Cancerleo32
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Libra's when liking someone is everyone perfect?
I think that everytime I meet a decent guy I really want them to be THE ONE. But the reality is they are only human and can not live up to the little "perfect" persona that I initially created Then when I realise they were not the person they used to be (which they never actually were!) the fantasy is gone and there is nothing left to do but break it off.
My mum is actually bored of hearing me talk about the latest guy that is "amazing and so right for me" she just smiles and shakes her head when I tell her these days lol.
This was more when I was younger though, but they do say Libra's are in love with being in love and unfortunately, even though I am working on it, for me that still rings true.
My mum is actually bored of hearing me talk about the latest guy that is "amazing and so right for me" she just smiles and shakes her head when I tell her these days lol.
This was more when I was younger though, but they do say Libra's are in love with being in love and unfortunately, even though I am working on it, for me that still rings true.
Posted by TasteOfChaos
We are also very optimistic, so when getting into a new relationship we tend to put our partners on a pedestal...
I absolutely agree, I tend to create the person I fall for into someone that they're not in my head. When I tell my friends & family about her, it takes me a while to realize that I've brought their expectations way too high when I finally get off of my cloud.
In terms of thinking that they're perfect, it's almost self-delusional to that extent in which I start believing that even their flaws are complimentary to me, making them "perfect through their own imperfections" in my mind.
my ex libra was exactly like that
Posted by amethyst2002
I'll say it again- You guys should be banned from dating until you get a hold of that bullshit. :p
ahaha. . 😆
Posted by UrsaMediocrePosted by TasteOfChaos
We are also very optimistic, so when getting into a new relationship we tend to put our partners on a pedestal...
I absolutely agree, I tend to create the person I fall for into someone that they're not in my head. When I tell my friends & family about her, it takes me a while to realize that I've brought their expectations way too high when I finally get off of my cloud.
In terms of thinking that they're perfect, it's almost self-delusional to that extent in which I start believing that even their flaws are complimentary to me, making them "perfect through their own imperfections" in my mind.click to expand
Jeeze that must makes things quite difficult.. it must bring alot of dissapointment 😢
Posted by libra sun
I think that everytime I meet a decent guy I really want them to be THE ONE. But the reality is they are only human and can not live up to the little "perfect" persona that I initially created Then when I realise they were not the person they used to be (which they never actually were!) the fantasy is gone and there is nothing left to do but break it off.
My mum is actually bored of hearing me talk about the latest guy that is "amazing and so right for me" she just smiles and shakes her head when I tell her these days lol.
This was more when I was younger though, but they do say Libra's are in love with being in love and unfortunately, even though I am working on it, for me that still rings true.
It makes more sense though.. so basically you start a relationship with the idea that the person is the one, without using the caution most others use.. and so you basically spoil the person until you realize you made a mistake and the person wasn't the one..
That sucks for the person though lol they are used to the spoiling.
I'm pretty chill I guess. Like If I am not meant for you, just tell me when you get bored. I'll be okay if we end things. I tell my BF that.. well I told him that in the beginning to just be honest. If you get bored, it's cool. I know I'm not perfect. I'm pretty dorky and weird and I have alot of weird quirks so I don't expect anyone to really stay long with me. lol.
Posted by Cancerleo32Posted by UrsaMediocrePosted by TasteOfChaos
We are also very optimistic, so when getting into a new relationship we tend to put our partners on a pedestal...
I absolutely agree, I tend to create the person I fall for into someone that they're not in my head. When I tell my friends & family about her, it takes me a while to realize that I've brought their expectations way too high when I finally get off of my cloud.
In terms of thinking that they're perfect, it's almost self-delusional to that extent in which I start believing that even their flaws are complimentary to me, making them "perfect through their own imperfections" in my mind.
Jeeze that must makes things quite difficult.. it must bring alot of dissapointment 😢click to expand
Only when it ends. The rest of the time we are blissfully unaware 🙂
Posted by ellessquePosted by Cancerleo32
It makes more sense though.. so basically you start a relationship with the idea that the person is the one, without using the caution most others use.. and so you basically spoil the person until you realize you made a mistake and the person wasn't the one..
That sucks for the person though lol they are used to the spoiling.
damn it.
this goes for people like myself, a scorp, with a bunch of libra placements.
how do you shut this shit off?
that quote is like my history of relationships...accept add "rinse/repeat" to the end.click to expand
I don't want to shut it off.
I don't start a relationship thinking the person is "the one" but I won't get too far into it if there isn't potential. I still exercise caution but it's before I get involved with someone. Once I'm involved, throw the caution away. That way if it doesn't work out I know it wasn't because I held back. That doesn't mean being reckless, I won't blindly follow someone to my own demise or anything.
And while I like to pretend whoever I am with is perfect and I do tend to put them on a pedestal too, I know they aren't and don't really expect them to be.
I'd take genuine over "perfect" any day.
Posted by amethyst2002Posted by Cancerleo32Posted by amethyst2002
I'll say it again- You guys should be banned from dating until you get a hold of that bullshit. :p
ahaha. . 😆
I know it's just them, but it's seriously fucked for the person on the receiving end. Talk about feeling like a used toy a kid got sick of.click to expand
It takes a couple fights, misunderstandings, a lot of miscommunication, & personality clashes to knock us back to Earth. We do tend to stick around in an unhappy relationship though and that's not a good thing. Is it wrong for us to deify our significant others? I mean granted, it's an overly idealistic approach to relationships, but that's what happens: love makes us blind regardless of how logical & over-analytical we are in every other aspect of our lives.
Posted by KingofLibrasPosted by Cancerleo32
I'm pretty chill I guess. Like If I am not meant for you, just tell me when you get bored. I'll be okay if we end things. I tell my BF that.. well I told him that in the beginning to just be honest. If you get bored, it's cool. I know I'm not perfect. I'm pretty dorky and weird and I have alot of weird quirks so I don't expect anyone to really stay long with me. lol.
That is actually very attractive attitude, being humble and having no expectations. That is guaranteed to make most libras fall for you fast (unless you are ugly) :pclick to expand
lol well thank you.
Perfect and always will be perfect.
But perfection lies in the spirit, and not that manifestation of personality, appearance, quirks or anything else. Those ca be major irritants, depending on the Libra's personal tastes.
But perfection lies in the spirit, and not that manifestation of personality, appearance, quirks or anything else. Those ca be major irritants, depending on the Libra's personal tastes.
i don't give a shit about perfect. all i care about is that i love someone (or like in the case of friendships, for that matter, because most of my best friends have had very little in common with me). i believe in love. i believe in (reasonable) compromise. if he's willing to put up with my flaws/quirks, i'm willing to put up with his. if it's really love.
i loved the pisces. i was willing to put up with things about him that i didn't like so much, because i couldn't pick and choose what parts of him i got. ended up not getting any of them in the end. but i could sleep through his snoring. and our first kiss was horrible, but i was in love so i decided it would just have to get better. and it did. best kisses ever after that. such a shame that he wasn't willing to put up with the fact that i wasn't jailbait with a rx pill problem.
i loved the pisces. i was willing to put up with things about him that i didn't like so much, because i couldn't pick and choose what parts of him i got. ended up not getting any of them in the end. but i could sleep through his snoring. and our first kiss was horrible, but i was in love so i decided it would just have to get better. and it did. best kisses ever after that. such a shame that he wasn't willing to put up with the fact that i wasn't jailbait with a rx pill problem.
I certainly get deluded by the IDEA of someone before I get to really know them. I build up this fantasy of who they are. This fantasy individual is perfect. Couldn't ask for anything more. But when the real individual begins to reveal faults and traits that are incompatible with mine, I forgive and overlook the REALITY. In my mind, I make the mistake of weighing the bad of the REAL person against the good of their FANTASY version and deciding that their good traits make putting up with their bad ones worth it. This of course is ludicrous since those good traits exist mostly in my mind!
We are people who don't necessarily live in the real world. We crave perfection, and as such, let the ideals of our minds spill out into everyday life. Because of this, we end up living in some quasi fantasy world composed of the real world draped by our expectations of it. We are very astute at seeing the reality of someone else's situation (ie a friend in a bad relationship, a sibling making a poor career move, etc) but quite impaired at seeing our own reality. After all, you can't ever truly look into your own eyes. Even in a mirror, you are staring at a reflection of your eyes, not the real thing. And this may explain why we so often tend to mirror our partners--perhaps it's an attempt at "looking" at ourselves. If we become them, every time we look at our parter, we see ourselves.
All in all, sometimes we can be quite a muddled (though well-meaning) bunch.
We are people who don't necessarily live in the real world. We crave perfection, and as such, let the ideals of our minds spill out into everyday life. Because of this, we end up living in some quasi fantasy world composed of the real world draped by our expectations of it. We are very astute at seeing the reality of someone else's situation (ie a friend in a bad relationship, a sibling making a poor career move, etc) but quite impaired at seeing our own reality. After all, you can't ever truly look into your own eyes. Even in a mirror, you are staring at a reflection of your eyes, not the real thing. And this may explain why we so often tend to mirror our partners--perhaps it's an attempt at "looking" at ourselves. If we become them, every time we look at our parter, we see ourselves.
All in all, sometimes we can be quite a muddled (though well-meaning) bunch.
Posted by LibraLove
I certainly get deluded by the IDEA of someone before I get to really know them. I build up this fantasy of who they are. This fantasy individual is perfect. Couldn't ask for anything more. But when the real individual begins to reveal faults and traits that are incompatible with mine, I forgive and overlook the REALITY....
agreed. i don't see this behaviour as detrimental (i.e. a weakness for acceptance/capitulation) to anyone. i believe that a willingness (and i mean "willigness" rather than "of fear") to disregard the REALITY is a sign of strength.
and to answer the original question...
no. i never see anyone i am infatuated with as perfect.
i try to see past their faults, fears and insecurities.
i even try to push that "boundary".
and when i see that other pseron's willingness to accept and work past that "boundary", i become more impressed with/enamored of them.
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