LIBRA MAN-hookup- ADVICE NEEDED

Hi all, i'm a capricorn (32 y.o). I met this libra guy through Tinder. Before meeting he was veeeery veeeery interested in me...too much for my taste..i mean i had people behaving like that before...and they were all players. We met in person, he was definitely 1000 times better in person, i liked him , his smile, his perfume all....but he was again paying me tooo many compliments ( beautiful, smart, educated, sexy...every man would like to have someone like you etc etc). I'm a distrustful person, for all the bad experiences that i had in the past, so I didn't buy anything of what he was selling me. we had a very nice dinner, he told me that he was looking for a relationship not dating just beautiful but empty girls, than he kissed me on the street passioantely then in my car, whrere we ended up doing petting. He begged me to go to his place but i said no.

the texted me right after and the next day...always be kind of romantic. I had a very bad experience months before this date, so i thought he was just playing with me and i answered him in a very harsh way "i know u want sex, so stop playing this game. we can have sex because i like u and your perfume blablabla, but don't treat me like an idiot " i decided to play the part of the cynical bitch in order not to be hurt again, because i end up believing in what they say and with my heart broken. (it was 8 months i hadn't had sex but he doesn't know that, I never had a one night stand neither...he was the third men I had).

he invited me some days after to his place but i told him, let's go to eat before...he was kind of cold, even if after a while he was talking with me, smiling and all the rest (nothing comparable to the first dinner). I even thought if it was a good idea going home with him, but at the end i decided to try.

Sex was...kind of good...he was too hardcore for my taste, nothing romantic (he was pulling my hair all the time even if i told him before that i don't like that). we talked after and he told me that he was considering eliminate tinder because there are just a few interesting women, and that he could see a possible relationship with almost zero. I felt a shit when he told me that. I thought and i still think that i played my cards very bad! i didn't let him know me for who I am. even when i was already dressed and ready to leave his house he told me that i'm very beautiful and expressed some insecurities about his aspect, but i just smiled back to him. he gave me two kisses on the cheeks....and never wrote to me again.

I decided to wrote him 3 days after, just asking him how he was. he told me there was his family here visiting him and he sent me the photo of his niece. i told him that she was very pretty and then told him to enjoy the family.

other 3 days passed and he hasn't texted me ...don't know what to do.in a situation like that...what's the best thing to do? inviting him to a dinner...not contacting him....what? i liked him honestly...we both have passion for languages, he seems a very cool guy...and I wish i din't screw everything up. Please don't be judgmental...we don't always know what to do in every situation. I just want to understand what's the best move now. can a libra man be interested again after a situation like that?

Best move? Forget him.

Why u say that?

Posted by atena2011
Why u say that?

Because all he was looking for was sex.

Because he has taken no initiative to engage with you after having sex.

Because he told you there isn't anyone (ie including you) on tinder that he sees having a relationship with.

Because it was tinder

Because even if this is all wrong and he wants to see you again, if you make yourself scarce and continue dating other men, he will still make an effort to seek you out.

Because if he is not interested, then you haven't wasted your time flogging a dead horse until the day that you realise that horse is dead.

There is only one option; forget him.

Ahhahaha i loved ur comment! Honestly i thought rationally about what happened a couple of hours after writing the post, and i had to admit...i have a basic knowledge of body language...and even if his lips were saying smth, his body was telling me smth different. I decided to try him because i wanted to have sex and i m just tired of waiting for a real good guy... (we should try everything). His words let me think that maybe he judged me for having sex with him...but honestly....a man who thinks like that is not the kind of man i want, or he was fake from the beginning (the impression I had)otherwise he wouldn't have behaved like that.

So.. i want to follow ur advice!! Screw him!! 😂😂😂

Posted by atena2011
Ahhahaha i loved ur comment! Honestly i thought rationally about what happened a couple of hours after writing the post, and i had to admit...i have a basic knowledge of body language...and even if his lips were saying smth, his body was telling me smth different. I decided to try him because i wanted to have sex and i m just tired of waiting for a real good guy... (we should try everything). His words let me think that maybe he judged me for having sex with him...but honestly....a man who thinks like that is not the kind of man i want, or he was fake from the beginning (the impression I had)otherwise he wouldn't have behaved like that.

So.. i want to follow ur advice!! Screw him!! 😂😂😂

Yeah, I'm not judging you. Your body, your choice.

I think librans can be confusing to other signs who are more straightforward in how they speak and act.

I think sometimes people need a libra interpreter.

I wish you all the best. I hope your good guy is not too far off.

I mean you were playing a game too. So next time be straight up and foward instead of Tryna be a bitch at first like you said you were doing.

There was no reason for that.

Even if he did like you, you were doing that asshole Capricorn thing that makes people think you don't have any emotions anyway. Your in your 30's and still playing emotional cards. My cap used to say that play the cards your dealt mess. Try to grow emotionally so next time you don't show all your cards 😉

Posted by jeane

Posted by atena2011
Ahhahaha i loved ur comment! Honestly i thought rationally about what happened a couple of hours after writing the post, and i had to admit...i have a basic knowledge of body language...and even if his lips were saying smth, his body was telling me smth different. I decided to try him because i wanted to have sex and i m just tired of waiting for a real good guy... (we should try everything). His words let me think that maybe he judged me for having sex with him...but honestly....a man who thinks like that is not the kind of man i want, or he was fake from the beginning (the impression I had)otherwise he wouldn't have behaved like that.

So.. i want to follow ur advice!! Screw him!! 😂😂😂

Yeah, I'm not judging you. Your body, your choice.

I think librans can be confusing to other signs who are more straightforward in how they speak and act.

I think sometimes people need a libra interpreter.

I wish you all the best. I hope your good guy is not too far off.

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Thanks Jeane!

I should date more and worry less!! 😂

Posted by miriyahhh
I mean you were playing a game too. So next time be straight up and foward instead of Tryna be a bitch at first like you said you were doing.

There was no reason for that.

Even if he did like you, you were doing that asshole Capricorn thing that makes people think you don't have any emotions anyway. Your in your 30's and still playing emotional cards. My cap used to say that play the cards your dealt mess. Try to grow emotionally so next time you don't show all your cards 😉

That's for sure!

I've learnt a lesson from this experience too...so it was worthy having it...and no, the guy was truly just playing from the beginning. I felt that. But his words after threw smoke to my eyes.

he was not even my type in bed (i always try at least twice a man...but i'm sure he cannot be better than that) and i was worrying for nothing...😂😂😂😂😂