing was a disaster weeks into the relationship. Despite the red flags, he married her anyway. Some of these guys are so obsessed with the idea of love that they do really, really stupid shit for the sake of not being alone and pairing off with someone.

Always be wary of the "collectors" and those who move too fast when they shouldn't be.

Rocky you've been an eye opening for me!
I admit, lately I've been consulting my heart and it's been bad to me. I used to use my brain always but sadly this time I did't and it did me no well.
Thank you a lot