luvlylady2010
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More Libra man drama..
I know I should move on but he just makes me so happy and we are perfect together when we are around each other... He is still SO sweet to me and even though I have been so cruel out of hurt telling him I hate him, the thought of him makes me sick, he's an asshole, to stay out of my life, never call me again, etc.. he still has never even said one mean thing back to me and still tries to remain in my life even after all that. He NEVER ignores me (unless I'm being mean) and still responds right away to me and still asks to see me so I am just so confused.
I am so confused because his actions are completely different then what he is telling me and I know when I am not interested in people anymore I don't continue to try to keep them in my life and be affectionate towards them.. Even though he did try to sleep with me the other day it has been over 2 months and I made it pretty clear that I will NOT be doing that with him.. I understand if he cared about me as only a friend but he doesn't talk to me or act like he only likes me as a friend.
Based on what I've said does it seem like he is just trying to string me along until something better comes along or could he really just need time?? To me "not ready for a commitment" means that he is not ready for a commitment with ME but is that always the case?? And being that I do want to be with him would I be better of staying in his life and trying to let go of what happened and just start over slowly as he suggests or should I just tell him that I do care about him but I wont wait around anymore and hope that he comes around later? I am worried about him not thinking I care and just giving up but also worried if I wait that he wont even try to make up his mind because he knows I'm waiting..
I am so confused because his actions are completely different then what he is telling me and I know when I am not interested in people anymore I don't continue to try to keep them in my life and be affectionate towards them.. Even though he did try to sleep with me the other day it has been over 2 months and I made it pretty clear that I will NOT be doing that with him.. I understand if he cared about me as only a friend but he doesn't talk to me or act like he only likes me as a friend.
Based on what I've said does it seem like he is just trying to string me along until something better comes along or could he really just need time?? To me "not ready for a commitment" means that he is not ready for a commitment with ME but is that always the case?? And being that I do want to be with him would I be better of staying in his life and trying to let go of what happened and just start over slowly as he suggests or should I just tell him that I do care about him but I wont wait around anymore and hope that he comes around later? I am worried about him not thinking I care and just giving up but also worried if I wait that he wont even try to make up his mind because he knows I'm waiting..
What sign are you Luvly? Omg I can totally relate to where you are. *SIGH* Guess its stereotypical Libra.
Heh. insight? (Linda Goodman excerpt)
The word love and the word Libra are practically syn?_onymous. Libra invented romance, and refined it to an art with even more finesse than Leo, Scorpio and Taurus, which is saying a lot. The delicate strategies of Cupid are inbred Libran talents. He'll use every trick with casual ease and seldom fail to get the girl. However, once he gets her, he isn't always sure what to do with her. Having thoroughly charmed her into willing submission, he hesi?_tates. Should he take advantage of her helpless state or should he propose marriage? Or both? Or neither? The mental struggle begins, and life in the garden of Eden with this particular Adam becomes' considerably less than ecstatic.
Since the art of love-making comes so easily-and shockingly early-to the Libra male, and since he almost always wears the crown of success on his romantic excur?_sions into love's jungle, he gets tangled up with a lot of clinging vines. Libra hates to hurt anyone's feelings, though he remains blissfully unaware of the damage done when he's in an argumentative mood. He hates to say no, and seldom realizes that postponement is more unkind than an outright break of an affair which has no chance of hap?_piness. In the opposite situation when the mutual feeling is as close to sublime as humans ever reach on this earth, the prolonged agony can be equally tortuous. If he senses he's being unfair to someone in his own life, to you-or to someone in your recent romantic past-there will be no end to his painful indecision. Being unfair is, to him, a crime roughly on a level with murder. The reluctance to be cruel can push him into a mistaken proposal of marriage, predestined for the divorce courts -or else his endless procrastination can cause him to miss the love of his life. So you can see his attitude is a two-edged sword, which can either slice away true love or cut him a piece of indigestible matrimony. Tossing out false sentiment is the cure for both.
The natural Libra impulse is to to size up every third or fourth woman they come across, and weigh her possibilities of being the true soul mate. They often get friendship and love hopelessly confused. Surprisingly, it's not often that the Libran will suffer from a broken heart, for all his dabbling and experimenting. He can forget with insulting quickness, and be less apt than anyone, except perhaps a Gemini or
The word love and the word Libra are practically syn?_onymous. Libra invented romance, and refined it to an art with even more finesse than Leo, Scorpio and Taurus, which is saying a lot. The delicate strategies of Cupid are inbred Libran talents. He'll use every trick with casual ease and seldom fail to get the girl. However, once he gets her, he isn't always sure what to do with her. Having thoroughly charmed her into willing submission, he hesi?_tates. Should he take advantage of her helpless state or should he propose marriage? Or both? Or neither? The mental struggle begins, and life in the garden of Eden with this particular Adam becomes' considerably less than ecstatic.
Since the art of love-making comes so easily-and shockingly early-to the Libra male, and since he almost always wears the crown of success on his romantic excur?_sions into love's jungle, he gets tangled up with a lot of clinging vines. Libra hates to hurt anyone's feelings, though he remains blissfully unaware of the damage done when he's in an argumentative mood. He hates to say no, and seldom realizes that postponement is more unkind than an outright break of an affair which has no chance of hap?_piness. In the opposite situation when the mutual feeling is as close to sublime as humans ever reach on this earth, the prolonged agony can be equally tortuous. If he senses he's being unfair to someone in his own life, to you-or to someone in your recent romantic past-there will be no end to his painful indecision. Being unfair is, to him, a crime roughly on a level with murder. The reluctance to be cruel can push him into a mistaken proposal of marriage, predestined for the divorce courts -or else his endless procrastination can cause him to miss the love of his life. So you can see his attitude is a two-edged sword, which can either slice away true love or cut him a piece of indigestible matrimony. Tossing out false sentiment is the cure for both.
The natural Libra impulse is to to size up every third or fourth woman they come across, and weigh her possibilities of being the true soul mate. They often get friendship and love hopelessly confused. Surprisingly, it's not often that the Libran will suffer from a broken heart, for all his dabbling and experimenting. He can forget with insulting quickness, and be less apt than anyone, except perhaps a Gemini or
except perhaps a Gemini or Sagittarius male, to allow himself to regret the memory of unrequited love or a romance that was fated never to be. He may sustain a few bruised spots, but there will be no permanent damage, except in very unusual cases. Then the hurt can be devastating beyond imagina?_tion. But it happens so rarely you won't find many ex?_amples.
If you're in love with a Libra man, and you're sure it's meant to be, go right ahead and propose whatever it is you want to propose, up to and including marriage. Hell be relieved that you took the initiative. But watch out for that perverse streak-which causes him to let you decide, and then when it doesn't work out, cheerfully point out that "You made the decision. I didn't." Make sure you know what you're doing, or you'll never hear the end of it. There's only one way to even the score with him. Say "Yes, I decided. If I had left it up to you, we'd still be standing under that lamppost in the rain saying 'I love you,' and we'd both have caught pneumonia." He'll argue with you, naturally, but just before or after you bounce the teapot off his head, he'll accidentally smile, and there you'll be-stand?_ing under that lamppost in the rain again, saying "I love you," once more.
If you're in love with a Libra man, and you're sure it's meant to be, go right ahead and propose whatever it is you want to propose, up to and including marriage. Hell be relieved that you took the initiative. But watch out for that perverse streak-which causes him to let you decide, and then when it doesn't work out, cheerfully point out that "You made the decision. I didn't." Make sure you know what you're doing, or you'll never hear the end of it. There's only one way to even the score with him. Say "Yes, I decided. If I had left it up to you, we'd still be standing under that lamppost in the rain saying 'I love you,' and we'd both have caught pneumonia." He'll argue with you, naturally, but just before or after you bounce the teapot off his head, he'll accidentally smile, and there you'll be-stand?_ing under that lamppost in the rain again, saying "I love you," once more.
Posted by THEKingofLibra
Aww Pisces are so easy.
I wonder if you were any good in the sack. Probably an average humpness 😛
Why are pisces so easy— He pursued me, I didn't even call him for 3 months and didn't even sleep with him until after spending almost every day together for a month and haven't slept with him for the last 2 even though he tried to give convincing arguments as to why I should.. Just because I fell for him?? Pisces are obviously not the only sign this happens to..
Posted by oldskoolflavor
maybe he's playing that
I'm so hesitant (😢), but I do care about you (🙂) It will become serious when meant to (🙂)
game,
while his goal is to keep you around for sex.
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Yeah, well if that is his goal I will make sure it doesn't happen.. I guess time will tell.. I'm not giving him sex so not sure why he would keep me around for it..
Posted by Skykomish
What sign are you Luvly? Omg I can totally relate to where you are. *SIGH* Guess its stereotypical Libra.
I'm Pisces.. I actually read all the same stuff you posted before we ever started having issues and never thought that it would actually happen with me.. and here I am.. lol
And by the way.. It's not like I just fell for him as soon as I met him.. He was way more into me and he had to prove himself before I let my guard down. He would leave work EVERY single day to come see me on my lunch breaks and then come back and see me after I got off work and spend pretty much every second he could with me. Even when I would say I was too tired he would get upset and still insist on spending time with me and even when he was out with the guys he would leave them if I was available.. He would literally schedule his whole life around me and when I could see him! He was the one who insisted that I commit to him when I thought that we should take it slow because I had my own issues to deal with anyways.. He was the one who told me that I am the only person he wants and that he could not wait to have me to himself.. So of course I am going to be confused.. I have NEVER had anything like this happen to me! I could have moved on already if he would just leave me alone but he wont.. I just don't understand, we could have taken things slow from the beginning and I would have been fine with it! HE pushed for things to go faster not me.. I just don't see why someone would go through all that just to change their mind.. Maybe he only did it because he knew I wouldn't sleep with him otherwise and that's fine but now that I'm not sleeping with him why keep texting and calling and asking to see me??
Posted by oldskoolflavorPosted by luvlylady2010Posted by oldskoolflavor
maybe he's playing that
I'm so hesitant (😢), but I do care about you (🙂) It will become serious when meant to (🙂)
game,
while his goal is to keep you around for sex.
Yeah, well if that is his goal I will make sure it doesn't happen.. I guess time will tell.. I'm not giving him sex so not sure why he would keep me around for it..
maybe in the past,
something in your attitude has told him that you're more of a pushover than you'd think you are.
she's talking all that commitment crap,
but she's going to give it as soon as she's really horny.
plus,
I don't feel like going through the trouble of finding another sex mate
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We talked about committing and even moving in together before I ever slept with him..
NOW, I agree that he knows he has the upper hand because I keep giving in and talking to him even after I tell him to leave me alone.. So I guess at this point the only thing would be to really cut him off completely because you are right. He probably does think that I will eventually give in since I even still talk to him..
I appreciate the honesty.. It's what I suspected anyways.. I just need to hear it.
And honestly.. Out of all the times we spent together we hardly ever had sex because of both of our living situations at the time. We only did it maybe once every few weeks and I was usually the initiatior so I know it WASN'T only about sex.. It might be now but it wasn't.. Hell.. maybe he found someone who gives it to him more and that's the real reason for all I know!
Posted by THEKingofLibra
Mang this is too easy. I could see why it would be so easy for a scorp to totally dominate a pisces chick 😄
I mean honestly.. You have no ability to say no to him. You may pretend to be saying no, but your body says yes. Yea are so bad at this! You are like a little puppy who just wants to be loved and hugged and petted and just kept warm. The libra can give you all that, but here is the thing....
There are other girls.. that he could give it to.. that he secretly yearns to explore.. to laugh with.. to cuddle with.. to sex them up.. to bask in their radiant beauty.
If you wanna capture him, you gotta stop nagging, you gotta totally give into the affection, you have to be in love. You can't get a libra if you don't love him. He will mirror you and love you back if you love him. How hard is it to understand? Can't believe it needs to be spelled out.
Well I've never had these types of issues with any man before I've managed to do pretty well with men throughout the years thank you.. Yeah, obviously having a hard time that's why I'm here seeking your advice.. Thanks for spelling it out for me! 😉
Posted by THEKingofLibra
To seduce a Libra: let him chase you, submit to him, let him think about it/backtrack, continue to be his, and eventually he will fall for you.
To seduce a Scorpio: let him dominate you, run away, let him chase you, trip and fall and get sexed into a coma, wake up and realize you've been cooking breakfast for him the whole time
What does Scorpio have to do with this?? Just curious cause Scorpio been mentioned a few times but this has nothin to do with Scorpio.
Posted by THEKingofLibra
There are other girls.. that he could give it to.. that he secretly yearns to explore.. to laugh with.. to cuddle with.. to sex them up.. to bask in their radiant beauty.
If you wanna capture him, you gotta stop nagging, you gotta totally give into the affection, you have to be in love. You can't get a libra if you don't love him. He will mirror you and love you back if you love him. How hard is it to understand? Can't believe it needs to be spelled out.
This is what I don't get.. If he has so many other girls that he wants then FINE! Just don't waste my time or lead me on and pretend you want me and only me if you don't.. THAT'S the part I don't get..
You may be onto something with the nagging.... I was doing a lot of that..and you are so right, when I am cool he seems to start to get closer but once I start complaining that's when he gets annoyed and "confused"... Hmmmm...
"Lovechild" of u and the aqua chick... lol.. I love ur posts KOL!
Posted by oldskoolflavor
last, but not least:
you've managed to have this guy at your feet ..
stay around, behave like a puppy ..
*without* giving him much cookie ?
did you even realize that ..
most of dxp women must be mad j.e.a.l.o.u.s. ??
they are dying to know what your secret is.
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(fuckin' dxp.. I need some sleep)
You're right.. I don't think he's lying either.. It's never been about that with him, I'm just mad. He's actually always been the type to be honest even when he knows I will get mad or upset and not just tell me what I want to hear even though it would be easier on him! lol
It DID come as a shock to me when he suddenly started to pull back after being so into me, he was actually willing to keep trying but I know that I pushed him even further by freaking out and not accepting his answers and insisting over and over that he tell me WHY he is doing this. I guess I just want things to automatically go back to how they were and when he resists I think he must not care about me as much as he says he does I keep thinking there must be something else going on and then that causes me to think he's a jerk and doesn't deserve me and push him away but then I realize that he's not really a jerk and that I may be the one who ends up regretting it.. It's just a never ending cycle and I don't know how to stop it at this point. I am just sick of the back and forth!
Everything that you say is actually similar to stuff that he has already told me like "emotionally exhausted at times, because of all the drama".. He did say that he was stressed and felt pressured and just needed space but instead of giving him space I took it personally and refused to think that was the REAL reason he wanted to slow down and kept pushing for answers. I just don't see how someone that supposedly loves EVERYTHING about me would have doubts.
I guess I just don't know where to go from here.. I made such a huge deal about it and my little tantrums (thinking it would make him realize what he was losing) just made things worse. Oh yeah, not to mention even one of my friends (who knows him) texted him a whole bunch of BS about what an idiot he is and how he isn't a real man and all kinds of other stuff and I thought for sure that would be the end of it but he still invited me over the next day.. And no, I did not tell her to do that, I told her not to and she did
And no, I did not tell her to do that, I told her not to and she did anyways. I was mortified!! lol.. I'm actually quite surprised that he even talks to me at all anymore after all the mean things I have told him and my friend told him.. So I know he must have some feelings to even put up with it when he's not even getting anything from me.
I really want to be able to accept that I will never get the answer I am wanting and let go of the anger and resentment towards him and accept that it's not going to go right back to how it was nomatter how hard I try. I am fine with starting over again and taking things slower because it is true that we did rush into it but with everything that has went on I just don't know if it's too late to go back now. I've acted kinda crazy I admit it and I want him to remember the good in me and the all the good times we spent together, not the "nagging" me. I know we probably both need space from each other but I'm scared about losing him completely if I let him go.
So..... let's just assume that what he is saying is true. He really cares about me and he is still interested in seeing where this goes but that he is just not ready to commit right now because he is "confused". Do I wait around and stop making an issue about it and just let nature take its course and see what happens or do I let him know that I do still care about him but that I cannot just wait around and try to move on myself and see if he comes back or not? I know we had something really good and I just want him to realize what he could be losing and I worry that he wont even think about it until I am gone, I don't want him to take his time "deciding" what he wants because he knows I am not going anywhere.. l I know there is no guarantees guess I just want to know what would be the better option to make him realize at this point..
I really want to be able to accept that I will never get the answer I am wanting and let go of the anger and resentment towards him and accept that it's not going to go right back to how it was nomatter how hard I try. I am fine with starting over again and taking things slower because it is true that we did rush into it but with everything that has went on I just don't know if it's too late to go back now. I've acted kinda crazy I admit it and I want him to remember the good in me and the all the good times we spent together, not the "nagging" me. I know we probably both need space from each other but I'm scared about losing him completely if I let him go.
So..... let's just assume that what he is saying is true. He really cares about me and he is still interested in seeing where this goes but that he is just not ready to commit right now because he is "confused". Do I wait around and stop making an issue about it and just let nature take its course and see what happens or do I let him know that I do still care about him but that I cannot just wait around and try to move on myself and see if he comes back or not? I know we had something really good and I just want him to realize what he could be losing and I worry that he wont even think about it until I am gone, I don't want him to take his time "deciding" what he wants because he knows I am not going anywhere.. l I know there is no guarantees guess I just want to know what would be the better option to make him realize at this point..
And thank you so much for your input!
He responded back saying that he does not want me to hate him and that "it's not like that" and he does not only want me for sex he is just not ready for any commitment right now and but that he does not want me out of his life. He says that we just moved so fast in the beginning and he was so into me that he never stopped to think if he was ready for a relationship with ANYONE yet.
He does not ONLY want me for sex—
Re-read your OP in this thread....so what has changed in the last 2 months— Nothing...except maybe you are a little more desperate for him to change and he keeps telling you that he is NOT going to for you!
I still think you need to find yourself before moving on into another relationship, you've only been separate from your marriage how many months/weeks/days? Break it down like that and you really do owe yourself some genuine "ME" time. You don't really know who you are and are already trying to latch on to another, that's another dependancy. I know you don't need it financially but you are looking for emotional dependancy.
GO out find you and become totally Independent, then you might look more appealing as a stable partner.
He does not ONLY want me for sex—
Re-read your OP in this thread....so what has changed in the last 2 months— Nothing...except maybe you are a little more desperate for him to change and he keeps telling you that he is NOT going to for you!
I still think you need to find yourself before moving on into another relationship, you've only been separate from your marriage how many months/weeks/days? Break it down like that and you really do owe yourself some genuine "ME" time. You don't really know who you are and are already trying to latch on to another, that's another dependancy. I know you don't need it financially but you are looking for emotional dependancy.
GO out find you and become totally Independent, then you might look more appealing as a stable partner.
Posted by sweethearts
He responded back saying that he does not want me to hate him and that "it's not like that" and he does not only want me for sex he is just not ready for any commitment right now and but that he does not want me out of his life. He says that we just moved so fast in the beginning and he was so into me that he never stopped to think if he was ready for a relationship with ANYONE yet.
He does not ONLY want me for sex—
Re-read your OP in this thread....so what has changed in the last 2 months— Nothing...except maybe you are a little more desperate for him to change and he keeps telling you that he is NOT going to for you!
I still think you need to find yourself before moving on into another relationship, you've only been separate from your marriage how many months/weeks/days? Break it down like that and you really do owe yourself some genuine "ME" time. You don't really know who you are and are already trying to latch on to another, that's another dependancy. I know you don't need it financially but you are looking for emotional dependancy.
GO out find you and become totally Independent, then you might look more appealing as a stable partner.
It's just confusing because normally when someone doesn't want to be with you they don't act the same way and keep calling and texting and they just leave you alone.. And he did say that, but then in the same breath he says "let's start over slower and see where it leads" which makes me think he IS still interested to see where it's going to go. I do think that once he realized he had the upper hand though and he knew I wanted to be with him that he got comfortable with not having to make a commitment to me right away and I know it's my fault because I continually let him know I am still here. I don't think he even believes me even more when I say it's over. He used to be SCARED that I would stop talking to him. I know I am the only one that can change this and you are right about all the other stuff too.. He is not really secure with himself right now and I'm sure he is scared about all the "baggage" that I come with! We are just SOOO happy together and I am scared I wont find anyone that makes me feel the way that he does again but I guess if it's meant to be he will come around.. I know the advice that I would give (to move on) and I know that's what I should do but it's SO hard!
What makes me so mad is that I was NOT like this.. He led me to believe this was what HE wanted!! UGH.. Oh well.. I guess it is what it is. Just sucks.
Posted by luvlylady2010Posted by sweethearts
He responded back saying that he does not want me to hate him and that "it's not like that" and he does not only want me for sex he is just not ready for any commitment right now and but that he does not want me out of his life. He says that we just moved so fast in the beginning and he was so into me that he never stopped to think if he was ready for a relationship with ANYONE yet.
He does not ONLY want me for sex—
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This was my response to the last message he sent about not only wanting me for sex (that he's not getting anyways) and does not want me out of his life...
"Honestly, unless you can live up to the expectations you set with me to begin with there is no reason to be in each others lives anymore.. Not because I hate you but it's just a reminder of the dissapointment and because I know what I deserve and I'm not going to settle for less then what I would have settled for to begin with. I didn't waste my time and go through everything I went through and STILL going through to end up as friends. I have plenty of friends."
and I went on to say other stuff but that was the jist of it.. I haven't talked to him since and I am doing my best to move on just easier said then done.
I was actually content with my life when I first met him and wasn't even looking for anything like this which is why I didn't even call him for 3 months. Then when I finally did everything was just so perfect between us and I was the happiest I have ever been with a guy. Then it was a shock and a huge blow to my ego when I thought everything was going great, just never saw it coming.. And NO good reason.. Usually you know when things are going downhill it doesn't just happen overnight.. Just the most confusing thing ever.. and I know I sound desperate and pathetic on here but I've been working out, going out with friends, keeping myself busy.. I don't just stay home and cry all day.. lol.. I manage to ignore him for about a week or 2 but he always seems to know when I am forgetting him and weasels his way back in by giving me hope we might be able to work it out.. I know that I can't allow someone to get to me like this.. I will get past it. I think I just need to force myself to let go for now nomatter how hard it is.. I'm trying...
Yep, KOL, its a woman thing. Emotions f*cking suck. I wish I could shut them off like the men I know claim they can. Then I maybe wouldn't have fucked everything up. And, still relate to you Luvly. I have no idea what either one of us should do. I think I'm going to keep looking and find some other people who will make me happy, if this Lib/Sco ever decides he changes his mind, it might be too late. But if I'm happy, his loss. Thats why I posted that thing from Goodman. Some of those quotes made so much sense.
>>He'll use every trick with casual ease and seldom fail to get the girl. However, once he gets her, he isn't always sure what to do with her.>-or else his endless procrastination can cause him to miss the love of his life.
>>He'll use every trick with casual ease and seldom fail to get the girl. However, once he gets her, he isn't always sure what to do with her.>-or else his endless procrastination can cause him to miss the love of his life.
Posted by Skykomish
Yep, KOL, its a woman thing. Emotions f*cking suck. I wish I could shut them off like the men I know claim they can. Then I maybe wouldn't have fucked everything up. And, still relate to you Luvly. I have no idea what either one of us should do. I think I'm going to keep looking and find some other people who will make me happy, if this Lib/Sco ever decides he changes his mind, it might be too late. But if I'm happy, his loss. Thats why I posted that thing from Goodman. Some of those quotes made so much sense.
>>He'll use every trick with casual ease and seldom fail to get the girl. However, once he gets her, he isn't always sure what to do with her.>-or else his endless procrastination can cause him to miss the love of his life.
Yes, true, all the women I know! OMG I know.. I keep trying over and over to just turn my emotions off and not care but it's not working yet. I'm getting better though.. He's actually texting me right now as we speak to go over to his place tonight but I'm not going to! I'm gonna let him know I already have other plans..
I feel for you too girl!! I also was the one who hesitated at the beginning and now I wonder what would have happened if I wouldn't have.. I wonder if my hesitation put doubts in his head.. I wonder if it was something I did or said.. I wonder.... I could totally relate when I was reading the posts on your thread.. I thought about responding to you but I obviously wouldn't be any help since I don't know what to do either with this type of guy!! haha.. I have tried talking to other guys and guys that I would normally be really interested in but I just can't do it yet, he is the only one I want right now.. I am trying my best to move on and let him know that even though I do care for him I deserve better and wont wait.. He already gets jealous when I talk about moving on with someone else and I told him that I know that he doesn't realize it now because I am still here but when I am gone for good he will be sorry! Good luck!! Let me know if things get better for you!!
Maybe we should tell them to go be gay. Heh. Dont want emotions, go be with a man. 9.9
Yeah, thats funny. I wasn't the slightest bit interested when he first started talking to me. Was totally crushing on this Taurus guy. I'm very black and white, but hell I figured I'd be nice and talk to him, for some reason I'd talked to him once before (he was on my IM list, I'd completely forgotten who he was) so obviously there was SOME reason for it. Then we had this crazy magnetic attraction, which didn't make a whole lot of sense to me because I wasn't especially physically attracted. He's not my type in the slightest. So things moved really fast, I got scared, backed off, and the rest is history. That song by Alanis Morisette makes a lot of sense - "Head Over Heels"
You treat me like I'm a princess
I'm not used to liking that
You ask how my day was
You've already won me over IN SPITE OF ME
And don't be alarmed if I fall head over feet
Don't be surprised if I love you for all that you are
I COULDN'T HELP IT
ITS ALL YOUR FAULT.
And now he just wants to be my friend. FML.
You treat me like I'm a princess
I'm not used to liking that
You ask how my day was
You've already won me over IN SPITE OF ME
And don't be alarmed if I fall head over feet
Don't be surprised if I love you for all that you are
I COULDN'T HELP IT
ITS ALL YOUR FAULT.
And now he just wants to be my friend. FML.
Posted by Skykomish
Yeah, thats funny. I wasn't the slightest bit interested when he first started talking to me. Was totally crushing on this Taurus guy. I'm very black and white, but hell I figured I'd be nice and talk to him, for some reason I'd talked to him once before (he was on my IM list, I'd completely forgotten who he was) so obviously there was SOME reason for it. Then we had this crazy magnetic attraction, which didn't make a whole lot of sense to me because I wasn't especially physically attracted. He's not my type in the slightest. So things moved really fast, I got scared, backed off, and the rest is history. That song by Alanis Morisette makes a lot of sense - "Head Over Heels"
You treat me like I'm a princess
I'm not used to liking that
You ask how my day was
You've already won me over IN SPITE OF ME
And don't be alarmed if I fall head over feet
Don't be surprised if I love you for all that you are
I COULDN'T HELP IT
ITS ALL YOUR FAULT.
And now he just wants to be my friend. FML.
Well mine never said he wants to be friends but just wants to take things "slow" after he started out talking about marriage and babies and moving in and everything else.. I just think relationships should grow and get stronger not go backwards..
I could see if I was the one who pursued him and he said he wasn't ready for a relationship I would have been fine with it but he pursued me from day one! I was grocey shopping and he came up to me trying to talk to me and then tracked me down 30 minutes later and another guy was actually trying to talk to me so he waited for that guy to leave and then he came back and gave me his number and I thought he was kinda cute so I kept the number but then forgot about it and decided to call 3 months later for some reason and like you said.. "the rest is history"... lol.. Once we seen each other again things were SO PERFECT.. We were SOOO affectionate 24/7, nomatter where we were at or who was around.. I felt like a teenager again! I never thought I'd be like this over a guy again.. He's still affectionate like that but he's not gonna get the benefits of a relationship without one.. Period!
So today I'm trying a different approach.. He texted me today and instead of acting all bothered or upset about the way things have been going or trying to pressure him to talk about it I'm just trying to be myself again and show
him that I can be happy with or without him.. Seems to be working so far.. He's texted me 10 times in the past 2 hours trying to convince me to go over.. I told him I can't make it..
Yeah. That's pretty much my plan too. Who knows what will happen. But I'm not waiting around to find out. Got plans to go out on Sunday night and meet people at a wiccan party for Imbolc. That will be fun. And I had hidden my profile on pof (because of psycho ex drama, but he is still in jail) so I unhid it. Already have more admirers lol.
You have two choices...
1. except him for what he now wants from you and that is to be a sex partner that may or may not be anything more
2. Move on, drop the contact and reconnect with yourself because he's not really wanting a permanent position in your life
Yes it's so much easier said than done but you are both talking about wanting or not wanting different things from each other and at the end of the day it doesn't matter how he is acting/being around you his mind is NOT changing and neither is yours...
So either lower your standards at a PUNT or carry on and don't look back, your call...THAT'S THE BLACK AND WHITE OF IT ALL!
You're argument and analysing here is just you HOPING for him to CHANGE....
1. except him for what he now wants from you and that is to be a sex partner that may or may not be anything more
2. Move on, drop the contact and reconnect with yourself because he's not really wanting a permanent position in your life
Yes it's so much easier said than done but you are both talking about wanting or not wanting different things from each other and at the end of the day it doesn't matter how he is acting/being around you his mind is NOT changing and neither is yours...
So either lower your standards at a PUNT or carry on and don't look back, your call...THAT'S THE BLACK AND WHITE OF IT ALL!
You're argument and analysing here is just you HOPING for him to CHANGE....
This is fairly classic man behaviour. It is called "Blowtorching". They come on strong then freak out and run away. Men are socialized to be afraid of strong emotions and affection.
If I were you, I would block his number. Buddy boy is a headcase and you don't need the heartache.
If I were you, I would block his number. Buddy boy is a headcase and you don't need the heartache.
Posted by sweethearts
You have two choices...
1. except him for what he now wants from you and that is to be a sex partner that may or may not be anything more
2. Move on, drop the contact and reconnect with yourself because he's not really wanting a permanent position in your life
Oh I know.. I'm mostly confused about WHY this happened but it is what it is and I know I can't change it so time to get over the past and stop dwelling on what "could have been"..
Option 1 is out of the question and I've already made that clear and he says he still wants me in his life even if I don't have sex with him. I didn't the last time I seen him and I haven't for the last few months so that's not really an issue.. I just got offended he would even try but when I told him it wasn't going to happen he still insisted he wants me in his life even if I don't.
Yes, I do hope he changes but I KNOW that I can't depend on that and I'm not just sitting here waiting for him to change.. I'm going on with my life working on myself just doing me.. My main issue right now is trying to decide if I should remain in his life as a FRIEND (while still working on myself and doing whatever I need to get over wanting a relationship with him) or if I should cut off ties completely.. Those are my 2 options.. I know it would probably be best to cut off contact completely, especially for now and I'm trying to do that but he is not making it easy by always contacting me..
I accept that he does not want a relationship right now but I truly believe that it's still possible in the future.. He's not getting ANYTHING from me.. I don't have sex with him. I only contact him like once every few weeks now and the rest of the time I avoid him. I guess I just don't understand why he is still trying to keep me around when he's not benefiting in any way? I know... I need to stop analyzing everything.. I know! I know I need to make a decision and stick to it..
Posted by little_sparrow
This is fairly classic man behaviour. It is called "Blowtorching". They come on strong then freak out and run away. Men are socialized to be afraid of strong emotions and affection.
If I were you, I would block his number. Buddy boy is a headcase and you don't need the heartache.
I know... I have thought of changing my number... it's hard to avoid him when he keeps calling and texting. He already told me he will not stop unless I change my number.
He's a LIBRAN!!!! We keep you around because we don't want to feel guilty for anything we have done or said or for you to hate us or we aren't completely certain that we want to let you go....because you might have some use...somewhere!!!
But we sure as hell don't want anything permanent right now or you would know without a DOUBT!
But cut me off completely and I will figure it out...I will make a decision one way or the other... and if you aren't firm then I will keep you hanging around... just because!
But we sure as hell don't want anything permanent right now or you would know without a DOUBT!
But cut me off completely and I will figure it out...I will make a decision one way or the other... and if you aren't firm then I will keep you hanging around... just because!
Posted by sweethearts
He's a LIBRAN!!!! We keep you around because we don't want to feel guilty for anything we have done or said or for you to hate us or we aren't completely certain that we want to let you go....because you might have some use...somewhere!!!
But we sure as hell don't want anything permanent right now or you would know without a DOUBT!
But cut me off completely and I will figure it out...I will make a decision one way or the other... and if you aren't firm then I will keep you hanging around... just because!
Agreed! I know he's not wanting anything permanent right now. I wanted to know If I really need to cut off ALL contact for awhile.. That's my answer.. Thanks
Posted by TasteOfChaos
I had a cheap phone that would block numbers?!
Like if I got a message, it would go to another folder... and I wouldnt be alerted. I put a Leo on that list 😄
So Im sure some phones can block a number for you... without being all dramatastic and changing your number.
Yeah that's a good idea I'll have to see if my phone does that..
Posted by sweethearts
He's a LIBRAN!!!! We keep you around because we don't want to feel guilty for anything we have done or said or for you to hate us or we aren't completely certain that we want to let you go....because you might have some use...somewhere!!!
But we sure as hell don't want anything permanent right now or you would know without a DOUBT!
But cut me off completely and I will figure it out...I will make a decision one way or the other... and if you aren't firm then I will keep you hanging around... just because!
EXACTLY!!!
So he kept texting all flirty asking me to go over last night even after I had already said "no" and I text him back and said to stop trying to tempt me and he responded.. "I'm not..., so are you coming to see me?? 🙂" I just responded "sorry can't make it"..
Ugh.. by trying to keep me around I wish he would realize he is hurting and confusing me even more.. I understand not wanting me to hate him but why keep asking me to go see him?? I wish he would realize he's not doing me any favors.. The sucky thing is that he is so sweet and "charming" that he makes me feel like I'M the one rejecting him.. If I can't block his # I'm gonna have to change it cause it's too hard right now..
Ugh.. by trying to keep me around I wish he would realize he is hurting and confusing me even more.. I understand not wanting me to hate him but why keep asking me to go see him?? I wish he would realize he's not doing me any favors.. The sucky thing is that he is so sweet and "charming" that he makes me feel like I'M the one rejecting him.. If I can't block his # I'm gonna have to change it cause it's too hard right now..
LL2010,
YOU ONLY SEE WHAT YOU WANT TO SEE...
we don't wANT TO BE hated...we also want you to love us forever...star crossed lovers, Romeo/Juliet style
Babe it's not about you...this is your mistake...its about US!
YOU ONLY SEE WHAT YOU WANT TO SEE...
we don't wANT TO BE hated...we also want you to love us forever...star crossed lovers, Romeo/Juliet style
Babe it's not about you...this is your mistake...its about US!
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