I need help please this eating me up...

The Libra girl I had so many problems has made me feel the utmost guilt this past week and I hate feeling like that, I put it down too us not talking things out in person...but I feel bad, I really do, I feel like it's all of my fault and that I crushed her, maybe she did actually like me but was scared...I don't know anymore...I have taken a break from dating as well as I REALLY want to find a girl that doesn't treat you like there exes or in case there children, isn't seeing FOUR other guys as well or isn't thriving on constant attention and goes out of there way to make you jealous...I know what I am looking for, I just haven't found it yet...or she hasn't found me yet...there have been parts of what I have wanted in each of the five girls i have dated this year but none of them had that spark...this Libra girl did and I miss her friendship...but I just don't know how to say sorry anymore..I need a resolution or at least to just see her and talk in person

It's just such an odd thing, I am good friends with her ex-boyfriend, i am good friends with one of her good friends but they are never any help...

I have said it a lot and meant it, but she just always gives me the 'dont ever fucking contact me again and i never want to fucking speak to you ever again...leave me the fuck alone etc...

😢

any advice...I feel like shit about all of this and combined with the cold weather down here in New Zealand i am getting a little miserable and need some cheering up and advice please.

Thanks

UGH! "Certain people" can be so callus. Those are usually the ones who wear Thongs and Manelos. 😉


So what happened? What did you do to her? Need more details. How long were the two of you together?

Ahhhh, I didn't look at the previous posts...Let me see

Scorpman:

I think Branh's pretty much right..Time to move on and try to get a grip on yourself. You seem a "bit" obsessed. That's not healthy.

She's already lost a lot of respect for you and you had a lot to do with that.

Thanks for your comments...There is NO obsession just some guilt and remorse...but only you and I know this she doesn't...so what's the problem?.

I'm not weak and if anything it has been ME that puts the game players in there place...I am moving to Melbourne in a few months and want to make amends with some people that's all and it's crazy that we know so many of the same people, yet she hates me and the others don't...it's all very high school if you ask me.

Actually you are all right...what do I have too feel guilty about?

that's right, you shouldn't feel guilty. and just for future reference, it can be r-e-a-l-l-y beneficial if you learn to leave the past in the past. things that already happened cannot be changed, so it's best to just throw out the baggage and remorse. it is only a problem if u see it as a problem, because your mind is the only thing that can enable you to stress. so if you don't let it get to u, then it won't. knowing how girls are, i'm sure that she cares for you, so don't question that. she's just scared of possibly getting hurt, and even MORE hurt if she allows her feelings to grow. and from the way she handled it, it doesn't sound like she was a very secure person, herself. so that might not be a good quality to have in a girlfriend, anyway. see.. ?? sometimes things DO happen for the better. you just may not see it right away. you want someone to concentrate on YOU and soley you. u'll know what i mean when u meet her. u deserve better, so just be patient. and remember: mind over matter, and look ahead - not behind. appreciate your experience with her as a chapter in your life that you can learn from. experience can be a very beautiful thing if u embrace it and allow it to be. you have lots of good things ahead of u, and who knows, she might come crawling back to you. whatever happens will happen for the better, and you'll be fine. good luck, Scorpman =]

you are guys are just awesome...thank you, this week has been a fresh, new week and everything i thought about or mulled over last week stays there...the only way is forward.

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I told her that I don't appreciate her saying to my friends that she feels sorry for them....and this is what I got back
i dont give a fuck about what u feel i dont care what u think and i really dont give a fuck what u think of me.

so how bout u fuck off


god this bitch is a just that a bitch.

^Concrete blocks tied around her shoes...ha ha...yes she is and has poisoned some of my friendships...when is this child going to let shit go and get over things?.

She is crazy and I'm not the only one that knows it, but too say to a very close friend of well over 10 years that she feels sorry for him because lots of people don't like me...is taking it too far.

The funny thing is this was done on MSN and as soon as I asked her why do you keep telling me to f off and not have me blocked on your MSN?.

:/

Honestly this girl sounds immature, and she needs to grow up asap. Trying to break up friendships...Lets be serious for a second....Shes being a spiteful little girl and she does not deserve you feeling guilty, or feeling anything at all. So i wouldn't try contacting her anymore, at all , at anytime. She is not worth it. She is playing little games, that are childish. SCORPMAN! keep your head up, you deserve much better!!

Come Scorpman and sit down beside me and let me tell you a story .....

Latte? ....

Alright. Where to begin ... There is a weird fascination between Scorp men and Libra women. I can't explain it. I don't try. I have just come to accept it.

It is all cloak and dagger. I like you. I don't like you. I love you. I don't care about you .... and back and forth, up and down and just plain nonsense. If you are direct, the other one runs into hiding or takes a swipe at you. If you are not direct, it is like dancing with shadows in a cave.

It is a huge power struggle and no one ever wins.

She is just obsessed with you as you are with her but nothing ever comes of it because when you pursue her she backs off. When she pursues you, you back off.

Your best bet is to cut ties for several weeks. Eventually, she will seek you out and you will feel better. It probably still won't work out because there is just an element of push pull between these two signs.

I seriously wish there wasn't as I have several scorpion men I am very attracted to and who are very attracted to me ... it just doesn't seem to work.

how is the latte? Just accept what is offered from libra girls. It is much easier than trying to get more than they want to give, otherwise you just get locked into power games that can go on for YEARS. (trust me on that.)

I kind of had problems deciphering all the slang, so I could have the story completely wrong, but from what I gathered, they slept together, he broke up with her, and left her heartbroken. She found out she was pregnant had an abortion and is in crisis. She thinks he broke up with her for someone else.

She isn't handling things well but who would?

Is it just me or does she look a bit like a bird?

"How can so many people be raised by wolves —"

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAAAAA>......

i was raised by monkeys 🙂

haha, i fear oprah, too. :S
prim, are you back home yet?

it's snowing like in siberia over here. it's been like that for almost a week. it's a beautiful site, i just wished it would snow in the winter, not in bloody march. right now i want spring!!!

wow, that was venting! ok, it was a kind of wimp-ish venting, but hey i'm not that experienced in that typathing... surprised i could do even that 🙂

LOL i love snow, too. it sets a peaceful quite scenery which i enjoy. only right now it just clashes with my desire for sunshine and warmth, the lightness of wearing less clothes, not having to wear a coat, gloves, a heat etc. and the lightness to just be able to take my bike and ride somewhere or even just get into my car and drive, without having to free it of the snow and ice first... i go snowboarding almost each year. when on winter holidays snow's just great 🙂