Libra guy seriously into me—

hi, i'd just like to ask u all libra, when ur inlove with someone, how do u deal with it? do u really get that serious like wanting to move in and marry her/him lol, i mean, okay this is my story, when i met this libra guy, we were really getting along well like best buddies, we talked a lot, laugh a lot, we share stories and thoughts, he comforts me when im sad, he talk things out with me esp those that bothers me, so basically he's been a really good friend of mine.. when i met him i was in mutual understanding with a scorpio guy but now scorp and i decided to just stay friends. however, while i was still in a mutual understanding with scorpio guy this libra guy will keep on telling me that he's always there for me, he's getting weak everyday, that will i catch him if he falls, so id be straight up and tell even from the start that i can only offer him friendship and that im not ready to catch him so he shudnt fall for me coz i am not ready and i dont wanna cause him pain since i cannot accept the gift i cannot return.. i brushed him off like over and over again but he's really determined lol he'll never give me up.. i told him that he shud just divert his attention to someone else and he says "NO, i only want u, i found u and will wait for u becoz i know u will come soon". this libra guy is really nice, very respectful, got a goob paying job, highly educated, smart, knows how to balance situations, goodlooking, sweet and romantic, will make time for me even on his busy schedules, i mean lol i feel very special and appreciated, he's got everything but im not ready to commit to him and i was upfront about that im not ready and he knows its also becoz im still moving on from something that hurts me recently so he says he'll wait no matter how long that is but he scares me becoz lol once i commit to him he wants marriage right away not gf/bf thing and i was like uhh-ohh and when we talk he always talks about future with me, he loves to communicate and talk about future, like everyday he never fails to plan the future with me and btw i have 2 kids so he's like making future plans for me and my kids with him, telling me how he wanna be a father to my kids, and that how much he wants to make me happy, that is really sweet though but my only question is, is this really a serious guy talking now? coz im a pisces i always think twice on everything it confuses me a lot though i really feel his honesty and sincerity, or is this like a libra trait since ur ruled b

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ruled by venus planet of love and relationships.. he is very funny when we were starting talking and now all i can feel is his seriousness though his still funny but most of the time very serious talking in everything and he is the type of guy who'll work hard to get what he wants,.. and btw someone did our bday comaptibility here on DXP and libra guy's and my bday was 100% compatible, i was like lol seriously.. anyways, everyone welcome here to give comments and feedbacks,.. thanks in advance..

Be careful, Libra guys have the tendency to do this....they chase and chase and chase relentlessly until they have you AND then they go cold!!

Well that's what I have seen around here...

Rocky, you are called for!

Time to distance yourself. I applaud that you were upfront with him. Having been in that situation, it is going to get very awkward very fast. Take a break from each other for awhile because it isn't fair for either of you.

Posted by sweethearts
Be careful, Libra guys have the tendency to do this....they chase and chase and chase relentlessly until they have you AND then they go cold!!

Well that's what I have seen around here...

Rocky, you are called for!

@sweethearts: OMG! really they go cold after they have u? wtf! that just scare the hell of me lol.. thats exactly what he's been doing he keeps on chasing me lol and acting clingy too like please "dont live me alone, i committed myself to u i'll wait for u blah blah blah" and actually my instincts are telling me not to commit to him seriously coz idk even if i feel his sincerity, theres a part of me thats telling me not to commit lol so that is also what im telling him that im not ready to commit.. hey thanks for ur insight.. gladly appreciated.. 😛

Posted by tiziani
It's not a good sign. As we said in your original thread. Buyer beware.

@tiziani: hey yeah, i remember.. thank u.. 😛

Posted by theGrinch
Time to distance yourself. I applaud that you were upfront with him. Having been in that situation, it is going to get very awkward very fast. Take a break from each other for awhile because it isn't fair for either of you.

@thegrinch: u know what, i actually been doing that too, trying to distance myself to him lol seriously coz most of the time i feel cornered by him and, he always wanna talk and plan and plan and plan lol same topic everyday haha and at times id tell him i just wanna be alone and not talk for a couple of days hope he'll understand that i need to weigh things down and think things over and he'll be like no, that's stupidity being alone! and i was like "wtf is wrong with this guy, he acts so possessive and as if im committed to him already, though i have develop some feelings for him but its not strong enough for me to commit and i actually worry honestly coz he's really fast in doing and planning everything so im kinda like in doubt with him, so i guess right now yeah, i'll go with my instincts, i'll be careful.. thank u.. 😛

lol.

It's all talk, no action. He'll promise you the moon because you are something unattainable that he wants. These guys are notorious for chasing after the next, new shiny thing. But once they get it, they get bored and move on.

I've been involved with two who acted this way- three if you count a friend/former crush that was talking big too.

Friend- We got back in touch after ages and he was over the moon that we mutually liked eachother. I was hearing from him daily, he was making a lot of implications that we should be together. Even talked about possibly moving out here. I was a little shocked, needless to say. I had no idea if I still liked him, let alone liked him enough for him to relocate. All the talk was so unrealistic and fairy tale sounding.

Then he disappeared. Turns out he'd met someone. He proposed to her after 5 months of dating. Later on, I was talking to his sister and she said he had been on some hell bent path of settling down and having a family. So because I was there and a possible interest, he was feeding me nothing but pipe dreams. Not that I took it seriously, but wow.

Ex- A lot of talk no action. After a month or so of dating, he was asking me if I had a visa, because he wanted to take me with him on a possible trip to another country the next year. This guy was always talking big and it was a tad overwhelming, if not flattering (because really, that would make a lot of girls go "wow.")Lo and behold, he pulls a 180 after we'd been together about 3-4 months and decides he doesn't want to be with me anymore.

Recent guy - same thing. A lot of talk no action. By now, I knew the signs and just kept aloof with any of that bs. "We should do this and that!" Tons of attention. Again, 3 months in, he goes awol.

The point is that they talk the talk but they don't walk the walk. The fact that this guy is saying all this shit and he doesn't even have you is a HUGE red flag. You have kids. I'd totally disregard this because this situation screams disaster. Despite sign, any guy who says all this shit is one to watch out for. Guys who truly have any of this intent just DO it. They don't feed you frilly words to win you over. That's borderline manipulation, really.

Btw, guys who move this fast are ones to absolutely avoid. Any guy, despite sign, that moves this fast in relationships are just disasters.

It's funny because you hear guys flip out about things that girls do to rush in. The movie How To Lose a Guy in 10 days comes to mind. That crazy, rushed in crap she did after a week of dating- moving her stuff in, getting a shared pet, calling him baby names after the first date- acting like they were a couple already is what guys see as crazy and they choose to avoid those females. They feel they're rushing too fast.

So when a guy exhibits the same behavior, women just ignore it? No. It should be taken with the same regard as when guys do with women who behave like this- it's a huge red flag. It screams dependency issues. In my experience, as well as seeing other's experiences, the guys who rush in and do this bs aren't exactly relationship material and end up being problems down the road.

Tell the dude to slow down if you want to entertain the idea of being together. The fact that he won't respect your space and give you time to think it over is another red flag. In fact, I'm surprised you're even entertaining the idea of keeping the dude around. :/

wtf is with this site and lagging?? Ugh

@rockyroadicecream: its not that im really entertaining and keeping the dude around as ive said on my post i brushed him off over and over and did say everything to discourage him and yet he stayed.. ive also been keeping my distance from him and he'll keep on coming to me.. i even told him many many times that he shudnt rush me coz i dont like pressures and i am not ready for anything.. and yes the reason why i cannot commit to him is becoz he just keeps on talking and i dont believe just talks, i told him everyone can promise me this and that coz guys are notorious for doing that thats why i dont believe what he's saying and thats why i cannot commit to him coz theres something strong holding me back seriously my instincts are telling me not to.. im not keeping him around he chose to stay, i tried to avoid him too but again he'll come to me, so i guess now what matters to me is i stand my ground, dont believe him until he put his words into action and i still have to work also if my feelings are strong enough to commit to him coz right now its not and maybe this feelings are just becoz he's playing romantic.. i was just here coz i wanna know from libras if they're inlove do they really do this serious talks.. but hey thanks anyways and for sharing ur experiences about them too it gave me a clear in depth.. lol.. thank u.. 😛

When they're in love, they act. None of this talk bullshit.

All you can do is stand your ground then. Either that or tell him to fuck off.

Remember, there's a reason he keeps coming around. You have to be entertaining something he's doing for him to stick around and think he still has a chance. You should probably evaluate how you're behaving around him and see what you could be doing to encourage any of this shit from him.