Libra man confusing the hell out of me :)

Hello,

I'm a female Leo.
I work where there are a lot of "temporary" staff, let's put it that way. Around August, I was sitting in the break room and noticed a guy staring at me from across the room. I smiled, he smiled back, I looked away, looked back, he was still staring. For about 3-4 months, I'd see him often and always the same deal, staring, no talking, smiling. That's it.
One time after I said "hi" to him a few times, he came and sat by me, he looked over and I introduced myself. We started talking, casually. We have a bar at our workplace, open after hours, and he would come over, we'd have a chat and that was it. Only, every time he was in control. He'd drop some line that would make me think "wait, what does he mean? Is he flirting?" and then walk away with a cunning smile.
One night, the chat "escalated quickly". We started talking sex. As I asked if he was coming to our dress up work Christmas party, and since he said no, once he heard I was going to wear a corset, he begged me to show him pictures after. He literally lost control during that conversation. That weekend he also knew I wanted his advice, and stayed out late with me one night to help me out and was a good friend, but when we were surrounded by other people, despite sitting just opposite me, he still stared at me, as he used to. I was looking away and I could feel him staring cos he was just there... it was weird, but at the same time, very attractive. 🙂
The next time I saw him after the party was almost two weeks later, we bumped into each other in the hallway and he immediately said "how was the party?" and asked if there are pictures. I expected him to come over to me at the bar that night to ask to see them, but he ended up staying with his friends and never approached. The next day in the hallway again, he put his arm around me and mentioned again he wants to see them after we had a casual flirty chat. I mentioned this isn't the place and he should come to me at the bar at night.
But again he didn't. I feel like perhaps he didn't want to approach me when his friends were around cos he stopped just as the flirtation got more "serious". Yet he'd still wait for me when he saw me at the end of the hallway, because there it's just us at least for a few seconds..

Eventually, I showed him the pictures in the hallway, just of me in the corset, as I enjoyed the compliments and attention and frankly, anyone at the party saw me anyway lol we were interrupted though by a friend of his walking past.
I mentioned to him that I'm only showing him the pictures that aren't that "risque" since the other ones could only come out after a few glasses of wine..

Honestly, I don't want a relationship with him, but I am very attracted to him and was hoping to make a move. He hasn't been as approaching for a while now and we don't always bump into each other in the hallway.. so I worry I gave him what he wanted and that's that (surely a pic of a corset can't be it?!).

What

For some reason you can't see the end but I just asked..
What could I do now? 🙂 as I'm not really sure even if it's going to keep going or not, but I'm bound to see him again (and have time to keep trying til he finishes at the building around February).

He's already in a relationship. He's not pursuing anymore and he's keeping things out in the open, no more 1 on 1 so he basically wanted to see if he could have you if he wanted. Now that he knows he can, he has now put you on reserve and when he becomes available he'll make his move. He's not going to act on you making the moves, so the best thing to do at this point is fall back and wait till he comes back around because there isn't anything you can do to move things forward with him before he's ready.

He's single though.. I'm friends with one of his best friends so I know this 🙂

He is playing a game with you. He is doing the long game, make you want him. Make you want him. He knows you get off on the chase, and he obviously doesn't mind being the prey. Only problem is he may just be playing a game. He may not really want to do anything, just wants to have control. When I do it I really want the girl. Play along you will find out what his intentions are. You get an ego boost from the attention or you can get a Libra bed session... Have fun with it dont take it too seriously... Good luck

Yeah it's the typical Libra game when they're not looking for anything serious and he wants to be sure you understand the rules before things go any further.

I definitely don't want anything serious too.
Perhaps I should mention, I work in a theatre.. this guy is an actor. A relatively successful one. All the girls I know in the theatre have a crush on him, but for some reason it seems I'm the only one he's been staring at. I know that from that friend of his too. I'm loving the attention obviously (hell, I am a Leo 🙂 ). I am just thinking how to keep playing the game without rushing ahead cos that's me. If it was any other guy I'm attracted to by now I'd be saying "right, come back to mine.."
I was thinking next time I see him I'll thank him for the advice he gave me in the past (as it came in handy this week) and mention "I owe him one" then perhaps throw in a compliment before walking away. Cos come to thank of it, I have never ever complimented him, yet he complimented me on numerous occasions.

an actor who is a libra and has women crushing on him? no.

Look, another desperate little girl. Everyone point and laugh.

Jesus, it's 2015. Why is this stupid shit still going on?

The last two posts are obviously very mature.. well, I'm not a "little girl", but came in here for some advice. That's one of the reasons this forum exists. Luckily before you came along, I actually got some good advice.

Oh, it's not a career. My job is pretty casual. One thing I can say though, I do trust him not to show it around. He's very discreet and doesn't seem to open up even with his friends. That said, on the same note if one person even just asked him why he spends a lot of time talking to me, he'd likely stop..
Plus it was hardly suggestive. As said, anyone in the party saw me in the corset and the pictures are on facebook. He isn't though lol

Yeah I found the "he would likely stop" comment a bit weird too. My Libra and I met at worked and he was not allowed to date me due to his position however he never kept his interest in me a secret. Everyone in the department knew he was interested in me and actually thought we were dating but nothing was going on between us romantically outside the work place.

So the fact that he would hides his interest/communication with you is very telling and exactly why I said he's already in a relationship or his interest in your is not serious. When a Libra is interested in you they do not hide their interest but instead make it very known, not only to you but too his circle as well. This guy is more than likely considering if he wants to take the risk of "fun" or would it be safe to just not go there and given that you stated he has backed off, he's probably already decided he doesn't want to take the risk.

Posted by agalgalon
The last two posts are obviously very mature.. well, I'm not a "little girl", but came in here for some advice. That's one of the reasons this forum exists. Luckily before you came along, I actually got some good advice.

Then stop acting like one sweetcheeks. You should be embarrassed by what you're telling us.

Seriously, reread your post and tell me you don't sound ridiculous. Go ahead, try.

One of my best friends is a libra male who is the star of a tv channel. He flirts. A lot. With a lot of women. Sometimes discreetly. Sometimes not so. He always makes ladies think he wants them and he calls them endearing names. He's usually not looking for anything with these ladies and most of them fall for his charms nevertheless.

I don't claim to understand his motives because when he is in a relationship, he's incredibly faithful. I've seen him in and out of three relationships. But when he's single, he plays these games. He may want to sleep with you, he may not but he surely enjoys the slow paced chase. One thing for sure, he makes a great friend. He will take care of you when you are drunk, he will have your back when a guy hurts you, he will make time to listen to your problems.

So yeah, I don't have an answer to your question but I hope my little sharing helps.

Oh hey I'm a Leo girl too. Goooo Leo!