Need Advice!

1-2 months I was looking for job change. I told this libra male to fwd my resume in his company. I randomly found him on linkedin. Later when I got a call for interview, I messaged on him on gmail that I need his guidance related to interview. He called me on the same day at guided me well. Nxt morning got a message saying all the best.I am sure you'll do well. I called him and said thanks. I met him after the interview. We talked for 5 mins or so and later I went back home.

Few days later I said hi to him on whatsapp in evening. He replied at night saying sorry he was out with frnds. I replied nxt morning saying hi again. We exchanged few msges as he was in class. He is presently doing some course which will probably end in August end. His dad passed away when he was young. Since then we started talking almost everyday except weekends when he has classes. He has hectic schedule. Still he used to manage msging on whatsapp while in office and studying at night. We met once in June end after my interview in his company and again in july beginning.

He told me he has this course which needs his attention. We are more than friends but he does not want to unnecessarily push things when he does not have time for them. He used to be exciting and lovey dovey when we met but later he is kind of aloof busy studying, working and his family. I did discuss the same with him on which he said that he does try to take out time for me but cant help. And does know that I feel bad. He too feels bad but right now with the course he can't help.

He told me that his mother was looking for a girl for him last year but right now he told his mom to wait as he is busy with this course. I do give him space and let him do his things. But sometimes I really feel like talking to him. He never ignores my messages. I always get a reply. I tried making a plan to meet him last sunday. He told me that he wants to see a movie and requested me to do online booking as he was in class at that time. While I was doing that he suddenly remembers to ask his mother is she has some work. He later msges that he has do wit his mom to a relative place so we will need to cancel the plan. I was really irritated. He later messaged me in evening saying that he is still there till dinner so he wont be able to message me regularly.I found it weird as I was not frantically messaging or calling him. I just replied alright.
Next morning he himself said hi to me. And continued the convo.

He really a mystery to me. I really dont know what to do. I really like him and dont want to act stupid and lose him. I again tried making a plan this sunday by msging him if hes free and can meet. I called him but he didnt answer my call. Later he msged in evening saying he was asleep so he just saw my call and msg. He doesnt really call me. He said for him msges are more convenient as he can msg while studying or when hes with family.

When first time we met we kissed each other on cheek.
At the time of our second date he was holding my hand while watching movie. He even kissed on my hand.He was doing this unusual thing ie. he was rubbing my arm with his fingers and rubbing my ear.Later while he was dropping me home he gave me a peck on my neck.
I told him that he is confusing me as he says he likes me but right now he cant into a relationship and then these physical gestures. Later he said that hes sorry for confusing me and he crossed his line. So he did a mistake. Whats on his mind? I really want him.. Does he like me?

Initially he used to make extra efforts to talk even while being in office and studying. I used to get replies within 5 mins/ half an hr. He used to be caring and lovey-dovey when we met. And the next day hes aloof and into his things. So one day i'm on cloud nine and after the meeting, I feel neglected. I give considerable space to him to do his tasks. I once shared with him that I feel neglected on which he said that I understand that but its just that he is really busy with things.. a lot is there in office and then the course thing. And that's why he said he will be busy till the course ends.

He gets limited time for studies and his entire depends on it. So its the priority. So he can't really relax on that front. Now we communicate less over messages..hardly any calls and I tried making meeting plans..once the plan got cancelled because he had to take his mother to a relative's place. I was cool about it. I did not call/message him and suddenly in the evening he goes like I'm still at that relative's place and will be here till dinner so won't be able to message till dinner. I found it weird because I did not disturb him/ showed tantrums. I tried making plan last sunday but he did not respond because he was asleep. Later he messaged in the evening apologizing for that. I really feel like talking to him but I unable to see the excitement in him..may be because of the course load..

I did not get any reply to my message so i thought of calling him today morning. He answered my call and he sounded little irritated. He did not say anything harsh or something but I could sense that he was little irritated. I said that I thought my tone was weird and he did not respond so I thought of talking over phone. He said he was busy so he did not really get time to reply to my message. He usually replies on the same day itself. He said hes fine with it.. and i should chill.. and he will contact me on his own.. but we havent talked since saturday after my call..

Now what should I do? Will he really contact me? Is he irritated with me? I did not have any bad intentions. I just did not wanted any fight to happen..

Most libra love to chase , when you ignore him he come to you.

@Dizzylibra- So in case he contacts me how will I know how to balance so as to make him interested?

Honey, this is the THIRD thread you've created about this dude. All like 7 posts long with a novel about this guy.

Why the fuck do you keep recreating threads about him, deleting the old ones because nobody responded like you wanted? It's just a waste of time. Keep one thread up and be done with it.

he will always be back to you , if he think of you 😉

give him his space , we need it 🙂

I had sent him case study which might help him in his course. He wrote thanks to me. I tried getting in touch with him by sending him message asking hows he. He replied good and asked the same. I asked him about his mid term result on which he said he has his finals this week. I should be giving him space but I have this feeling of has he lost interest? If he is replying to my messages and being sweet to me so he hasnt right? Am I overthinking? Are there chances of him approaching me after his exam?

If you have to ask this many questions, he isn't that into you.

overthinking : yes !

just *ignore* him for a couple days .

if he like you . he will be back 🙂

especially when you dont give news to him , im going to talk for me . when i feel we are loosing each other with distance or she is ignoring me . I try to contact her ....

but he is really different for a libra , cant really say something .

usually we like to be in love , no matter what ! im always flirting with my partner ...

try the disapearing act like him . for a week or 10 days ...

Are you a Pisces or a Cancer?

Seems to me like he is pulling away because you aren't giving him enough space. Libras are air signs and need room to think. He might really like you but he needs time to figure out whether he wants to be with you or not. If in the end he decides he doesn't want to pursue a relationship, let him go and move on.

Posted by geminidude
Are you a Pisces or a Cancer?

In her other threads, she stated she was an Aries. It's rather embarrassing. :/

Hmm.. I thought of clearing things with him rather overthinking and making stuff in my head.. I wrote to him are things fine between or is there something which is bothering him. He replied everything is fine its just his course and work. We had decided that we will be friends till his course ends.. so he said lets see how things go.. and he unnecessarily does not want to push things when he himself doesnt have time for them.. So i guess finally i can relax. And ya I do confess I was overthinking!! I am an arian.. and crazy about this libra guy. Lol

I just hope things go fine.. I will try giving him his space..

Thanks a ton 🙂

Posted by nisha1490
Hmm.. I thought of clearing things with him rather overthinking and making stuff in my head.. I wrote to him are things fine between or is there something which is bothering him. He replied everything is fine its just his course and work. We had decided that we will be friends till his course ends.. so he said lets see how things go.. and he unnecessarily does not want to push things when he himself doesnt have time for them.. So i guess finally i can relax. And ya I do confess I was overthinking!! I am an arian.. and crazy about this libra guy. Lol

I just hope things go fine.. I will try giving him his space..

Thanks a ton 🙂

I don't understand your librans ... hmm ! and my english is not helping me ...
Oh you are arian .

it's nice to see you are interested by him and you are chasing him .


usually I chase them . I'd like an aries girl to run after me ! 😄




do your thing for now ! be strong and live the life fully like an arian 🙂

keep us in touch !

Lol. Even I am confused. He is really unpredictable. One time hes all mushy and caring and the next day hes aloof and busy into his things. he did tell me in the start that he has this course so that will take his time. He said we will stay as friends for time being and he stills says the same. I guess he was majorly busy because his exam was coming nearby. It just got over on saturday. I did not contact him yesterday so he took an initiative. I have decided to give him silent treatment as in I will not take any initiative for a week/10 days because I feel he thinks he has me so he does not have to win me. I plan to give him vague replies..may be answer to 1-2 questions and ignore the rest..