libras and love

I am Aquarian female,,I got a question, do libra men fall in love easy/fast.
Im asking because I been talking to a libra male,more than friends. and I must say, he lifts my moods and says all the right things,,in the nature. and well he told me he was inlove with me,,I dont feel the same way back. i am attracted to him, got the chemistry, but I couldnt say I love u...I havent even been seeing him very long...I told him i want him to be 100% sure he feels this way & I dont want him to say things life that with out meaning it- i take it seriously..so was so understanding,,and still stuck to his guns that he does love me...I am trying to be careful..but I dont know to believe him,,and he hasnt tried to take advantage of me. oh and he hasnt known me for more than a week...so see where I am comming from,,I just cant accept a person falling inlove so fast...0h and he declares his love every time we talk,,I asked him to refrain from saying that ,,till I know somewhere down the road that I may feel the same way---be farrr down the road however,,,yet he says he couldnt go a day with out telling me his feelings he he tried..omg hasnt been a week..being aquarian, I dont spill my feelings so easily..or fast. ok input would be helpful...

AK

That is strange i'd be cautious about that one too,he could be trying to play you,the one libra guy I know took eight years to even move in with his now wife.But at the same time I know libra females who are very much leapers so if there was a connection for him he might act on it as well,I don't really know what to tell you.

Hi girls,

I dont know if I would call falling in love fast a Libra trait or not. Seems more like a personal choice to me. The only thing I would be wondering was if he has a high enough level of self esteem within himself.

To declair his love in such a short time seems a little desperate to me in regards to making sure you dont get away from him maybe. What do you think? Could that be the fuel that is fanning that fire in him.

I am not stating that anything is completely wrong wiht not having enough self confidence, but I would watch out for any signs of him being to possessive towards you. If this is the case you will see it soon enough I think.

Does he prompt you to say it back to him? Or does he say it does not matter if you cant say it back yet? I think I would heed Tiamat's suggestion that you go slowly with this one and watch carefully. I am not supprised that you feel like he says all the right things, that does happen to be a Libra trait! So see it for what it is worth ok. And I am a female Libra by the way, so I know a little about that one. We can be somewhat insecure at times, but the love thing so fast just doesnt sit quite right with me either.

Love takes time to develop and is not possible in such a short time. He is infatuated with you thats for sure, but in true love already I just dont think so! Who knows maybe in a few months time he will still state he loves you alot, time will tell!

Hope it all works out, best of luck to you!

TW2

I agree, I been avoiding him. he said he hopes one day I will feel same way. he is very confident about himself. he has a child and I think he should be more careful. he does bug me though to see if I am feeling anything, I dont. we have good conversations, and connect, but he is causing me to not want to talk to him. he even "checks" in with me. gave me his home,cell, and work numbers, calls me from work,,tells me in front of his coworkers that he misses me and loves me, im like,,ummm ok,,but arent you sure its not just the thought of loving somebody that ur inlove with and I mentioned to him I thought he was infatuated with me, he said no its love and he hasnt said that to any woman in years, im like yeah right. he even said he wouldnt minded if I talked to his lil girls mom. I am thinking its a ploy, something to say to shut me up. and I feel he is controlling, he said the computer are more important than him, give me a break, we not in a relationship and my friends are important to me. I know the signs of possessiveness,,and I think he showing signs. the lil comments an checkin in with me, and wanting to know what I did all day..so I been avoiding his calls. maybe he will soon realize its not love lol I even let him hear the rude side of me,,he still calls,,lol..he calls from work,,asks me to call him back at certain times, just to say hi, I did once. and said are you busy, he replyed, for you , never. I mean thats sweet, but im not that gullable. thanks for the help. I think I will decrease our talking times and see how long he will go, I even told him I talk to other ppl,,and he said thats fine, but I bet he is boiling inside..haha..I dont know what I did to get this guy this way, and so soon..or it wasnt me and he is more desperate than I thought. eww that means im a attraction for desperate guys,,do I have stupid or desperate stamped anywhere..lol
oh and yes I agree too that libras say all the right things,,lol this one was at first...til he um said I am falling for you,,lol and then,,shortly after that, my heart sunk,,not in a good way,,said the 3 words..one guy,,just one guy is all im asking for thats not a player , psycho, or desperate, lmao. oh and thats tall..lol


AK

Hello,

I was with a libra man, and he did the same thing, he said I love you within a weeks time. Thats just the way they are sometimes. They get all crazy over you right away, just head first into things. Just there nature I would say. They are not pre thinkers, they jump then suffer the aftermath. I was with the libra man for one year. He still loves me now, after 5 years! But a bit of advice, from my personal experience they like a good chase! Do not be dependant on them otherwise they will loose respect for you.

Hello

I've been with a libra guy ( for the last 9months) and he has been just like that, declaring his love from day 4, which made me a bit suspicious. It's like he's read a big book on 'hows to ' on relationships. Declaring his love at every corner,saaying all the right words and pretty insecure at times, subtly checking up on me.

What is confusinf is that he is contradictory he has been a big flirt and he still is . He's got a very good female friend that as he says 'just needs a listening ear and he's bored with her but she needs someone to listen to her so there he is' ( yeah whatever).he wanna know all i do when im not with him, he's not telling me much about his free time/ it's all very vague and i take it as half truths and white lies.

When we go out he is 110% dedicated to me to the point that if any other men talk to me or give me a smile he comes over and 'reclaims the teritory kissing me and hugging me' like nothign happened, which has started to piss me off.

He's go my name tattooed on him which is realy freaking me out, and i told him. Whenever i get upset and i suggest maybe its better for us to split up, he is so desperate to go back together, i can sense that breakijg up would be a terrifying thing for him.

He's getting all these girls coming saying hello and kissing him on the cheek and i see him sulking cos im there with him. i never asked him about who they are ( ive never been introduced), and he's never had the intention to tell me.

I think they are insecure and need somebody honest to be there for them 100% . But they do like to play and 'joke and have a laugh' outside the relationship. they only portray the good image int he relationship which can be so cold at times, they do everything right, and that leaves me wonder how is the real person. In my opinion libra guys are very possessive.

Thanks so much for the advice. Heres whats been going on so far since I posted last...he called me yesterday, I didnt talk much, of course,lol and then I went to bed early and well couldnt hear my phone ring..so he calls my this morning to wish me a Happy Mothers Day. Ok, so I thank him and he of course asks me about how my day went the day before and I say the usuall,,cept this time i included I babysat and he asked bout my day today so far, I said going good and I am on my way out the door, so he proceeded to tell me to call him around noon or so- the usualy time he wants to talk,,he works from 4pm-230am..so..I didnt call him at noon,,was busy. getting ready to go get last minute gifts for my mother-forgot to get anything ,ooops lol. So It was 330 pm and I was in Wal-Mart(love that store) I knew it would be noisey and maybe u could hear me on my cell phone,,hehe I called him (yes knowing it would end the call very quickly) so he couldnt talk much-why! he got pulled over by the police,,awwwww so he said to call him back shortly,,oops,,I forgot. not really, but I was soo busy at my familys house and I possibly couldnt have time to to be rude to them to talk on my cell to a guy I havent known very long. soooo..he was working and he couldnt call me unless he got possible time..well I get home after 10pm,which wasnt that long ago...got on here..and well guess who ims me and says,,there u go on that computer again, I didnt respond,,pc froze up..so then he put in again thats ok I still love you...I couldnt respond,,pc still freezing up..so by time I got to say aww ur sweet, but I just got home and please dont say u love me...he signed offline..(he has internet access at work he is the mgr so he pops on/off at random) so if he expects me to call him at work again,,hes outof his mind..I told him I dont want to get him in trouble,,he claims no he is the boss there,,but sooooooo what im trying to get out of this,lol...I mean I have calle dhis work in the past,,ya know when I wasnt getting freaked by his proclaiming his love. so now thats where it ends..I think I would be more than willling to talk to him as I have starteed to,,if he wouldnt have said the i love yous..oh and yes girls,,of couse he trys to keep saying all the right things..but in back of my mind I cant help to think,,he is playing me. should I not judge yet and see where or how far he goes? oh heck what am I thinkin,,Im soo confused..hmm 1. he is a nutty desperate sicko or 2. he really has feelings and jumped in with both feet. which I did ask him before "do you always have a habit of jumping in the water with both feet first" he replyed no I dive in hands first....ummmmm ok..oh yeah one more thing,,again on the phone this morning,,,he said the love words again,,said he cant help but share how he really feels..he said I am everything to him and he cant wait til he can hear those words from me ...ummmmm ok...I am try think positive of things but...im also trying to be realistic as well. hmm time will tell his true actions will surface. I just hate to think I clicked so well with this man and now,,he is driving me away...I always liked and perferred to get to know somebody--slowly..not rush/jump into anything. ok I will let ya know how things go..I am thinking of telling him I need time away to think and determine if he is what i need right now. wish me luck!

AK

Hello,

I am new to this board and saw your post.

It is good that you are *concerned* about your libra man saying he loves you so fast. It is one of the top 10 signs of a controlling person. Sounds just like my 'Ex' who told me he loved me a few days after our first date. Something inside told me to be careful and I didnt listen. Found out he was VERY controlling.

Not that your Libra guy is, but just good that you have your eyes wide open .

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Good luck AquarianKisses with your libra boy 😄. I am trying to keep mine at distance purely cos i dont have much free time now and all i get is almost stalking from him!
😢. he calls me desperately from hour to hour that i almost have had enough. and i get to be blamed that im so insensitive and uncaring. I think you're right Featherleaf with the controlling thing.

ok update here, I havent spoken to him since posted last, he called me after hours and lef t a voice mail at 2am- I was asleep!...nor did I return his call. so yesterday I left my internet on and had my away message up- he came on,,and didnt even try to im me, and today well he has beenon for 2 hours and not once tried ot im me- he is in a chat room! hahaha player!!!! finally, after ignoreing him, his true side comes out, oh and last time he talked to me, he wanted to know if i could love him!!! omg,,I said not if u keep pressuring me. oh I proceeded to tell him I am going to visit my ex husband- who lives 3,000 miles away so he can see our daughter- omg he was like oh,,so you cant come see me then--hmm never promised u I was comming to see you, hello my daughter is more important-he should know this being a daddy he claims to be. so I think th at also annoyed (as my friend calls him) Psychoboy. I feel better - alot better and not confused about what type of person he is anymore- thank you all for the helpful advice.

HUGGGS
AK

AquarianKisses,

I was with and lived with a Libra for almost a year inbetween my two marriages and he was not like you described. He wasn't quick to profess his feelings towards me, though I know he had them for they came out in other ways. And yet, he was controlling. So, I'm not so sure that by him saying that to you so fast, that he wants to control you, or maybe, he does. Anyway, I just wanted to let you know that the one I was with didn't say right away that he loved me.

But, I don't know if maybe we (we, meaning, everyone) use this term too broadly. There are many levels of love. I loved the Libra man I lived with, I love him for many qualities he possessed - still do. I didn't have to be "in-love" to love him, nor him me. Even brief affairs that are purely sexual, is still a form of love. Perhaps, he does love you. I think I would be analyzing the type of love he feels, rather than if he is honest and true in his feelings, or not. Seems like most people (myself included), have this pre-concieved expectation of what "love" is suppose to be. Many people love all kinds of other people, animals, and things.

It's possible that he does love you, the question is, what about you does he love? Personally, I've fallen in love with someone at first sight - before he even knew that I was crazy about him, before he even looked in my direction. I knew, I just knew that I was completely in love with the man and I married him four months later. We are still married, 23 years later. Sometimes, it happens. I don't know your Libra, only how you feel about him and his intentions, but, I would at least, try to understand and give him the benefit of the doubt by asking him why he thinks he feels the way he does about you, instead of automatically assuming that his intentions are insincere. Maybe he really does feel deeply for you and if so, isn't that valueable? Even if it doesn't work out between you and you can't be happy together, it's still nice to be needed, loved and wanted - even if it's only a brief moment in time.

I don't know, just my thoughts here. Hope they help!

ty P-Angel, but I spoke too soon,,he called me today 2xs,,I didnt answer,,and what I mean about him loving me,,he said" i am in-love with you" so I havent taking out of text what he said..oh and what if this guy never seen me? this is allll over the phone...he is scaring me...oh and when I get online i have it to where im away,,im on AOL..and he pops on and off quickly,,,hmmm wonder why...well i dont agree that he loves me..and he made a remark that I am to call him on his cell phone so he can return my call ..so I erased his message and didnt call him..he is at work,,he usually has me call there...so whats so different now..and he was in NJBBW chat room today for over hour,,hmm if he loves me,,he wouldnt be chasing other women...anyways..You m ade sense too,,but I feel he showed me what he is really about,,but the only thing is,,I can be a real royal bi*ch no problem,,but I have been finding it hard to say hey,,leave me the hell alone,,so I am what seems like hiding,,why dont I have the guts I usually do,,unless its just the way my planets are lined up right now,,and I would never in a million years thought 2xs about telling some guy off..ugh,,ok I dont care for this guy,,so why am i findin it hard now? I dont like games and I surly dont want to pull one...ok help me again

AK

Libra men like the idea of being in love- i learned the hard way with these men- they ar charming and very, very romantic..yadda, yadda- when they are "in love" with you it could be overbearing and they cling (especially if scorpio is in their chart- forget it!). I learned to trust men who dont say I love you- only felt it once though many times it was lust or an infatuation. What is love anyways? It sure cannot be put into words: it's actions.

AquarianKisses,

You say that you don't care for this guy and you probably don't, and yet, you find it hard to blow him off completely. Of course, you've tried to be nice about it and that doesn't work, so you know you have only one choice - to be a real b.tch about it and rid him once and for all - yet, you find it hard to do. That's probably because you are so sweet and it doesn't feel very good to have to be so mean to someone. But, sometimes, there is no other choice. It's so odd, all the stuff I see written in here about Libra men because the one I lived with wasn't clingy, possessive or sentimental. Of course, he was a little controlling, but not like what other people have experienced. Maybe we are all a little controlling in a way - it's called being independent.

Anyway, I think the main reason why you can't get past having to tell this guy once and for all is . . . now, don't take this the wrong way because we all have this inside of us, but . . . it's ego! Some people have more, some less, but it's in all of us. Eventhough you know that you really don't like him and don't want to be with him, or try to develop any kind of relationship - it still feels good to be wanted. I really hate that side of myself too, but, it's there. When someone showers me with affection, or buys me something special, or even just looks in my direction with glimmering eyes - I can't help but to feel like I'm adored, even if his intentions are only for one thing (we all know what the one thing is). It's just our stupid vanity and as much as it feels good, it also feels terrible once we realize that we led someone on just to satisfy ourselves. I think that's why you are having a problem with this.

So, the solution is to find someone else, even if it's just casual and platonic. Find a male friend who is interested in you in some way, even if it's intellectually and all of this will go away. Once your focus and attention is on your new friend, being able to tell the other man off will be elementary.

Good luck and I'm sure you will find a wonderful man.

you be careful there darlin' this boy sounds a little strange fallin in luv so fast like that. Can't be too careful who you meet in cyberspace these days. And you get yer Dad or brother to record a message on yer answering machine. That'll scare off the varments. don't put yer own voice on there, if you live alone.

I have been avoiding this man all week, told him he is going to fast, that I cant give him what he wants, I preferr to be friends, yet he kept going saying he wants me to give him the love back and he was not going to give up-ugh. I even left my net on for 2 days -deleted him from messenger. blocked him, he still found a way to mesage me last night an made comments about I was online for 2 days and not talk to him-who said I was at the desk. and how did he still message me. like he is stalking me online..then he made comments my life is more important-hell yeah, I got kids. so then I said whatever- bitch mode setting in. Then,,like he decided he was done with me-after I told him I cant be with him like he wants. he said, This long distant thing isnt working out- I said,what long distant thing-there never was a US. then I proceded with BYE. he said bye. hopefully he gets the picture.
Also he wasnt the only man I was talking to. I have a nother friend whos been interested in me, but he isnt trying to get in my life where im not ready for him. He understands the "just friends" part. I even told him about the libra guy. He was skeptical of him. P-Angel, you made alot of sense, but i dont think it was ego, I think it was trying to decide not to hurt him if he really was having these feelingsa for me, or if he was desperate, how to really figure out whats going on and jst say goodbye. well its done with, he was desperate, and trying to control when i did anything,,and when I didnt do what he wanted, his true actions surfaced. He even went as far as yelling at me for not returning his calls on my voice mail last night..omg...
well True colors showed through...thanks all for the advice...

🙂AK

ok,,I got a lil bit that happened since,,,he imed me again-after I blocked him,,and I wasnt on,,my son was on playing a game,,and he proceeds with so we're over now? FU then..omg,,there was neve a us! I replyed with watch you mouth and leave me alone,,there was never a us..and I got offline. so, I am glad I never got invoved with this man, just hope he leaves me alone now..and ty p-angel for you kind words..Im in no hurry to find mr.right my main thing is me and my kids.

🙂
AK

Libra men love the chase and can say and do the right things. But beware: they are superficial and won't commit. Great for sex but that's about it.