Libra help please

Hi, sorry to barge in here with a question but I have been reading this forum for a while now and really need the help of you guys lol

OK......I got talking to Libra guy on the net, we chatted for ages, swapped numbers ya know how it goes..We agreed to meet up (something neither of us had done before) he lives 170 miles away from me,( about 4 hrs drive) so he booked himself into a hotel for the valentines week-end, we had a fantastic week-end and he decided there and then he was moving here to be closer to me! fast? yes! lol...he was asking for accommodation and job info etc..Got to admit I was smitten...good ole Libra's huh!

Not really bothering with the site we met on now, We chatted the following week on the phone and text etc, but not as much as we did before, and I was thiking uh ohhhhhh he has backed off and changed his mind, but seems not, we talked about our children, he has 2 boys from a previous and I have 1 son, and how he would love to meet my little boy and assured me he wouldn't want to involve the children if he wasn't sure etc as he has told his eldest son of 15 about me ...So he came back down this week-end and again had a great week-end, he talked about still moving here etc and yet again he has gone all quite saying he just wanted to be alone for a while......I can cope with that but to ignore texts I found a bit hard to understand......

he says he will be back down here in 2 weeks as he needs a week-end with his 2 boys...again no problem with that what so ever and never will have .........

Soooooooo my question is.. is this normal Libra behavior or do I need to be worried? Please help shed some light on this guy as I have not come across a Libra before lol xx

yes you need to be worried....run, any man that offers to uproot his life without figuring how it will affect him and his kids is irresponsible and full of horse cocky manipulative games, men that rush relationships (women as well) have ulterior motives, background checks, do some checks on this guy, people can be anything they wanna be online, you don't know him, you have kids to think about as well, he could be a sex offender, you really have to pace yourself with these online relationships...keep telling yourself you don't know him also him going cold and needing alone time after making all these big plans is a huge indication there will be more cold disappointing behavior in the future...be careful.

Online is a breeding ground for online manipulators

Tiki is right. You need to slow this way down. Men tell stories, good ones. It is simply foolish to believe them all.

This is not typical Libra behavior. Libra's only back off if they lose interest. If he's not somebody to worry about (very doubtful) he moved too fast for his own comfort level.

Hi guys, I appreciate what you are saying tiki, I had him checked out by a friend in the police force and he is 100% clean, but isn't there as much chance of meeting a sex offender in a pub? after all we don't know where they are living, could be 1 live opposit to me for all I know but I do see what you are saying .

Muse yes wayyyyyyyyyyy to fast and yeah I think the comfort level has smacked him around the head and reality has set in lol - spoke to him last night and he still wants to move here, still wants us together etc, he says there is nothing in Yorkshire for him anymore apart from his 2 boys who are growing up fast and he can still go see them when he likes and they can come see him here etc...Well time will tell what happens with him

Thanks again guys x

Stop focusing on him so much and put yourself into balance. Focus on your family, your friends, your interests, your job, etc.

Chances are he is just living life. You should too.

Oooh! Everyone is making great points. Listen to them.

In the long run, when you find someone worthy of you .... listen to me. Don't make the other person your life. It just doesn't work.

i agree too. libras do NOT just up and leave their children. ever!! they do what they can, to keep as close to them as they can. something deffinitely doesn't sound right. are you sure he's a libra? after all, anyone can say anything online.

Are YOU sure you even want someone who could bring their children/child into play so fast?

I am sure you had him checked out, but let's do some getting together just the two of you first and I don't mean in a sexual way.

Maybe he could be the one but take steps back lot's of steps back. You should go and see him... how he lives, what is up with him before you bring it to you.

Look at it this way, he already has a family.... You might be the way out for the family, but do you want to take that on your shoulders—

I'm just normally so level headed and never take what guys tell me instantly as the truth, but this guy seems to be doing everything in his power to prove he is not a time waster etc and that I can trust him (his words) ...Time will tell eh!