Have I screwed up?

I've been flirting a lot with a Libra man co-worker. It reached a point we felt comfortable talking about sex and things like that with one another (I'm not really on a search for a meaningful relationship and I don't think that he is either). I have a lot of male friends and he always seemed quite jealous seeing me around them. At some point, he learnt I was bisexual and asked me if I had been with a girl I mentioned I thought was attractive. The thing is, it started getting me worried he might view me as "cheap", and so I attempted to explain to him that the stuff I talk to him about are just between us, as I don't normally open up this way with people.
The problem is, at a party last night I was a little more drunk than he was, and ended up kissing a girl my friends dared me to. In a phenomenal Hollywood-film timing, he only caught the kiss. He glanced for a moment then walked away.
Later we had a long friendly chat and he was very nice and caring. All that eye contact as usual. No mention of what had just happened. But he made a joke with a friend of his (while the three of us were talking) about "not being desperate enough" to borrow a cigarette that was on offer. They giggled between them and I got concerned if this was a dig at me (could very well be my drink or my general paranoia. Are Libras ones that would act this way?). After that chat, again, he was absolutely lovely with me, asking me lots of personal questions and while his taxi was waiting for me he saw that I went to help some police officer with an enquiry, and so he stopped and waited and only left when I told him to.

I don't get a lot of one to one time with him, it's normally when he makes an effort for it and even then time is brief because we are at work, but should I perhaps mention anything? I thought I might as well ask "can I trust you that all we talked and said in the past is between us" and maybe mention what had happened with that girl (I could also add she was my first kiss of the year. Which is a tad disappointing lol).
Advice very much welcome. 🙂

You are overthinking stupid shit because your vagina wants this guy.

Stop it. You're just going to kill brain cells doing this.

Screwed up what? I don’t get it. To me there is nothing going on at all. You are casual acquaintances. Are you trying to get him to pay attention by doing shocking things or something? He probably finds it interesting but is probably also very live and let live.

(I sometimes wonder if Libras are the only sign that can legitimately be friends with the opposite sex.)

 "not being desperate enough" to borrow a cigarette that was on offer

Sometimes a cigarette is just a cigarette.

And if you would have to change who you are for his “approval” he isn’t worth 30 seconds of your time.

Well, to be fair, I don't really want anything serious.
And he came over for a chat today, which was nice. But he seemed to have stopped flirting. It's been a while since he last paid a compliment or hugged me as he used to. Today I was leading the conversation and in the end he said "good night madam" and shook my hand (?!?!). I'm not sure if it's something I've said or done, because he still does come over and talks, but just not as before. I have been a bit too available for him though and have been paying him a lot of compliments, and I suppose, perhaps, I should take a step back? Not be so available and yet still be smiley and nice when we do see each other (but maybe, busier?).
Would that work on a Libra? How do you win back the flirting?

You clued him in that you are bi before the kiss he saw. I don't see the problem here. If anything seeing that others find you attractive will spark action from him if he's really that into you.

2Moon, it'd be a bit weird to do now considering it seems he took a step back and doesn't really flirt anymore.. as I mentioned.

Girl, chill. Libras are chill af. As from what I know, he'll shrug it off and if he wants it casual he'll keep it casual.

All though it's not usual for Libras to go into things like casual sex, we do keep our word so it's not likely they'll be hesitation.

Tell us how it goes and best of luck!!!

Well, he's certainly pulled back quite a bit. We rarely talk now, he rarely makes an effort, when he does it's mainly a friendly chat.. So I mirrored him and pulled back too. And for a moment I thought it was getting better (he made an effort suddenly, to talk to me again) but now it seems to be a game of who can go longer without talking to the other (either that, or he's just not interested), and we just casually smile and say hi when we pass each other. He did seem extremely jealous yesterday though when I sat chatting to a guy friend on my own.. but again, hasn't changed a thing.

He's not into you.

I doubt he was. And if he was, he may be turned off by you slutting it up when you were drunk.

All I'm seeing in this situation is serious incompatbility overall, including in morals/views on sexuality and life. You're just trying to force something to actually happen because you have tingly vagina for dude.

Wait, you're a Leo?

*gives up and exits thread*

Be glad the flirting ended.....having a relationship with a co-worker is not the best idea, but having a casual fling is definitely a bad idea with co-workers, who see each other all the time

Posted by Pandora101
Be glad the flirting ended.....having a relationship with a co-worker is not the best idea, but having a casual fling is definitely a bad idea with co-workers, who see each other all the time

Been there, done that. Never again. Baaad idea.

I see it so much at my current job, too. Thankfully it's big enough where I don't always know about who's dating who, but when I do hear about who's dating who, wow. Currently, one bartender is dating a server, but he also used to date another bartender. That chick is all catty and fucked up about it and constantly talking shit about the server, even though they broke up ages ago. It's like wtf dude. Dating at work is awful because if it doesn't work out well long term, it's just a cluster fuck if the parties involved aren't exactly mature about it.

My own situation was crap because he insisted on rubbing it in my face when he was dating someone else. I'm like wtf is wrong with you, freak? "Here, I'm not involved with you any more, but I'm going to try to make you jealous by showing off in front of you with this new chick." o.O

Posted by Arielle83
Who the fuck dates a woman to kiss another woman at a party where people watch?

Oh you're one of those "bi for guys" chicks.

Actually, no. I've had more girlfriends than boyfriends. And if anything, I didn't want him to see that kiss, it was very very far from him. It was bad luck he happened to walk behind us at that time.

Posted by Pandora101
Be glad the flirting ended.....having a relationship with a co-worker is not the best idea, but having a casual fling is definitely a bad idea with co-workers, who see each other all the time

He's leaving soon so we won't be seeing each other all the time anyway. I suppose there's a chance we won't even stay in touch.
I just do find it odd he still gets jealous when I chat with other men, yet he doesn't come over to chat or flirt.. if there's anything left in there, maybe I should make a move myself.