Throughly confused by this libra man.

We met through a mutual friend and he started off aggressive. He would be watsapping me constantly and wanted to meet me every day for dinner. We started to get comfortable with each other really soon and slept together. Even though we spent almost every weekend together, it bothered me that he never made any moves to progress our relationship and never attempt to get to know me deeper. He would turn down invitations from me to hang out with my friends. Things got suspicious when he was watsappping constantly even when he was with me. And i noticed the same name appearing all the time. Feeling really insecure, i took a peep at his mobile and discovered his flirty conversation with a female colleague. He was trying to get to know her and when he wasn't with me he was bring her out for dinners. When confronted, he insisted that he has no interest in any of his colleagues and said that i just want him to cut contacts with all his female friends. Its wasn't the case, all i wanted was a little openness. In the message conversation, he was lying to the girl about being really tired and had to cancel the night's plan because i had asked him to meet me. I cut off contact with him for a week and was really cold to him. In turn, he claimed that i hurt him deeply and he has lost his trust in me. So i asked to be just friends, but he held onto me tighter.

I am confused at how to progress at this point? Do i try harder? Do i play it cool and let him initiate the contact? I am emotionally and mentally drained, because i find it hard to trust him after the incident. He still tries to see me once or twice a week and watsapp me a few times a day. I can't figured out what does he want? Does he just want to keep me around because his next target wasn't confirmed yet? Does he really wants to work things out with me? But communication between us is getting far and few nowadays. I am a Libra woman myself and has a huge ego but somehow he just has a way to get me back in whenever i tried drawing away....Please advice how i should proceed with this?....

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That's not what i wanted because i myself have many guys friends. I don't mind him hanging out with girls but i mind him keeping it a secret. I would usually just tell him about the friends i am hanging out him and sometimes even invite him to hang. But him having to find an excuse to tell the girl (him being tired and such when he was actually meeting me) did bother me.

trust me i did try and our conversation usually end up nowhere.... now i just want to know how should i behave towards him? Should i initiate contact but i know they like to chase. Should i stand back and let him have his space and wait for him to contact?

Stand outside of yourself for just a few minutes and go back and READ what you wrote.

Let me break it down...

1. You met
2. You dated
3. You had sex

Nowhere in between all of that was anything formal established, just dating, then.

4. Even though we spent almost every weekend together, it bothered me that he never made any moves to progress our relationship and never attempt to get to know me deeper. He would turn down invitations from me to hang out with my friends.
5. Things got suspicious when he was watsappping constantly even when he was with me. And i noticed the same name appearing all the time.

Still no relationship has been established, still just dating, since he conquered you (got sex) he shifted his interest towards new targets, then.

6. Feeling really insecure, i took a peep at his mobile and discovered his flirty conversation with a female colleague. He was trying to get to know her and when he wasn't with me he was bring her out for dinners

Now you're feeling insecure over a guy that you have no real relationship with, confronting him as if he OWE you something, he owes you nothing but then.

7.When confronted, he insisted that he has no interest in any of his colleagues and said that i just want him to cut contacts with all his female friends. Its wasn't the case, all i wanted was a little openness.

At this point it's over, he blatantly lied to your face, he wasn't hurt that you left, he was hurt that you caught him lying and hurt b/c you BEAT HIM TO THE PUNCH, you dumped him first before he could string you along, you dumping him completely hurt his ego but not much else was hurt..

8. he was lying to the girl about being really tired and had to cancel the night's plan because i had asked him to meet me. I cut off contact with him for a week and was really cold to him. In turn, he claimed that i hurt him deeply and he has lost his trust in me. So i asked to be just friends, but he held onto me tighter.

So now it's established he's a liar and can't be trusted but here you are asking us about this loser. I mean come on, you know what kind of dude you're dealing with, he's a PLAYER, he wants you and her and her and you.

Do nothing and he'll most likely fade out of your life. But really if he's just a friend why so much drama, maybe you should be honest about your real feelings before getting involved with this guy again.

If you date him then go ahead and date him but don't expect there not to be other women around, clearly from his side of the situation he has no interest in dating just you and you only, if you can live with that then go for it, if you can't live with that then move on.

tiki33 i like what you wrote!🙂 It did came across my mind that he owe me nothing because no commitment was made. So i bowed out at first, left him alone to go after whoever he wants. He refused. So he refused because i did it first? phewww.... thats complicated.

He refused because no one likes to be dumped, rejection stinks and does something to a guy psychologically that is used to winning, sex has strong power of persuasion as well. You can date him but don't expect him not to date and/or attempt to date other females. Set your expectations low and see how it all turns out.

He's just mad that he couldn't have his cake and eat it too. Second story here in the last day where the guy basically thinks he can be mister Cassanova and play with multiple women and have his way. BUT when it comes back to bite him in the ass, he doesn't want to have to face the consequences or admit that he's not as much the playa as he thinks he is.

Oh the male ego is full of shit...

Posted by tiki33
Rejection stinks. Set your expectations low and see how it all turns out.

+1

He's playing games eithier play back or drop him off a mountian.