I'm done...

I am so done with my Libra, Pisces Moon, Cancer Asc... All he does is try to control and manipulate me. It's hurting me. If I don't leave now, I'll end up a battered wife. I have to leave now before im too sucked in this shit.

How does he try to control and manipulate you?

Posted by Starlightbutterfly
I am so done with my Libra, Pisces Moon, Cancer Asc... All he does is try to control and manipulate me. It's hurting me. If I don't leave now, I'll end up a battered wife. I have to leave now before im too sucked in this shit.

I can't go a minute in a day without him texting me and expecting a text back. If I dont, he thinks I'm cheating. He thinks all women are whores. He's abusive...he's threatened to hurt me if I ever keft him...many reasons...I love his soul but I can't be with him now...yesterday the entire day was him making me feel like crap all because I said one small thing.

Excuse all of my typos...

Yeah, move along.

Yup.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Yeah, move along.

D!ck.

huh?

Yeah, you heard me.

Lol Starlight I wasnt big into star signs but there seems to be something there. Librans are manipulative to some extent but holding onto a slight or the behavior that you stated is not a Libran trait. We are too well balanced for that. Unfortunately his water moon and his ascendent are what makes him "clingy" instead of "flighty". You need to read up the cancer traits on manipulation just for a good laugh. Now for the topic at hand - irrespective of his sign you need to sit him down and let him know how you feel. Give it a few days and then take the next step. But no action without communication!

Posted by rockyroadicecream
huh?

Tourette syndrome?

Maybe...

Posted by Starlightbutterfly
Excuse all of my typos...

C0cK

If he's abusive, none of the rest matters...get away from him.

How can you "love the soul" of someone who thinks you are a lying cheating whore simply because you're a woman?

How can there be love when there is no respect or trust?

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Posted by rockyroadicecream
huh?

Tourette syndrome?

Maybe...

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That's what I'm wondering. One post is agreement, another is attacking. Dahell? :/

Haha yeah rocky, that exchange was funny. The sudden shift caught me off guard too. I lol'd at your "huh".

Posted by LibraSid
Haha yeah rocky, that exchange was funny. The sudden shift caught me off guard too. I lol'd at your "huh".

Right?

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Posted by Starlightbutterfly
Excuse all of my typos...

C0cK

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This made me lol too.

Posted by munchykin
I've been with a male Libra like that too. He referred to his ex-girlfriend as a cheating wh?re, insisted on driving me everywhere, if I didn't answer a text, he would text me literally close to 100 texts, 10 calls and voicemails. If I couldn't meet with him, he'd give me the third degree and interrogate me. He also tried to turn me into a Barbie, including offering to pay for a boob job and taking me on shopping sprees for expensive designer clothes despite my protests.

All this in only a month. Then I couldn't take it anymore and broke up with him. Which he didn't take well at all.

It will only get worse the longer you stay with him. Cut him off asap.

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Posted by blackphase
My Libra is also quite controlling / demanding. But not so much in the same way as yours. He seems to see himself as the superior gender I fear. And funny Sugarfoot asks about the relationship with the mother. Mine has a very damaged relationship with his mother. I think he has treated everyone in his life who cared about him pretty miserably. He has been selfish his whole life I do believe, and thankfully he starting to see the error in his ways now that he is maturing.

Men who hate women and think we're all whores tend to have really jacked up relationships with mom. If a guy ever states that he hates his mother or is always saying bad things about her, get out quick. He's either gonna cheat or abuse or both.

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I have a love/hate thing with women, only think about 75% of you are wh0res, and have a great relationship with my mother. what does that mean?
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And thanks for bumping this, I got another chuckle reading it.

Frightening stories.

Posted by blackphase
@ Sugarfoot - Really? You think that the bad relationship with his mother would lead to cheating and abuse?
I wouldn't say that he hates women at all, I just feel that he doesn't have much respect. I just feel like he disregards me and makes me feel sort of insignificant sometimes. He has been trying (since being with me) to repair his relationship with his mother, which they were both happy about, but over the holidays that went sour..

Why is this ok with you?

Posted by blackphase
It's not okay with me.. But he has been getting a lot better. I don't think he has ever tried for anyone (including himself) in his life. He has a short temper and cuts people out as soon as his temper gets the best of him. I just see how much progress he has made since being together. He has many issues that he struggles with and has pushed me away many times because of this. Says I shouldn't have to deal with it, he knows how badly he treats people and has a difficult time coming to terms with it. I know it is making him happy to be trying to turn his life around and cope with things better. I love him and want to help him, that is why I am still here. Everyone in his life has given up on him or he's pushed them away. He does realize what I do for him and that's why he is trying and I appreciate it all.

Oh no, stay away from a fixer-upper. It's a toxic and unhealthy dynamic.

Posted by blackphase
I do understand how it affects my well being, and he has brought me down lower than anyone has ever been able to, but I have always been a very strong person. I am quite sensitive and my feelings do get hurt easily, I'll admit, but I always push through my own shit to help others. Not likely the best idea, but it's just always the way I've been. I knew going into this that it wouldn't be easy, but I took it on any way. So no one to blame but myself, I know.

He can say hurtful things and I think she had just had enough of it in his younger years. Can't say I blame her, she's likely heard a lot worse out of his mouth than I. I see him maturing and trying though and that's all that I can ask for.

Wtf is YOUR dysfunction that you think this is what you need in your life?

Do you find validation in being a therapist in a relationship? Why is that? Are you unhappy with yourself?

You're 25. If you keep going like this, you are going to be burned out and hit a quarter life crisis by the time you hit your 30s. I'm seeing this happen to a friend who used the same moronic approach to trying to "fix" man children in her 20s.

Now she's freaking out and all over the place because she finally got away from such toxic shit in her life. She's having to re learn who she is.

Relationships are not therapy and you're bound to end up burned in the long run if you aren't careful. It's also incredibly sad that you're talking yourself into settling with this guy because he's "trying" and his potential makes you want to stick around. It's a far too common mistake for women to go for a guy because of "potential" due to the fact that they are most likely to end up disappointed and having wasted a ton of time on some guy they made up in their heads. Which, by the way, isn't fair to the guy. You're trying to turn him into something he isn't.

How old is he anyway?

Posted by rockyroadicecream

Wtf is YOUR dysfunction that you think this is what you need in your life?

Do you find validation in being a therapist in a relationship? Why is that? Are you unhappy with yourself?

You're 25. If you keep going like this, you are going to be burned out and hit a quarter life crisis by the time you hit your 30s. I'm seeing this happen to a friend who used the same moronic approach to trying to "fix" man children in her 20s.

Now she's freaking out and all over the place because she finally got away from such toxic shit in her life. She's having to re learn who she is.

Relationships are not therapy and you're bound to end up burned in the long run if you aren't careful. It's also incredibly sad that you're talking yourself into settling with this guy because he's "trying" and his potential makes you want to stick around. It's a far too common mistake for women to go for a guy because of "potential" due to the fact that they are most likely to end up disappointed and having wasted a ton of time on some guy they made up in their heads. Which, by the way, isn't fair to the guy. You're trying to turn him into something he isn't.

How old is he anyway?

This.

Oh honey, he's 24. Leave him alone. He has to grow up first. It's not your job to make sure that happens, it's his.

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Posted by blackphase
I know, you're right. But he hasn't gotten far on his own, he's accomplished a lot with my help and I really want to be with him. He is also happy to see the difference and calls himself out on his own shit and realizes when he is acing out. He is very sweet and loving when he's not down in the dumps beating himself up or being short tempered.

Good luck to you. I hope things turn out the way you want them to. Just be safe (don't get pregnant 😛) and either way, you'll be fine 🙂

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