Libra Man, Virgo Woman - Need Advice!

I have fallen in love with the most amazing Libra man, and we just celebrated 1 year together! He moved in with me 5 months ago, and things are going well. We're "mature" adults (him 41; me 53), and he's mentioned marriage a few times. We don't have huge discussions about it, but it's been mentioned.

My reading tells me that Libra and Virgo can be a good match but isn't always. Maturity has taught me NOT to be a critical Virgo, and I'm much more laid back than in my younger years. He says my "always happy" attitude is what makes him stick around, and I think that's because he feels balanced. But, I have some questions and want a Libra point of view to see where I stand with my Libra man.

He calls me often from work (or texts) just to see what I'm doing--so sweet. Used to, he would text "I love you" or something sweet--not so much now. We always say "Love you, bye" when getting off the phone, and I hear about it if I forget. 🙂 He is affectionate but not too, and I'm very much a hugger, toucher, and kisser. I've had to learn to back off, because he's mentioned that I don't need to do this all the time. I don't bombard him with "love you" all the time either, because it bothers him. Although he didn't get me anything to commemorate our year together or my birthday, Christmas or Valentine's Day, he listens to me and remembers things that just surprise me so much like taking me to dinner somewhere after just mentioning that "oh, I've been craving that for dinner" or "we should take a drive to the mountains this weekend." He doesn't buy flowers or gifts, but he built me a potato bin for my kitchen when I mentioned that I wanted one, after researching YouTube to find out how to do it (I found this out when I was searching the iPad history to find something I'd looked for earlier.)

I know he loves me. He tells me he's in love with me and he's crazy about me. BUT...there's just this nagging feeling that I can't shake. Does this sound like a Libra man who has found "the one" that he wants to share his life with? How can I tell if this is the case? What are the signs that he's thinking of leaving the relationship? WHERE DO I STAND WITH MY LIBRA MAN?

Well, as a Libra female, I've heard that we're a little different than our male species, but some of the common Libran traits are the "non emotional" not so "affectionate" traits. We are not the most emotional people, and space is something that's a must. We can be affectionate in the very beginning, but after after a while, we kinda slow that down too. I've been accused of not saying the "I LOVE YOU" line a lot myself, but it doesn't mean that we don't love you. We just show love in different ways and one of those ways are doing those very little small things that makes you smile. We love doing special things for the one's we love. If he was not interested, believe me, you would have known by now....especially at age 41. Sounds like he's ready to commit to a long term relationship, but he's still a little unsure. However, with all that being said, I still say......stay in tune with your WOMEN'S INTUITION because it never leads you astray. If something still doesn't feel right after a year, keep it in the back of your mind and always take note of it.

Beware of that nagging feeling, it's there for a reason and shouldn't be ignored. Deep down you know what it is about and you should sort it out as soon as you can.

I think you're getting yourself worked up over nothing.

Thanks for all the comments. There have been NO behavior changes to speak of--something just seemed off. He does have a moodiness cycle from the 18th thru the end of the month--sometimes it's more noticeable than others. When he arrived home from work last night, he commented in his childlike voice "I like you a little bit", which he does quite often. Then, while he was playing with the dog, he said, "Well, I love you a lot and I like you a little bit." That let me know that everything was okay and he was feeling balanced again.

It's nice to get information from a Libra, and I appreciate all of you responding. I feel that he is ready to commit, and I'm willing to be patient with him.

Posted by tiziani
"I love you a lot and I like you a little bit"

Funnily enough I know exactly what he means hahaha

Tiziani, can you explain what that means exactly—

To put it as simply as I can, liking a woman's company is a lot harder to come by than loving her. When it comes down to it, that "liking a little bit" is going to make all the difference in the world in the tough times, believe me.

if he said that, it's a good thing.




Thanks! He is a man of few words, and I've come to learn that when he says something I need to really pay attention. Even though he isn't very outward with the affection and PDA, I know he loves me.

I've heard that Libra men need to see mirroring in the affection they show. I'm much more "touchy-feely" than he is, so how do I balance this on a daily basis to let him know he's loved without making him feel smothered?

He's hinted at marriage during this year and says he's never talked about it in any other relationship. Even though he hasn't discussed it recently, could he still be considering it with me? I don't know what the signs are when a Libra man is going to propose.

Thanks for your comments...they're very enlightening!

I don't know much about Libra men, i've never dated them, but as a Libra woman, i can be madly in love and affectionate at first, i will go out of my way to be romantic, remember dates, remember everything about my partner, but then after a while, it fizzles out, more and more, i'll make less effort as time goes on, but i'll still stay in the relationship because i'm comfortable, even if i'm not in love. and i become irritated if someone shows me too much affection at that point, it makes me feel a bit ill. thats what happened to me in a four year relationship. he was a Cap who nagged me all the time, i hate being nagged, it is a huge turn off.
but when i had met someone i felt like was "the one", a virgo man, it was constant love, over the top affection, and romance 24/7 for two years straight. i said i love you 10 times a day, maybe more.
but like i said, i dont know much about what the libra males are like, this could be nothing, but if i put myself in his shoes, there could be a chance he is just in the relationship because he is comfortable and not because he has found "the one".

Posted by londonlibralady
I don't know much about Libra men, i've never dated them, but as a Libra woman, i can be madly in love and affectionate at first, i will go out of my way to be romantic, remember dates, remember everything about my partner, but then after a while, it fizzles out, more and more, i'll make less effort as time goes on, but i'll still stay in the relationship because i'm comfortable, even if i'm not in love. and i become irritated if someone shows me too much affection at that point, it makes me feel a bit ill. thats what happened to me in a four year relationship. he was a Cap who nagged me all the time, i hate being nagged, it is a huge turn off.
but when i had met someone i felt like was "the one", a virgo man, it was constant love, over the top affection, and romance 24/7 for two years straight. i said i love you 10 times a day, maybe more.
but like i said, i dont know much about what the libra males are like, this could be nothing, but if i put myself in his shoes, there could be a chance he is just in the relationship because he is comfortable and not because he has found "the one".

Thanks, Londonlibra! I've found that when I back off and get a bit more quiet, he comes forward. He doesn't like it when I back off, but he doesn't like too much affection either. Over the weekend, I made an effort to touch more when we were out, and he liked that. He just doesn't initiate. I didn't bombard him with "I love you" all the time, and he initiated that, too. Maybe a little passive-aggressive behavior going on.

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Posted by BreezyVirgo
WHERE DO I STAND WITH MY LIBRA MAN?

Lol. Story of my life.


Anyway, I still stand with the same reply I wrote to you in your previous post, OP.
Though I'm curious as of what Neptune aspects you two have in synastry. That might shed some light as of why you're a bit paranoid about his feelings for you.

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I don't have a pic of his Natal Chart, but I have the text info. Would you like to compare?

Posted by BreezyVirgo
I've found that when I back off and get a bit more quiet, he comes forward. He doesn't like it when I back off, but he doesn't like too much affection either. Over the weekend, I made an effort to touch more when we were out, and he liked that. He just doesn't initiate. I didn't bombard him with "I love you" all the time, and he initiated that, too. Maybe a little passive-aggressive behavior going on.

I wouldn't say it's passive aggressive. It's just the way things are. There are times he'd initiate and there are times you'd initiate. The problem is, you're over analyzing every minutiae of your interaction with him. Let things flow the way it's supposed to. CHILL! RELAX! ENJOY! LIVE IN THIS MOMENT!

Think about how the air moves or the waves of the sea, it fluctuates, the rhythm varies. That's how you should be. At the end of the day, does it matter who initiates first? It would only matter if you notice that it's always you that's initiating every interaction.

You probably wouldn't like the song but at least read the lyrics. Try to apply this in your life.

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Posted by BreezyVirgo
I've found that when I back off and get a bit more quiet, he comes forward. He doesn't like it when I back off, but he doesn't like too much affection either. Over the weekend, I made an effort to touch more when we were out, and he liked that. He just doesn't initiate. I didn't bombard him with "I love you" all the time, and he initiated that, too. Maybe a little passive-aggressive behavior going on.

I wouldn't say it's passive aggressive. It's just the way things are. There are times he'd initiate and there are times you'd initiate. The problem is, you're over analyzing every minutiae of your interaction with him. Let things flow the way it's supposed to. CHILL! RELAX! ENJOY! LIVE IN THIS MOMENT!

Think about how the air moves or the waves of the sea, it fluctuates, the rhythm varies. That's how you should be. At the end of the day, does it matter who initiates first? It would only matter if you notice that it's always you that's initiating every interaction.

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Thanks for your input, Aesma! The song was intense, and I am trying to just live in the moment! I tell myself every day, "What's the worst that can happen? The relationship falls apart? We lived without each other before, and we could do it again." I'm perfectly content NOT to be in a relationship with someone who is dishonest. I love him and want to be with him forever--I just think he's still not 100% sure, as someone else posted here.