libra man confusing me

I met a Libra man online and we been talking past four months. He sounds like he is interested in me and wants to take this more serious. I want to believe in his words but because of my past experience I have hard time trusting in guys now. he initiate text and call most of the time. We are not exclusive but he tells me he is only talking to me however I see him active on the dating site. He says he goes online to just accept the interest cuz he doesn't wanna hurt anyone's feeling? WTF——?? I don't react on it because it's not the right time. We haven't even met so how can i tell him to deactivate the acct. but he text me everyday and we talk on the phone 1-2 times a week for like 10 just mins. He said he will visit me soon and keep telling me to be patience.

He asked me to give a date when he can fly to see me and I told him right before Christmas and he agreed on it. 3 days before he sent me a text telling how sorry he is but he can't come see me cuz he has to visit his sister. He was really sorry that he had to cancel. I was understanding and said its ok. He said we will meet after holiday. So now we are supposed to meet this coming weekend but he hasn't bought his air tickets or booked hotel. I get a feeling he will reschedule this date again. And he still goes on dating site everyday yet he message me everyday and tells me how serious he is about me. I am getting mix signals. He is a busy guy and I totally understand his busy schedule. But where is the limit? I already given up my 4 months and I am not sure if I can be so understanding if he cancel the date again.

Is this a Libra thing? Because I swear I met a guy last year who was a Libra and was so interested in me but never made effort to see me and when I called him on it he just vanished from my life. Can a Libra person explain this to me? Do you live up to ur words? Will you talk to someone for 4 months to play games? Are they testing me( I'm a Taurus). He sounds like a nice guy and his father knows my grandparents very well. So we both know we come from a reputed family background. But his action making me nervous and insecure. How do I handle this?

One thing i would say ur last statement he makes me insecure.....this is why some earth and water signs dont do good with air because some of us need stability and security. You have to be secure within urself first to date any air sign thats number 1. Never let anyone make u feel insecure babe. Your just dating have fun relax. U havent met him yet have ur options open so that all ur time and thoughts isn't focused on him. Secondly libras sway back ans forth with their indecisiveness until they r for sure of you or in love. Once they in love u get all the attention until then. Be strong. We all wnat to feel special by that someone if he cant see that then hey move around. Also 1 of my libra did this. Because they werent ready settle down just yet in a rel. Then i dated 1 libra where they went all out and didnt cancel dates they were motivated. It takes patience if he isnt worth it dont waste ur time it takes work

The communication by 'text' is a bit fishy.

Tell this Libra, "silly rabbit, texting is for kids."

I don't think he's playing games persay just that he's not in a rush to be in a committed relationship and asking him to delete his dating profile is a no no. You're not in a committed relationship so there is no reason for him to delete his profile, he's keeping his options open and so should you. When/if he wants to be serious with you you'll know it because he'll tell you and he'll delete his account without you having to ask him.

If you want a serious relationship right now then it might be best you move on because it doesn't appear that the Libra is there yet or will ever be. You can't control him, the only person you can control is yourself.

Thanks guys!

I do want a serious relationship and we both are in 30s. He kept pushing me to tell my family about him which I don't get it why? He thought I wasn't serious cuz I haven't mention him to my friends and family. He sounds like he wants something serious right?? Then how come he is online everyday? He is the one who is rushing it and he is scaring me. It's mix signals and I'm just trying yo understand this guy. I won't ask him to do anything , but I can control my action. I want to be smart about it and not get played.

you said you have given up 4 months. this is a mistake.

the libra seems unreliable and at the moment is flapping his gums. when a guy accounts for very little (and why not, it's early stages, you've not even met each other yet), it is mistake to put your life on hold for nothing more than some 10 minutes of small talk over the phone once or twice a week.

he is not committed to you so why are you behaving like you are committed to him? he doesn't deserve it. he hasn't earned it and he hasn't shown that he intends to treat this with the same expectations you have.

unless we met in person, chatting online and on the phone has very little value. it's just talk. to give it any more weight than that is to mislead yourself.

Posted by Bebo2014
Thanks guys!

I do want a serious relationship and we both are in 30s. He kept pushing me to tell my family about him which I don't get it why? He thought I wasn't serious cuz I haven't mention him to my friends and family. He sounds like he wants something serious right?? Then how come he is online everyday? He is the one who is rushing it and he is scaring me. It's mix signals and I'm just trying yo understand this guy. I won't ask him to do anything , but I can control my action. I want to be smart about it and not get played.

he might want something serious but he hasn't shown he wants something serious with you (at least not yet). until then it is just talk. look at his actions not get carried away by his words.

if you feel rushed, then slow everything right down. you won't get played if you keep your emotions in check and deal in reality rather than the potential of what could be. look at how he is behaving today and take your cues from that. don't get lost in the fantasy about how he might behave tomorrow.

Thanks Jeane!!

I totally get what your saying. That's why I am going to close this chapter if he cancel on me this weekend. Action speaks louder than words and it's time for me to apply that. Will know everything by end of this week.

Don't worry...you'll get a lot of EXPERT hoopla from this site shortly...lol, but he sounds kinda like he's not sure what he wants. The advice so far is on point. DO NOT put your life on hold for him or anyone for that matter that you have not even met yet. Personally, when you're really interested in someone, regardless of where you're located, you will make all attempts to meet up with them and it shouldn't take 4 months to do so, but then again, I guess dating is different nowadays in this new age dating process. I just don't understand how you can develop such a deep level of emotion and feelings for someone that you meet online, but don't really know. Just use your intuition and common sense to make the just decision for yourself. Best of luck to ya.

I'm sorry that you have to have this experience honey but it's good to have it while you're young. Libra's are very charming and they can say the right thing but look at our behavior. Words are easy to say but action is hard to fake! His behavior is saying that he's a liar, he is not into you and he likes to have a lot of women around.

Well said!