Libra guy shut down after Emo-texts

He resurfaced after years, talking out our memories and how much he loves just being able to talk to me again. We see eachother and its nice. Connection was there. Awkwardness was there too. With every compliment he gave me, he also said something rude or judgmental. My guard has been up- but I show enough affection and attention to let him know I care. He has a lot of personal stuff to sort out, and he's focused on starting a company. I've been stressed and I let everything out in a stream of emotional texts. He hasn't responded. I apologized. No word from him. Think he's gone for good? I'm focused on sorting myself out anyway. I'm even surprised myself with how emotional I was that he went cold.

i should add that my emo-texts called him out on his judgement of me, highlighting his issues (substance related) and i also went into my daddy issues, lol. omg. i was PMSing and i explained this when i apologized. he hasn't responded. this man told me that i mother and he didn't grow up with mom and is now ignoring me. it hurts. thought we were friends.

i'm no dr phil..he has a huge bald head, but if you are focused on sorting yourself out anyway, what's the rush? Libra has to go weigh everything, takes time. You a Leo, btw?..get a lot of this from Leo.

*mother him

i'm taurus/gemini cusp. there's no rush for me to be with him right now, i'm just hurt that he hasn't responded to me. it's dismissive. he always responds no matter where he is in the world. i feel like i shared a lot and his unwillingness to acknowledge just hurts. he broke something-- i asked if he's gonna fix it. nothing. it's shady to me.

..serve your heart on a plate and out comes the fork. it's tuff.
I had a Taurus wife..when we first met, I forgot to give her my number.
She called about 47 people in the phone book before she got to me. 😉
It was an intense 10 years with her !

wish you luck !

i've been the guarded one. he pursued me when we dated years ago, and i feel like i broke it off. he's been the one to keep in touch with me through the years. he re-initiated romantic interest this year.

yes PMS is real. I got my period the morning after I text him that I was hurt. I told him I wasn't his shrink, so I'm thinking I made him uncomfortable to open up.

Posted by Theultra79
It's rude of him not to respond after you put yourself out there like that.

If he's really your friend, he's just processing what you said and trying to figure out the best way to respond to you.

If he's not your friend, he will continue to ignore.

Could be that this guy is just a part of your past and should stay there.

Btw,

Don't you hate that pms shit— I feel like I should lock myself into a closet with a feeding tube backpack for the duration. Geez *eyeroll*

thank you🙂

Posted by Liberal777Libra
wish you luck !

PMS is definitely real. Know it, recognize it, and FFS if you know you're losing it due to hormones, keep your crazy mouth shut. My PMS is horrific.. but it's also not license for me to drag others into my private hell, so I don't. I do solo things.. take long bubble baths, read a good book, sleep, goof off on the Internet.. and when I feel myself reacting to something (maybe getting ready to overreact), getting pissy, I take a deep breath and just STOP. I don't do ANYTHING. I just feel what I'm feeling, and see if it's just hormones. Usually it is, and I have learned to SAY CALMLY, "I'm probably PMSing right now, and I'm pretty sure that my feelings/reaction to XYZ has more to do with hormones than anything else. So I'm going to see if a bubble bath helps me feel better." And Libra responds, "I'm sorry, baby.. is there anything I can do?" And I say something like, "Fresh sheets on the bed would feel sooo nice when I get out. Thank you, love." So he knows I'm PMSing, but also knows that I'm still in control of my emotions and reactions, and still know it's not fair to spew a bunch of yuck all over him just cuz I'm feeling moody and hormonal. He respects that, and it makes him more willing to offer/find ways to make me feel better.. cuz I'm not taking my PMS out on him or making him responsible for my internal BS -- and when you're hormonal, trust me.. it's pretty much allll BS. But that's a relationship -- I'd NEVER take my shit out on a "friend" esp not a "friend" I'm attracted to or hoping for more. You see what can happen there, right?

Cuz tbh.. if I was a guy and my "friend" went off like a bottle rocket, then cited PMS as the reason why she went batshit crazy.. I wouldn't be able to help but think.. I get to wait for this, fear this, have this.. walking on eggshells once a month.. for the rest of my life if I stay involved with this chick? Asta la vista, baby. My Libra knows I'll have PMS every month.. but he also knows that I will not take it out on him, that I will continue to conduct myself with grace and dignity, and if I feel unable to do so at any given time, I will make myself scarce until I'm feeling better. And I'll come back to find fresh sheets on the bed, the heating pad laid out waiting for me, Food Network on the TV, and the REMOTE placed on MY pillow.

Also, people.. texting is REALLY not the medium for serious issues or even a serious conversation... much less "daddy issues" or telling a man what's wrong with him (homg!) -_-

Some Libra guys suck when it comes to deep emotional shit.

My ex bailed on me when I was stressing over end of the semester stuff (tons o projects and finals due) and my grandma was sick and died. I really could have used someone, but he chose to disappear (he was growing distant).

I also found out that he's bailed on mutual friends when they had just as important/serious stuff going on- another had a close friend died and wanted my ex to go with him to the viewing. He said he would, but never showed.

To top it off, guys just don't do emotions very well. Some freak the fuck out. So when you combine that with Libras and their tendency to run from any sort of rough situation, you get this shit.

I know not all do it though. It does depend on the individual and if they aren't a selfish prick or not.

And like Nefer said, keep your shit under control. We all have moments, but you went kinda awol on him. Any guy would back off and go "whoa," after that.

Posted by Nefer

Also, people.. texting is REALLY not the medium for serious issues or even a serious conversation... much less "daddy issues" or telling a man what's wrong with him (homg!) -_-

I agree with all of Nefer's post but this particular one is a big issue I see here. Texting is not communicating folks. It's not good for the sender or the sendee. Always do the tough stuff face to face. If you can't, then maybe you shouldn't be saying it.