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Libra Alert
Part 2
So sounds all very sweet so far, but not really.. There are times, he just stares at me for ages, or we talk and laugh hysterically, he sends me messages/photos if he hasn't heard from me for more than 12 hours BUT on the other hand, he tells me he has a date, that he met someone, it is exciting, and he does go and meet, which is obviously fine as he is an extremely charming single man and there are TONS of women that fancy him. Then I think, ok he sees me as a great friend, I shouldn't think about him, but the way he interacts with me is totally NOT friendly. I am in my 30s and have a bit of life experience and have always had long relationships and a lot of male friends (maybe 80% of my friends) and this is completely different from all. I have very close male friends but I don't talk to them or message them everyday, they don't either.
Unlike the Tauruses I know, I am not jealous nor possessive at all, I just feel 'sad' and actually started feeling that when he talks about other women/dating etc, he pushes me away. I am highly independent and have a strong personality, which I think he admires and I have been protecting myself by trying not to get very emotional about him, being (or pretending to be) cool when he talks about his date etc, sometimes I feel 'tested' but sometimes thinking maybe this is just how he is with his close friends.
I feel in love with him but I would also be fine with the friendship. I have been working on my feelings at the moment. I have read so many posts and I do have an understanding about these men now (very enlightening, I feel a bit more outside the dream world I created in my mind now). I just wanted to hear your input as well, especially about him talking about other women; i.e.. do libra men talk about dates/other women with someone they like, is this some sort of a test, should I just move on and enjoy the friendship? Or anything else you want to comment on, please doš I think I just needed to let this out as I don't talk to anyone about him.
Thank you!
So sounds all very sweet so far, but not really.. There are times, he just stares at me for ages, or we talk and laugh hysterically, he sends me messages/photos if he hasn't heard from me for more than 12 hours BUT on the other hand, he tells me he has a date, that he met someone, it is exciting, and he does go and meet, which is obviously fine as he is an extremely charming single man and there are TONS of women that fancy him. Then I think, ok he sees me as a great friend, I shouldn't think about him, but the way he interacts with me is totally NOT friendly. I am in my 30s and have a bit of life experience and have always had long relationships and a lot of male friends (maybe 80% of my friends) and this is completely different from all. I have very close male friends but I don't talk to them or message them everyday, they don't either.
Unlike the Tauruses I know, I am not jealous nor possessive at all, I just feel 'sad' and actually started feeling that when he talks about other women/dating etc, he pushes me away. I am highly independent and have a strong personality, which I think he admires and I have been protecting myself by trying not to get very emotional about him, being (or pretending to be) cool when he talks about his date etc, sometimes I feel 'tested' but sometimes thinking maybe this is just how he is with his close friends.
I feel in love with him but I would also be fine with the friendship. I have been working on my feelings at the moment. I have read so many posts and I do have an understanding about these men now (very enlightening, I feel a bit more outside the dream world I created in my mind now). I just wanted to hear your input as well, especially about him talking about other women; i.e.. do libra men talk about dates/other women with someone they like, is this some sort of a test, should I just move on and enjoy the friendship? Or anything else you want to comment on, please doš I think I just needed to let this out as I don't talk to anyone about him.
Thank you!
My guess is he likes you but he is still weighing his options while he figures out if you are the right move. Plus if youāve told him you have no interest in a relationship right now, then chances are he believes you and thatās why he dates others. I canāt speak for all Libraās but no I do not talk about other guys to a guy that I like or want to be with. I even hate when a guy I really like, asks me about other men. The last thing I want to do is discuss other guys with the one Iām trying to land permanently. Itās awkward and weird and it throws the mood off, I have my home girls for that. The only time Iāve ever discussed guys I date with someone I like is if we start off as good friends and heās discussing other women with me, however even then if I know I want him for myself the details are limited. I donāt tell names, I donāt show pictures.
If you want something a little more solid then you can start by picking his brain. Libraās are famous for giving hints, they are not always direct in their approach like a fire sign would be. Unless they have fire in there, or perhaps maybe a Gemini moon, you wont get that direct āI like you, lets see where this goesā conversation, if you do then you will have to spark it yourself. One huge hint is Libras bend over backwards for a person they truly like/love. Their crush would barely hear the word ānoā, especially if their crush doesnāt tell them no. They love to spoil the one they like with attention, affection and whatever else puts a smile on your face. He wants to charm you to the point where he will leave his mark on your life.
If you want something a little more solid then you can start by picking his brain. Libraās are famous for giving hints, they are not always direct in their approach like a fire sign would be. Unless they have fire in there, or perhaps maybe a Gemini moon, you wont get that direct āI like you, lets see where this goesā conversation, if you do then you will have to spark it yourself. One huge hint is Libras bend over backwards for a person they truly like/love. Their crush would barely hear the word ānoā, especially if their crush doesnāt tell them no. They love to spoil the one they like with attention, affection and whatever else puts a smile on your face. He wants to charm you to the point where he will leave his mark on your life.
Now as for how and when to spark this conversation, Personally I feel you can never go wrong with good food, and soft drinks (donāt get drunk-so youāll both stay sober and conscience of whatās being said)but a bottle of wine maybe to lighten up the mood, or perhaps go out to a nice jazz bar and once the food arrives let him know you think heās great and youāre just wondering why heās even still on the market. No libra on Godās green earth is going to turn down or turn away from a genuine compliment. You will see the corners of his mouth curl up into a smile. Keep things light, and wait for his answer. This answer will tell you where his head is at as far as women in general and relationships as a whole.
If he says something along the lines of heās focused on work, school or whatever, and says basically whatever happens happens or anything close to āgoing with the flowā, then I would turn all emotional feelings towards this guy completely off. This answer means heās not looking for anything solid because heās committed to himself only, and heās not going to change any time soon. Careful though, you have to really listen when a Libra speaks because heās capable of fooling you with his charm and sweet play on words and going around your question. He may even answer your question with a counter question just to avoid answering it.
If he says something along the lines of heās focused on work, school or whatever, and says basically whatever happens happens or anything close to āgoing with the flowā, then I would turn all emotional feelings towards this guy completely off. This answer means heās not looking for anything solid because heās committed to himself only, and heās not going to change any time soon. Careful though, you have to really listen when a Libra speaks because heās capable of fooling you with his charm and sweet play on words and going around your question. He may even answer your question with a counter question just to avoid answering it.
continued: If he says he would love something special or something solid, or that he would like a relationship, then thatās when I would start digging about his feelings towards me. Kill the charmer with charm. Iād say something like this āWell I donāt know if you realize this, but I like you a lot, as a person. I love the time we spend together, and I could see myself with someone like you one day.ā He will blushā¦.hard. Wait for his response. Keep in mind, Iām going off of how you say he interacts with you. So far it seems heās mirroring you. If you are light and free, he will be the same. Libraās are not very dominant when it comes to terms of shifting the relationship to the next level, we often waste time trying to think of the perfect moment and perfect set of words instead of just coming right out and saying exactly what we want. Our partner will only hear our mouth if the relationship starts taking a turn in a direction we are not cool with, otherwise we are cool like summer breeze. Youāll have to open your mouth on this one.
Hi Lyse,
Thanks for this, helps a lot!
I think I agree with the 'weighing the options' comment, which currently pushes me away from him. I mean, it makes sense that people can do that regardless of their sign if they are not sure, but I wish I didn't have to hear about the whole processš I also do agree with the compliments bit, I compliment people anyway when I like something about them and I can see how ecstatic he gets when I do it. I am not sure about his moon but I don't think he is the 'I like you, lets see where this goes' type or he is really not sure. I didn't tell him I am not ready for a relationship and all my friends including him knew that me and my ex were breaking up months before it was finalised but he might be thinking I wouldn't be ready, and actually I am probably not!
The thing you said about 'mirroring', it is interesting, I hadn't thought of it, it might be true. I think I am not showing him all of I feel but I am sure he thinks I feel something. I am not really playing games by the way! Just being a bit cautious and my slightly stubborn nature (more like a safety mechanism due to life experiences!) won't let me tell him I like him with words unless I am 100% sure of his feelings.
I have always believed that when someone you like/love is into you, you shouldn't have all this guessing, confusion, on-off vibes, so my expectations are not very high at the moment. I just feel that we could be perfect together thinking of how much we enjoy eachother's company and I do have intense feelings for him but maybe for now, I will try to see it as a good friendship, unless a mutual perfect moment happens!
Thanks for this, helps a lot!
I think I agree with the 'weighing the options' comment, which currently pushes me away from him. I mean, it makes sense that people can do that regardless of their sign if they are not sure, but I wish I didn't have to hear about the whole processš I also do agree with the compliments bit, I compliment people anyway when I like something about them and I can see how ecstatic he gets when I do it. I am not sure about his moon but I don't think he is the 'I like you, lets see where this goes' type or he is really not sure. I didn't tell him I am not ready for a relationship and all my friends including him knew that me and my ex were breaking up months before it was finalised but he might be thinking I wouldn't be ready, and actually I am probably not!
The thing you said about 'mirroring', it is interesting, I hadn't thought of it, it might be true. I think I am not showing him all of I feel but I am sure he thinks I feel something. I am not really playing games by the way! Just being a bit cautious and my slightly stubborn nature (more like a safety mechanism due to life experiences!) won't let me tell him I like him with words unless I am 100% sure of his feelings.
I have always believed that when someone you like/love is into you, you shouldn't have all this guessing, confusion, on-off vibes, so my expectations are not very high at the moment. I just feel that we could be perfect together thinking of how much we enjoy eachother's company and I do have intense feelings for him but maybe for now, I will try to see it as a good friendship, unless a mutual perfect moment happens!
'Their crush would barely hear the word ānoā, especially if their crush doesnāt tell them no. They love to spoil the one they like with attention, affection and whatever else puts a smile on your face. He wants to charm you to the point where he will leave his mark on your life.'
This is how he is with me all the time, that is why he confuses me, I mean why on earth would you do this and then talk about other women? (partypopper!), but hey I have learned in this forum that I need to look at his actions, not the buttery attention aloneš
This is how he is with me all the time, that is why he confuses me, I mean why on earth would you do this and then talk about other women? (partypopper!), but hey I have learned in this forum that I need to look at his actions, not the buttery attention aloneš
Actually I donāt quite know why he would bring up other women. Perhaps he doesnāt know it bothers you. Heās trying to feel you out. You are guarded and when dating I donāt blame you. You shouldnāt lay all your cards out there, but if you want to move forward I would suggest sitting your Libra down and asking him how he feels about you flat out. To soften him up I suggested compliments, my weakness is good food and drinks I will talk all damn night.lol.
Donāt worry, Iām sure you know by now that Leebs are not mean or sharped tongued unless they are pushed to the limit so heās not going to sting like a Scorpion or cut like a Sagittarian, youāll be fine.
If his feelings arenāt on a mutual level the most he will do is tell you in the nicest way that he likes you as a friend, and enjoys hanging out with you. I had a Cancer damn near force me to come right out bluntly because he asked such direct question I had no way to go around them. I tried telling him I simply enjoyed his company and nothing more but his advances became so irritating that I just flat right out told him I didnāt like him like that. Even now he still holds out hope, itās irritating but heās a good friend so I go easy on him. Lol.
I can promise you though if you are guarded your Libra can sense it, and rather than boss you or force you out of your shell heāll just mirror you, charm you, woo you, and sweet talk you until you break. I had a Taurus ex that I knew liked me before he even asked for my number. I could tell by the way heād stare at me. I made up my mind if he wanted me I would make him come after me. I would get super cute on days I knew I was going to run into him. Iād stare back, and smile but I would walk right pass him. One day he got the courage to say hi in passing, so I said āhiā back, and that was it. Next thing I knew he wrote me on facebook, two weeks later he was my man. (College, shit happens fast.lol) five years later we are still cool as hell. I love the bulls! Lol. Very sweet people, generous too. The males anyway.
Donāt worry, Iām sure you know by now that Leebs are not mean or sharped tongued unless they are pushed to the limit so heās not going to sting like a Scorpion or cut like a Sagittarian, youāll be fine.
If his feelings arenāt on a mutual level the most he will do is tell you in the nicest way that he likes you as a friend, and enjoys hanging out with you. I had a Cancer damn near force me to come right out bluntly because he asked such direct question I had no way to go around them. I tried telling him I simply enjoyed his company and nothing more but his advances became so irritating that I just flat right out told him I didnāt like him like that. Even now he still holds out hope, itās irritating but heās a good friend so I go easy on him. Lol.
I can promise you though if you are guarded your Libra can sense it, and rather than boss you or force you out of your shell heāll just mirror you, charm you, woo you, and sweet talk you until you break. I had a Taurus ex that I knew liked me before he even asked for my number. I could tell by the way heād stare at me. I made up my mind if he wanted me I would make him come after me. I would get super cute on days I knew I was going to run into him. Iād stare back, and smile but I would walk right pass him. One day he got the courage to say hi in passing, so I said āhiā back, and that was it. Next thing I knew he wrote me on facebook, two weeks later he was my man. (College, shit happens fast.lol) five years later we are still cool as hell. I love the bulls! Lol. Very sweet people, generous too. The males anyway.
Thanks for the advise Lyse, and I love the bulls too both male and female! Normally I am quite an open and straight forward person but with him, I feel the need to be guarded, it is an instinct and for a while I will listen to it, looks like!
Yes @busyeyes88, he is a flatmate and that s one of the reasons I am extra cautious! We do have attraction and it is just so obvious to even people around us, i.e. his friends, my friends, flatmates etc, but then as @tiziani says, he shouldn't be talking about other women if he truly likes me. I understand what you mean @tiziani by the male friends comment, but he has a lot of female friends too so he should ideally be alright with it, especially considering the 'fair' side of libra that I have heard about quite often. I think he knows me quite a bit now, knows a lot of my friends and has seen what kind of relationship I have with them , I don't think he would be bothered by that. So my feeling is he maybe likes me but not enough to do something about it or sees me as a good friend and this is how he is with good friends; all over them!
I think I'll just take my time @busyeyes88 and see where it goes.
Thank you for your commentsš
Yes @busyeyes88, he is a flatmate and that s one of the reasons I am extra cautious! We do have attraction and it is just so obvious to even people around us, i.e. his friends, my friends, flatmates etc, but then as @tiziani says, he shouldn't be talking about other women if he truly likes me. I understand what you mean @tiziani by the male friends comment, but he has a lot of female friends too so he should ideally be alright with it, especially considering the 'fair' side of libra that I have heard about quite often. I think he knows me quite a bit now, knows a lot of my friends and has seen what kind of relationship I have with them , I don't think he would be bothered by that. So my feeling is he maybe likes me but not enough to do something about it or sees me as a good friend and this is how he is with good friends; all over them!
I think I'll just take my time @busyeyes88 and see where it goes.
Thank you for your commentsš
Posted by tizianiI was going to say something about the mulitple male friends, i dont think just Libra men wouldn't like it no man tries to wife a woman that has alot of male friends, no matter how innocent. I think it's a masculine thing. Liek personally if a guy has too many homegirls, and no male friends, i'd think he's possibly curious if you catch my drift. Like on the t.v show "Girlfriends" William had NO male friends, surrounded by females i thought he was gay the whole time. lol. of course thats tv but it happens in real life. lol
I wouldn't talk about other women to someone I was romantically interested in, I just consider it to be rude. It serves no purpose.
I'm just one Libra man though.
Either he sees you both better off as friends, or some people just lack "it" - the spark that it takes to move it to something other than friendship. Some people never get off the ground. Timing and luck has a lot to do with it. I'd probably avoid going for a woman with 80% male friends around her unless I was seriously irrationally into her beyond all reason. It tends to cause a lot of waves when you do. There are usually 4-5 guys out of those 8 that get territorial and want to sabotage her life, your life, or both. Think of risk vs reward.
Too late for me to change my friends of many years but I might try to add some more females to balance it maybe! My ex gemini boyfriend felt a bit challenged by it in the beginning of our relationship but always talked to me openly about it and got to know them all so all was good in the end. Now he sees some of them more often than me!
@busyeyes88, I have already read it; eye-openerš
@busyeyes88, I have already read it; eye-openerš
Posted by tizianiI was starting to think sošPosted by TauressThe "fair" thing about Libras is heavily overrated and overstated if you ask me.
Thanks for the advise Lyse, and I love the bulls too both male and female! Normally I am quite an open and straight forward person but with him, I feel the need to be guarded, it is an instinct and for a while I will listen to it, looks like!
Yes @busyeyes88, he is a flatmate and that s one of the reasons I am extra cautious! We do have attraction and it is just so obvious to even people around us, i.e. his friends, my friends, flatmates etc, but then as @tiziani says, he shouldn't be talking about other women if he truly likes me. I understand what you mean @tiziani by the male friends comment, but he has a lot of female friends too so he should ideally be alright with it, especially considering the 'fair' side of libra that I have heard about quite often. I think he knows me quite a bit now, knows a lot of my friends and has seen what kind of relationship I have with them , I don't think he would be bothered by that. So my feeling is he maybe likes me but not enough to do something about it or sees me as a good friend and this is how he is with good friends; all over them!
I think I'll just take my time @busyeyes88 and see where it goes.
Thank you for your commentsš
Libras have a very keen sense of what's a fair deal for them. Not a fair deal for everyone.
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Yeah the fact that he talks about other women to you pretty much means he's friend zoned you. Zodiac aside, I really don't know any man who would talk about other women to someone he's romantically interested in. That's actually the quickest and easiest way for a man to let you know he DOESN'T want anything serious with you.
Hec my Libra was nervous interacting with other female co-workers (we met at work) whenever I was around because he didn't want me to get the wrong idea and we weren't even in a relationship at that time.
I don't think you should try to pursue anything romantic with this guy unless you're cool with a FWB situation.
Hec my Libra was nervous interacting with other female co-workers (we met at work) whenever I was around because he didn't want me to get the wrong idea and we weren't even in a relationship at that time.
I don't think you should try to pursue anything romantic with this guy unless you're cool with a FWB situation.
Thanks @Sugarfoot and @Cancer Lady, I think I am giving up on him (romantically). I also think it is probably for good because of my recent breakup.
I do agree that when a woman/man is talking about someone else(s), it is not good sign at all. The way he talks about is strange, he tells me things like 'oh I have this date, I actually don't feel like going' or 'I met this girl but I got bored quickly' but still the fact is he is out there dating. I feel I am starting to feel detached, whatever the situation is; because if he doesn't like me, then that is what I need to do anyway or if he likes me and playing some strange games, he is absolutely not what I'm looking for, so it is a win-win situationš
I am definitely not interested in FWB. I think I'll just move on, keep the friendship and maybe spend less time with him not to get very delusionalš It is very difficult when you are living in the same house! I have just booked a 2-week holiday soon away to be out of the situation and hopefully be back with a clearer mind.
Thanks for your help!
I do agree that when a woman/man is talking about someone else(s), it is not good sign at all. The way he talks about is strange, he tells me things like 'oh I have this date, I actually don't feel like going' or 'I met this girl but I got bored quickly' but still the fact is he is out there dating. I feel I am starting to feel detached, whatever the situation is; because if he doesn't like me, then that is what I need to do anyway or if he likes me and playing some strange games, he is absolutely not what I'm looking for, so it is a win-win situationš
I am definitely not interested in FWB. I think I'll just move on, keep the friendship and maybe spend less time with him not to get very delusionalš It is very difficult when you are living in the same house! I have just booked a 2-week holiday soon away to be out of the situation and hopefully be back with a clearer mind.
Thanks for your help!
Know what's crazy? When i was dating my Taurus bf back in college of course i read up on his characteristics, and the number one thing they said NOT to do with a Taurus is talk about the opposite sex, or a past boyfriend. They say that Taurus are very territorial the moment they want you for themselves. I cracked up laughing when i read it because i remember we were chilling in my dorm just making conversation i brought up something about my ex and he snapped on me. Saying "I dont care about that dude!" lol. I was shocked then i burst out lauhing at him.
I think I don't mind having a mature conversation about ex-girlfriends unless it is all the time, it can actually give you a good understanding of people's behaviours in relationships and I am interested in that. Though of course if someone I like talked about current stuff, it would turn me off, which is a good thing, I feel maybe sad for a bit then move on. Many years ago, someone I met and found attractive wanted to play games by talking about girls to make me think he is very desirable, I moved on and by the time he confessed, I had already lost my interest. He pursued me for 2 years just because I wasn't interested; immature! š
Posted by TauressOh come to think of it I know a Libra that would flaunt girls in front of a girl he was crushing on because he was insecure regarding his feelings for her. So your Libra friend could very well be doing the same thing since when he talks to you about these other women, he makes it seem he's not interested in them or they fell short for whatever reason.
I think I don't mind having a mature conversation about ex-girlfriends unless it is all the time, it can actually give you a good understanding of people's behaviours in relationships and I am interested in that. Though of course if someone I like talked about current stuff, it would turn me off, which is a good thing, I feel maybe sad for a bit then move on. Many years ago, someone I met and found attractive wanted to play games by talking about girls to make me think he is very desirable, I moved on and by the time he confessed, I had already lost my interest. He pursued me for 2 years just because I wasn't interested; immature! š
I assumed he talking good things about his dates/women and not negative so that puts a different spin on it since I know some Libras are prone to playing manipulative games like that when their ego is threatened and they want to gain control.
When you come back from your time away, the first time he does something that shows more than a friendship vibe, I would call him out on and say "you know you really treat me like I could be someone you want a relationship with and I'm not oppose to giving a relationship a chance between us" and see what he says. Call him out on his behavior that way everything will be put on the table and he'll have to decide which direction he wants to go in.
Or if you don't like guys that play those kind of games then just forget about it as some Libra men can be very immature when it comes to dating/relationships.
He is a bit tricky @Cancer Lady, sometimes he says things like 'oh I have a date, might be good, exciting' etc, and I assume 'Alright, I'm in the friend zone' but mostly or straight after his dates, yes, all negative stuff. He does it in such a way that it is really difficult to understand whether he is being a friend or trying to play games. I believe I don't like guys that feel the need to do these kinds of things and although I have feelings for him, even if we got together, knowing myself, I would lose interest and wouldn't stay with him long if this is his way of dealing with things.
I will definitely keep your advice in mind though, depending on how he is with me. I am sure he will keep messaging me when I am away, he does it ALL the time although we live in the same house and he sees me everyday! I am planning to be not available for chit chat without my phone and very limited internet during my holiday anyway so that I can think clearly and not to be affected by his charm and then will see how things are when I get back.
Thank you very much!
I will definitely keep your advice in mind though, depending on how he is with me. I am sure he will keep messaging me when I am away, he does it ALL the time although we live in the same house and he sees me everyday! I am planning to be not available for chit chat without my phone and very limited internet during my holiday anyway so that I can think clearly and not to be affected by his charm and then will see how things are when I get back.
Thank you very much!
You're welcome! and keep me updated and have fun on your holiday!
Thanks @Lust, although I have pure friendships with these people, you might be right. I think because men know themselves well, they don't want the woman to have male friendsš
I will @Cancer Lady, thank you!
I will @Cancer Lady, thank you!
Now wait itās different if Iām crushing and he hasnāt approached me yet.lol.
I may flirt with others, or let him see how other guys like me because I think most men love to feel like they got the girl that every man wanted but couldnāt have. However, Iāll never do anything drastic like dance with another man in front of my crush, if anything i'll let him see me dissing all the guys that walk up to me.lol. I'll also never deliberately walk up to my crush and discuss other men with him, thatās justā¦weird. If I have a conversation with my crush I want him thinking about me āusā.
I may flirt with others, or let him see how other guys like me because I think most men love to feel like they got the girl that every man wanted but couldnāt have. However, Iāll never do anything drastic like dance with another man in front of my crush, if anything i'll let him see me dissing all the guys that walk up to me.lol. I'll also never deliberately walk up to my crush and discuss other men with him, thatās justā¦weird. If I have a conversation with my crush I want him thinking about me āusā.
Posted by busyeyes88**************************************late posting***********************************
@OP. He is your flatmate right?! Please be careful before doing anything. Do not take his "sweet words" to heart... Libras are sweet and playful, charming, gentlemanly. Just observe him. They spend a lot of time "balancing their scales" weighing up their "options". I have seen 4 sides of libras: the dark side; the "priest", fake Flakes and the player!! Libra is very similar yet very different to taurus. Libra man is just as "dangerous" as a taurus ie all the charm, the sweet words, attention, smelling good, attractive, gentlemanly... Yep women lap it up but fall prey and it don't work out.. Just keep your head.... His sweet words will make you feel as if you see falling in love but go by his actions and if he tell you he is seeing others it is more than likely true!! Just enjoy his company... Please please take your time! š
I definitely agree with everyone when it comes to "why is he talking about other women to you" What is the point of that? No one has time for silly wabbit games if that's the point he's trying to make. The thing with Libra and Taurus is the undeniable attraction between the two and like busyeyes88 said, we have a lot of the same things in common, but yet, we go about dealing with them differently. So differently that the smallest thing can make or break that relationship. Both signs can be extremely stubborn and unwilling to budge, so the stalemate begins and never gets resolved, which lends itself to always having unfinished business that can go on for a lifetime. Hence, the reason why they can and most times remain friends until the end even when the romantic side of the relationship has ended.
I agree @Lyse, I wouldn't talk to someone I like about other men, most probably because I wouldn't be thinking about other men anyway!
@Lib4Life, definitely there is some unusual attraction that both surprised and scared me very soon after I met him but now I am trying to avoid it due to obvious reasons. I now know that recently he has had some late night! dates a few times with someone he met from some dating app (he happened to tell me himself!) then he invited me to go out to a party with him just before I leave for holiday next week, I said I will be busy, then he wanted to have dinner saying he won't be able to see me four 2 weeks. I feel really drained and don't want to spend time alone with him for a while until I can see the thing between us as friendship (a sick one!) š So exhausting
@Lib4Life, definitely there is some unusual attraction that both surprised and scared me very soon after I met him but now I am trying to avoid it due to obvious reasons. I now know that recently he has had some late night! dates a few times with someone he met from some dating app (he happened to tell me himself!) then he invited me to go out to a party with him just before I leave for holiday next week, I said I will be busy, then he wanted to have dinner saying he won't be able to see me four 2 weeks. I feel really drained and don't want to spend time alone with him for a while until I can see the thing between us as friendship (a sick one!) š So exhausting
Haha @backtokemet, that is another perspective but thanks I think it would be easier to move on. I might be feeling love but the situation has been changing, so will my feelings. Taurus can be REALLY patient but only if they believe it will be worth it, this feels like waste of time at the moment unless I am missing somethingš
Oh well, life always goes on
Oh well, life always goes on
Posted by busyeyes88Haha thank you @busyeyes88, I think I'll take a break though. Maybe after I recover from the breakup+the lopsided libra -with @backtokemet's words- I will 'experience the attractive bachelorette feeling" ! šPosted by TauressIt sure does!! Read my article: libra: Fake Flakes if you have not already done so!! Tauruses are very very popular!!! š!! You will have forgotten about him in no time!!! Have fun on your hols!! Bring back a "hot hunk"!!!!! š š
Haha @backtokemet, that is another perspective but thanks I think it would be easier to move on. I might be feeling love but the situation has been changing, so will my feelings. Taurus can be REALLY patient but only if they believe it will be worth it, this feels like waste of time at the moment unless I am missing somethingš
Oh well, life always goes onclick to expand
Thanks for the insight @goligold, I am really not negative, possessive or controlling (maybe my Libra moon?), actually he is the one that always wants to know everything (e.g..what I am doing, where I am going, when I'll be back, who I am going with etc and we are not a couple) and trying to keep everything under control (maybe he has Taurus moonš and I am the one that doesn't dig these things. I have told him many times that he asks too many questions, that he should chill out, I really love my inner and outer spaceš
The reason I have written here is that I want(ed) to understand him because I like him, he shows a lot of interest and is always around me but also does conflicting things (for me this is worse than basic). I think everyone is special in their own way and I think he is being very basic by dating/sleeping around with women from dating apps, then getting bored, then repeating and getting bored again. I definitely wouldn't want an easy man like him and probably that is why I am starting to lose interestš
I like Taurus men! They have been good friends for me but would probably get bored if I had a relationship.. Hope you are having a great marriage! xx
The reason I have written here is that I want(ed) to understand him because I like him, he shows a lot of interest and is always around me but also does conflicting things (for me this is worse than basic). I think everyone is special in their own way and I think he is being very basic by dating/sleeping around with women from dating apps, then getting bored, then repeating and getting bored again. I definitely wouldn't want an easy man like him and probably that is why I am starting to lose interestš
I like Taurus men! They have been good friends for me but would probably get bored if I had a relationship.. Hope you are having a great marriage! xx
That is so not cool, no one deserves to deal with husbands'/wifes' unfinished businessesš¢ There is definitely something fishy in his chart!š
A bit of update: Today he was out and wanted to have dinner again, I needed to work at home so I said I was busy. He came home with dinner and stayed with me and helped me for 4 hours when I was working (we are both musicians). After I finished, I told him I was tired and he totally dragged me out for dancing, now it is 7am in the morning, we are just back, hugged like friends and went to our rooms. All night he was staring at me, got mad at me because some guy started chatting me?, told me he always wants to go out to such events with me because I am very chilled and fun to be with? We had great time BUT the whole time this libra forum was in my mind: ))) and I promised myself not to get confused and I am still dedicated to accept that we are friends. Cant wait for this holiday! š
A bit of update: Today he was out and wanted to have dinner again, I needed to work at home so I said I was busy. He came home with dinner and stayed with me and helped me for 4 hours when I was working (we are both musicians). After I finished, I told him I was tired and he totally dragged me out for dancing, now it is 7am in the morning, we are just back, hugged like friends and went to our rooms. All night he was staring at me, got mad at me because some guy started chatting me?, told me he always wants to go out to such events with me because I am very chilled and fun to be with? We had great time BUT the whole time this libra forum was in my mind: ))) and I promised myself not to get confused and I am still dedicated to accept that we are friends. Cant wait for this holiday! š
Thanks everyone for your comments. I actually do agree with both of you @Sugarfoot and @goligold, but I think I would find it very difficult to take the first step both because I have never done it before (and I am not sure whether he has ever), and the fact that we live in the same house would put me off. Home is very important for me and I wouldn't want to be in any awkward situation. Yes @tiziani, I completely agree with you as well, games push me away and if he feels the need, it wouldn't work in the long term anyway. When I first met him 6 months ago, he told me he had broken up with his girlfriend of 1 year because he thought she was not the one, it was a difficult breakup and that he wanted get to know people without being serious, few months later after we started getting closer, one night he was staring at me when I was reading with a blank face, I asked him 'what happened', he said 'you happened' and left. I didn't want to get deep into it so I never asked what he meant also because I was still in the process of breaking up with my boyfriend, I thought it wouldn't be fair. After that these 'dating conversations' started. My instinct is, especially after yesterday, that he likes me, cares for me BUT (a big one) his plan was different so probably he isn't ready. Not sure if I mentioned before, he is also a few years younger than me (he is late 20s, I am early 30s), so a mix of few things i.e..my recent breakup, his not intending to be in a relationship, maybe age difference. Basically, looks like maybe timing is not the best.. I have actually started thinking about all these in the last few days after reading all your comments, thank you for that, it is like my mind has opened up a bit.
I guess I will just take my time, if something is meant to happen, it will, if not, I know sometimes it just doesn't.
@goligold, I agree with @tiziani about your strength on your issue with your ex-husband. Being like this requires a lot of maturity, life experience and being able to process them with strength of mind. I hope all is much better for you now.
I guess I will just take my time, if something is meant to happen, it will, if not, I know sometimes it just doesn't.
@goligold, I agree with @tiziani about your strength on your issue with your ex-husband. Being like this requires a lot of maturity, life experience and being able to process them with strength of mind. I hope all is much better for you now.
Hello, I hope everyone is well!
It has been a while and thought I could do a bit of update!
I went for my holiday and as I had thought, he kept contacting me almost everyday for the whole 15 days I was away. Since I came back, we have been closer, still like a bit 'too close' friends. We cook and eat together, go out at weekends etc. Also in the meantime, someone I know expressed his interest in me which he coincidentally witnessed and he started getting very anxious about it although he knows I am not interested. He is doing for a gig abroad in 3 weeks for 4 days and he made a surprise and bought flight tickets for me to go with him! I have mixed feelings about it, obviously it is great that he did that and it will probably be an opportunity to understand each other better as normally we are always surrounded by friends and there it will be two of us for 4 days 24/7! and we will stay at a 2-bed apartment together. Hopefully it will be a turning point in that I will know whether this is to be friendship or something else.
In terms of my feelings, I do have them but I am sometimes not sure about taking it to another level because of the confusion he has made me experience. As a result of this, I have become a bit more indifferent and I am sure he feels that I like him but I can do without as well (and maybe this is driving him more towards me?) What do you think? I think I will but still doubtful; would you go to a 4-day holiday with this person? š
It has been a while and thought I could do a bit of update!
I went for my holiday and as I had thought, he kept contacting me almost everyday for the whole 15 days I was away. Since I came back, we have been closer, still like a bit 'too close' friends. We cook and eat together, go out at weekends etc. Also in the meantime, someone I know expressed his interest in me which he coincidentally witnessed and he started getting very anxious about it although he knows I am not interested. He is doing for a gig abroad in 3 weeks for 4 days and he made a surprise and bought flight tickets for me to go with him! I have mixed feelings about it, obviously it is great that he did that and it will probably be an opportunity to understand each other better as normally we are always surrounded by friends and there it will be two of us for 4 days 24/7! and we will stay at a 2-bed apartment together. Hopefully it will be a turning point in that I will know whether this is to be friendship or something else.
In terms of my feelings, I do have them but I am sometimes not sure about taking it to another level because of the confusion he has made me experience. As a result of this, I have become a bit more indifferent and I am sure he feels that I like him but I can do without as well (and maybe this is driving him more towards me?) What do you think? I think I will but still doubtful; would you go to a 4-day holiday with this person? š
Hello, long time!
I just wanted to thank you for all the comments and insight. They all had valid points. Following up from our holiday; nothing happened there. We came back home as friends as usual. I thought that was it I mean we are on holiday staying at a flat we rented together, spending time 24 hours together and he doesn't make a move although I do look quite interested, and he tells me something like our friendship is getting stronger than ever (go figure). After that, I kept everything friendly and fully accepted the friendship and made it known to him. No drama, no hard feelings, no bitterness. I kept quite busy with life and still spent time with him, maybe a bit less than usual. 6-7 months of up and downs, we are getting married next week. So, libras are interesting, to say the least. It feels like the adventure is just starting, good luck to me and everyone involved with one š
I just wanted to thank you for all the comments and insight. They all had valid points. Following up from our holiday; nothing happened there. We came back home as friends as usual. I thought that was it I mean we are on holiday staying at a flat we rented together, spending time 24 hours together and he doesn't make a move although I do look quite interested, and he tells me something like our friendship is getting stronger than ever (go figure). After that, I kept everything friendly and fully accepted the friendship and made it known to him. No drama, no hard feelings, no bitterness. I kept quite busy with life and still spent time with him, maybe a bit less than usual. 6-7 months of up and downs, we are getting married next week. So, libras are interesting, to say the least. It feels like the adventure is just starting, good luck to me and everyone involved with one š
Great news. Good luck.
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428Thank you!
Great news. Good luck.
When will this Taurus/Libra drama end... Ugh Ā©
I'm glad you did not pursue it. Especially if you live together. He's not ready and you may not be as well.
Like I told my Taurus friend who found someone "amazing" (a Leo) right after she broke up with her ex husband. And of course it didn't work out. Maybe figure out what you truly need. Someone who will be there for you, not beat around the bush, and show you they like you and want to pursue something BUT someone who is also going to take it slow with you. She attached her self to men right away, one after the other, and girl she's still not happy. Take it slow, learn about the guy. This Lib is definitely not ready or you are already friend zoned because he knows you are also not ready.
And just for the record. Yes, I know what that Taurus/Libra attraction feels like. I was married to one and with one for 15 years. Plus I have many best friends/family members who are. I don't think all Libra/Taurus signs should stay away from each other. (That's ridiculous.) I just think both should take more time to really understand each others' similarities and DIFFERENCES in order to move forward with the relationship. (Like any two people should, even when there is a STRONG attraction.)
You know what you need. Now don't settle for anything less.
I'm glad you did not pursue it. Especially if you live together. He's not ready and you may not be as well.
Like I told my Taurus friend who found someone "amazing" (a Leo) right after she broke up with her ex husband. And of course it didn't work out. Maybe figure out what you truly need. Someone who will be there for you, not beat around the bush, and show you they like you and want to pursue something BUT someone who is also going to take it slow with you. She attached her self to men right away, one after the other, and girl she's still not happy. Take it slow, learn about the guy. This Lib is definitely not ready or you are already friend zoned because he knows you are also not ready.
And just for the record. Yes, I know what that Taurus/Libra attraction feels like. I was married to one and with one for 15 years. Plus I have many best friends/family members who are. I don't think all Libra/Taurus signs should stay away from each other. (That's ridiculous.) I just think both should take more time to really understand each others' similarities and DIFFERENCES in order to move forward with the relationship. (Like any two people should, even when there is a STRONG attraction.)
You know what you need. Now don't settle for anything less.
Posted by busyeyes88I could say the same about Taurus men. But all signs can cheat. It's the situation, not the sign.Posted by backtokemetFor sure!!
oh wait he's a LIBRA .. he'd have to cheat at some pointclick to expand
Ah Jane, thanks for the comments, but I think you missed my last post š
"Hello, long time!
I just wanted to thank you for all the comments and insight. They all had valid points. Following up from our holiday; nothing happened there. We came back home as friends as usual. I thought that was it I mean we are on holiday staying at a flat we rented together, spending time 24 hours together and he doesn't make a move although I do look quite interested, and he tells me something like our friendship is getting stronger than ever (go figure). After that, I kept everything friendly and fully accepted the friendship and made it known to him. No drama, no hard feelings, no bitterness. I kept quite busy with life and still spent time with him, maybe a bit less than usual. 6-7 months of up and downs, we are getting married next week. So, libras are interesting, to say the least. It feels like the adventure is just starting, good luck to me and everyone involved with one."
I am definitely aware of the differences though, I have been in the last 6-7 months. I talked to him about the rollercoaster that went on for a year. He said he wasn't thinking of getting into something serious for at least a few years, at all. Then we met and he found himself thinking about 'us', which both made him happy but also scared, even frustrated! I gave him his space and he thought about it and when he was ready, he talked to me himself. Now he says he doesn't feel scared of commitment because he doesn't feel 'trapped' with me and enjoying doing most things together anyway. After I backed off a bit, he said he can't risk losing 'us'. Marriage was something I hadn't even thought of especially because he is a bit younger than me. He said he has been thinking about it for months and knows that this is what he wants and it took me two months to say yes.. It has been a really interesting journey so far. Let's see what the future will bring.. š
"Hello, long time!
I just wanted to thank you for all the comments and insight. They all had valid points. Following up from our holiday; nothing happened there. We came back home as friends as usual. I thought that was it I mean we are on holiday staying at a flat we rented together, spending time 24 hours together and he doesn't make a move although I do look quite interested, and he tells me something like our friendship is getting stronger than ever (go figure). After that, I kept everything friendly and fully accepted the friendship and made it known to him. No drama, no hard feelings, no bitterness. I kept quite busy with life and still spent time with him, maybe a bit less than usual. 6-7 months of up and downs, we are getting married next week. So, libras are interesting, to say the least. It feels like the adventure is just starting, good luck to me and everyone involved with one."
I am definitely aware of the differences though, I have been in the last 6-7 months. I talked to him about the rollercoaster that went on for a year. He said he wasn't thinking of getting into something serious for at least a few years, at all. Then we met and he found himself thinking about 'us', which both made him happy but also scared, even frustrated! I gave him his space and he thought about it and when he was ready, he talked to me himself. Now he says he doesn't feel scared of commitment because he doesn't feel 'trapped' with me and enjoying doing most things together anyway. After I backed off a bit, he said he can't risk losing 'us'. Marriage was something I hadn't even thought of especially because he is a bit younger than me. He said he has been thinking about it for months and knows that this is what he wants and it took me two months to say yes.. It has been a really interesting journey so far. Let's see what the future will bring.. š
Oh wow! Dang it. I'm moving right now and still checking in and out with this site. I didn't realize it started 9 months ago! Lol
However, after reading the first part, I had a feeling he wasn't ready. That's how I was after my marriage. It took a while until I met my Sag for things to change. I wasn't playing games either, I was just on the fence for a while. And when I met my Sag it was difficult for me to understand it could happen again. I could be in love. Gosh was I scared. Lol I'm glad you both took time to learn about each other and didn't let anything get in the way.
But I did say not to pursue it at first because he wasn't ready and a relationship should be built over time in order for you both to understand who you are anyway. And I wasn't sure if that's what you wanted to do.
Life is bliss when you both make a commitment though. Not all Libras will cheat sweet Taurus. I hope it works out for the both of you. I really do! May you both grow old with each other and have a love like no other. ā°
However, after reading the first part, I had a feeling he wasn't ready. That's how I was after my marriage. It took a while until I met my Sag for things to change. I wasn't playing games either, I was just on the fence for a while. And when I met my Sag it was difficult for me to understand it could happen again. I could be in love. Gosh was I scared. Lol I'm glad you both took time to learn about each other and didn't let anything get in the way.
But I did say not to pursue it at first because he wasn't ready and a relationship should be built over time in order for you both to understand who you are anyway. And I wasn't sure if that's what you wanted to do.
Life is bliss when you both make a commitment though. Not all Libras will cheat sweet Taurus. I hope it works out for the both of you. I really do! May you both grow old with each other and have a love like no other. ā°
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