Question for Libras and other Signs! ~

If you really like a woman/man , you feel you really got a great chemistry with them, but that person has a bf/gf already, what would you do— Give up? Hide your feelings? Wait until they break it off? Or go after them. Just out of curiousity =D

If you are going to answer by saying it depends on the zodiac signs, then state what you would do with each different zodiac! ^^

P.S.I just like posting in the libra thread lol, so all signs are welcomed to answer this =D

For me, if I feel he feels some interest in me, I would go after him, it stems from my belief that life is too short for missed opportunities IF my gut tells me we feel the same for each other. If I believe he truly loves his gf, then of course I won't interfere as there is a lost on my side if I express one-sided feelings (i.e. losing a potential good friend and rejection on my part) Another thing I believe in is the fact, if any relationship can be broken by a third wheel then that relationship isn't meant to be.What do you think guys?? =)

((If you really like a woman/man , you feel you really got a great chemistry with them, but that person has a bf/gf already, what would you do— Give up? Hide your feelings?))

If you recently met some libra, then may be you are deluding yourself. We have a chemistry with every other girl we meet and we flirt with everyone. 😛 So be careful.

I would simply hide what I think. Just bcoz I found someone attractive or having that chemistry doesn't guarantee a successful relationship. It would look easy from outside but once you get it, it might turn out to be worse than the current relationship he and you are in. So its worth spending a lot of time thinking over it before diving in from safe waters to unknown waters.

Since you are a sag and u probably met a libra, it wouldn't be bad to hit him if his current partner is not an air or fire sign. You might be saving a life in the process.

no! that is not okay. I would never intentionally go after a person who is in a relationship!!

Even if the chemistry is intense and active, I wouldn't want to be with somebody who is willing to walk away from his lover to "chance" it with someone else. I wouldn't be able to respect him, not to mention myself.

the truth is, that a lot of people when in a relationship (if not all, or most!) will have wandering thoughts, they will start to have feelings for another...these are tests of a relationship...they are normal, everyday life tests. A relationship that is broken by a third wheel, as you put it, wasn't doomed from the beginning...I see it as circumstantial, and a situation I would rather avoid being a part of as it causes pain for all involved, with no guarntee that it would work out for the new couple.

No. It is very, very bad karma.

* if any relationship can be broken by a third wheel then that relationship isn't meant to be.What do you think guys?? =)

Actually, I completely disagree. This is actually what collapsed my relationship with my fiance. The girl still brags about destroying our relationship. There was no way for me to win. She had nothing to lose and I had everything I ever wanted and believed in was up on the table. She never really even wanted him. It was just that she could.

It destroyed me and my ability to trust. It has been 4 1/2 years and I am still not over it completely. I doubt I ever will be.

He has never had another relationship because he believes I was the love of his life and if it couldn't work with me, it wouldn't work with anyone.

People that play these games really do it for an ego boost. There are millions and millions of single people in this world. They feel unworthy and want to prove something to themselves.

We all have temptations in our life but destroying other people's happiness is not the way to improve your selfworth.

Can never have intention with anyone attached.

Well put yourself in the other woman's shoes. Say, you & this guy are in a relationship. How would you feel if you found out that other women were on websites discussing the "chemistry" they have with YOUR man? The thing about not missing opportunities that people don't understand is that something is only an opportunity when it's completely accessible to you, meaning if you go after it, it's YOURS. In this case, what you want is NOT yours (and having chemistry doesn't make it yours). If I were you, I'd back off. Any man that is making emotional connections with any other woman than his OWN GIRLFRIEND is a man that is not worth it. He may seem like GOLD now but IF and when you get him all to yourself, you wouldn't be able to deny or ignore that you might have the SAME problem with him or that he's doing the same thing to you that he's doing to his current girlfriend. And men, now a days aren't crazy or stupid, they have common sense. Any man who is truly looking for "wifey" will not take TOO seriously a woman who is willing to pursue him, if he's already taken. The reason he's got chemistry with you is because he allowed himself to step outside of the relationship box & seek the thrill of being a "player." Trust me, if he was really tired of his girlfriend to the point where he feels the need to explore elsewhere, he would be SINGLE & looking NOT Tied down & looking. Men are always watching us to see how much respect we have for ourselves. In your mind, you probably really like this guy & don't even realize how you might look in his eyes (because you are swimming in your own emotions right now), but keep in mind that you may not the ONLY girl that he's got chemistry with. Normally when a man who's tied down is out "looking" or "allowing" he normally goes all the way with it, talking to several different women, & not just one.
And yes, there have been situations when the 3rd wheel stepped in & actually had a long lasting life with the guy, but in reality, in most cases, that's just a fairy tale. Even if this guy WAS single, it's still not good to give your heart or express all of your vulnerability unless he's doing the same & unless you know he feels the EXACT same way about you (which is something you'll never be able to prove WHILE he's in a relationship no matter how much he comes onto you because of the fact that he STILL IS in a relationship with somebody else). If you're going to have chemistry, have it with the RIGHT person.

I think DEEP DOWN you know this is all wrong. Regardless of how chamring or intellectual he is shouldn't matter. The question is, do you really feel it necessary to chase HIM (out of all the 5 billion men on this earth), compete for attention & love with her, take the risk of getting him to yourself & then having the same thing done to you, or worse falling for this man & him doing you worse & knowing at the end of the day that it could've all been prevented? Don't cheat yourself. And plus, let's not leave out the aspect of KARMA here ('Nuff said). If you really like this guy & want to live by the "WHAT IF" creed, then wait. Wait until he's done with his current girlfriend (and then on top of that, give him some TIME to heal from the relationship because if you don't all you'll have is a car full of baggage). Wait until he's PROVEN to you (not just told you) that he can be a BETTER man to you than he's been to her. There is nothing wrong with chasing after something that you want, but you still have to live in REALITY & getting hurt & played (when we brought it on ourselves) is not something to be underestimated. Love is a strong thing & if you're going to search for it, the least you can do FOR YOURSELF is to search for it in all the right places. And looking for any kind of loyalty or trust from a man who's already tied down to somebody else is the LAST place to find it.

And oh Lord, he's a Libra which makes this a whole lot worse (not dissing Libras, by the way LOL). Libra men love anything that appeals to all their 5 senses, meaning they have the ability to instantly be attracted to alot of different women for a lot of different women. When Libras are loyal, they are extremely loyal. But when they are tied down & still stepping outside of the relationship, they tend to find something charming or good in alot of different women, usually leaving each woman thinking they've got something special more than he even believes so. It's almost like Libras have short attention spans when it comes to this kind of thing. They can have an instant connection/chemistry with someone & give that person all the attention & time in the world, but of course there's always going to be that OTHER woman that comes along & tickles his fancy the SAME way you did. THink about it, he can't even be loyal to his own girlfriend (the one he CHOSE to pick to have the title with over everyone else), so he definetely won't be loyal to you. And when Libras are in the stages of not being loyal, only THEY can bring themselves out of it & if they let that "special one" they found bring it out of them, it's more than likely going to be the woman that had NO CLUE he was already in a relationship with someone else, and not the woman who knew & still chose to pursue him. IDK, it's just something about Libra men that attract alot of different women for all different reasons & it seems like EVERY TIME the woman falls for him or has more interest in him than he does in her.

***A relationship that is broken by a third wheel, as you put it, wasn't doomed from the beginning..***

It was doomed from the efforts of a scandaless home wrecker!

Remember temptation is powerful and some men think with their other head only to regret it later.

I wonder why your dxp name is lunaMISTRESS... Being "the other woman" really shows how low a woman's self esteem is to have to go after another woman's man who is clearly still with.

Yeah there is definetely no REAL reward in snatching up a man who is taken. Even if you do happen to steal his heart away you'll always know in the back of your head that you didn't get him naturally or the RIGHT & respectful way. I wish I had $ 1 million dollars right now. Sure, I could rob a bank OR I could go get a degree in medicine & work enough to EARN my $ 1 million dollars. Either way, getting that degree would be alot harder to obtain, but in the end, I'll know that I EARNED my $ 1 million dollars & that feeling is like NO OTHER. Work for what you want, yes that's true, but before all of that, make sure you're CHASING something worthy of being chased (And not to mention, someone that would chase you if things were the other way around)

hmmm i guess few of you went on to consider this as a situation where u try to snatch someones partner. I am not sure thats exactly what she meant.

She said
((If you really like a woman/man , you feel you really got a great chemistry with them, but that person has a bf/gf already, what would you do—))

Which makes me wonder about the chemistry part. The two possibilities where someone thinks he/she shares a chemistry with someone is 1. where there has been a mutual display of interest in each other, 2. he/she is overly interested and began to delude him/herself.

In the first case, it makes me wonder if it can be considered as breaking a relationship if he/she think about pursuing his/her interest. The other person displayed some interest only because he/she found it interesting. It could be possibly bcoz he/she is not happy with his/her current relationship or he/she is a player who is looking for some fun. If they are not happy with their current relationship, then isnt it quite ok for him/her to chase them down and breakup that relationship? If he/she is a player and lusting someone, then again it looks only fair to me if that relationship goes down the drain since one of the partner is dumb enough to cheat on his/her partner.

So unless someone is deluding him/herself that there is a mutual chemistry, it looks quite acceptable to go ahead and break a relationship.

A relationship which can be broken, is not worth having in the first place.

My love is possesive at times-

My heart is jealous on certain levels-

So if he has a woman already-

I would probably be crying of envy all the way-

Why would I?

There are lots of fish in the ocean and if you only open your eyes.........

HEY! It's raining men!!! Weeeeeeeeeee!!!

@ thelibran

I agree with you that having chemistry or attraction does not guarantee a successful relationship ~ nothing is guaranteed in this world I believe, especially human relations, and I am not even talking about love relationships, even friendships.

And I did meet a Libra, but he doesn't have a gf, me and him have fine chemistry, but I can honestly say I just like him and enjoy spending time to talk with him, but I can say its nothing romantic breaking through anytime soon because I am reseting my priorities right now and school and family comes first above all else. Had enough relationships for a while ^^

But another thing I would like to add is you can look at the situation from outside as much as you want, think about it ~ and the outcome can still turn out completely different. I believe thinking is a process which we try to model all the possibilities that come out by the factors we know ~ and trust me, we cannot fill out all the known factors. Its not to say I won't think about it, but certainly thinking can only lead to so much without the experience of living it ~

And I agree with you completely on the second post.

@ a muse a libra

First of all, let me say I admire your loyalty, it really stands out. I do know that temptation tests are in everyday relationships, and I didn't mean a relationship broken by a third wheel is doomed in the beginning =) I just meant it is not guaranteed in the end, so it could be like to say circumstantial ~ factors such as the relationship was missing something and so happens that a third wheel comes in and provides that missing part but doesn't indicate the person leaving the relationship with the third wheel won't have the exact same problems. But if I misinterpreted your idea of circumstantial, please explain =)

@ little_sparrow

I am sorry to hear your story. 😢 But if this guy did believe that you were the love of his life, he would have done this to you?? =S ?_.maybe my perception of the ??love of your life?? is different ~ I believe it would mean a relationship that would be unbreakable under any circumstances including a third wheel. And I can agree FROM YOUR situation why you would say singles destroying people's happiness to gain self-worth, but keep in mind, your view stems from the fact that this girl that destroy your relationship was playing. But I am talking in the sense, if it's not play in a different situation, and truly the third wheel does want a relationship with the person inside the relationship.

@ jinggay

Thx for sharing ^_^

@ Queenscorpio

??I wonder why your dxp name is lunaMISTRESS... Being "the other woman" really shows how low a woman's self esteem is to have to go after another woman's man who is clearly still with.??

I am sorry I offended you some way by this post. =) If you going to go after my name for this post, it has nothing to do with it. It is a random name I thought up and the only important part is the luna anyways because I love the moon =/ ?_.and its extremely not great to bring my name into this topic when it has nothing to do with it =/

?_.And about the other women?_ in my lifetime, I have never destroyed any other??s relationships. I do agree with you and all others that temptation is powerful, but I also didn't say keeping a relationship at good standards was easy work either. ~~ In my mind, everything is possible ~ even if you met a person in your life who you really love and he loves you back does not guarantee other factors that can break the relationship down the road, the ??other women?? is just ONE of the factors. And another thing is, nothing I repeat again is guaranteed even if you are married as I see it as another rule society made up. True commitment would never involved a legal binding paper signed in a ideal world. And the self ?C esteem part if a person would choose to go after something they want because of their self esteem then fine~ but you cannot use this to justify why I would go after other men~~

??Remember temptation is powerful and some men think with their other head only to regret it later.??

And men having a moments bliss for destroying something as Important as a potential love interest for life and not thinking it though, have no respect from me. You made the decision; you have to deal with the consequences period.

and I am saying this in terms of women too.

@krysrenee7

first let me say thanks for your post, I will reply to you but it will take some time for me to process its long ~ =D

*** I am sorry I offended you some way by this post. =) If you going to go after my name for this post, it has nothing to do with it.***

Oh, no offense hun. Just a wierd coincidence that your name coincides with the topic. Was just wondering. Also why raise the question if it isn't a thought or an action that is happening or happened. I was speaking in general. You asked the question I answered. Besides this is something I have never had to worry about... None have wanted to stray from this scorp however, I have been tempted to do so but declined because of my loyalty.

My belief. If someone can persuade your sig other to leave you then they are no longer yours period. Although someon who sets out to destroy a relationship doesn't help a possible mending of said relationship either.

***even if you met a person in your life who you really love and he loves you back does not guarantee other factors that can break the relationship down the road, the ??other women?? is just ONE of the factors***

This is true, happened with me and my ex-husband. Love was not the issue, there is so much more than love to make a relationship work.


***And the self ?C esteem part if a person would choose to go after something they want because of their self esteem then fine~ but you cannot use this to justify why I would go after other men***

Not other men, but men who are clearly taken. Why not get your own (not you personally)? I feel that a woman would have enough respect for herself not to be that "chick on the side" while his main focus and concentration is on his woman/family at home. Both women lose in the end because the man isn't trust worthy.

I feel it is very insecure for a woman to feel she needs to go after someone else's man rather than having what it takes to get her own. Clearly she doesn't think she is worthy. If she did she wouldn't settle for second best. Mind you we are speaking of a man who is with his sig other. Not separated or going through a divorce, that is different most times only legal papers are binding the couple then or niether has decided to bring the thing to closure.

Just MHO.

* But if this guy did believe that you were the love of his life, he would have done this to you??

yes. He would have. People have flaws.

He never "did" anything with this other girl while we were together and he didn't see what she/they were doing as a betrayal of our relationship. (His BIG flaw is that he is blindly loyal to people he considers friends. My BIG flaw is that I am very perceptive and see what is underneath.) But I knew and she knew and everyone around us knew. She manipulated him and the situation, in the end, for nothing.

You are young and idealistic. You probably believe true love conquers all. It doesn't.

The saddest thing in life is seeing two people who truly 100% love each other, who can't be together because they are incompatible. There is no such thing as unbreakable love except at the soul/spirit level. And although you can love at the soul level, it doesn't mean the body will stay.

On the material level, we have egos and fears. We are not of spirit.

One of my spiritual mentors took a question from a woman who was married but fell madly in love with someone else and was thinking of leaving her marriage for this soulmate. As my teacher said, if this relationship was divinely ordered, (as in your lifepartner) no one would be hurt by this union but you are both in marriages and your families would be devastated. Yes. This is a soulmate relationship because it is teaching you about yourself, but it is also karmatic and that is what is causing all the problems.

There is always temptation. Always.

When you talk to people who have been married 20-40 years, they will tell you that someone came along who made them question their relationship. They wondered if they had chosen the right partner because this new person seems so much more compatible. Maybe this new person IS the person, IS the one. Eventually, they make a choice. They go off with new partner and eventually find themselves in the same position, or they recommit to their marriage realize that it doesn't really matter if the new person is better, the history and the fact that they committed to this person is what matters. The thing is, in the end, we don't commit to other person we commit to our own vision of yourself. Are we a person who honors our commitments and thus honor ourselves or others? Or not?

The lessons of marriage is to fall in love with your partner over and over and over again.

Chemistry is just chemistry. You will spark with co

"A relationship which can be broken, is not worth having in the first place."

Absolutely. A relationship that was built from love, loyalty & endurance CANNOT be broken by anyone other than the 2 people in that relationship. Any time a relationship is broken up by outside forces, the person who broke it up shouldn't even consider taking the man/woman into their OWN arms (if anything out of fear that the same thing can happen to them). One way or the other, pursuing a man who's already tied down is wrong, no matter what the excuses, no matter how strong the chemistry. The fact that he's tied down & yet still making mental connections with other women says alot about HIM. He has no business engaging in enough activity to the point where other women are considering putting down their dignity for him. Either this lady is suffering from severe lack of self worth OR this man is trying to have his cake & eat it too.

A good friend of mine a long time ago told me that if she was highly interested in man who was already in a relationship with someone else, she would NOT stop pursuing him. And her reasoning was this, "If I'm just looking to have some fun (not commitment) then hey, why not? If he's dumb enough to cheat on her with me, then that's between him & his girlfriend. And hey, say I say HELL NO & leave him alone...he's just going to cheat with the NEXT woman who was actually WILLING. It just comes down to which women can have that on their heart or not" And I think this statement is entirely true. When it comes down to dignity, it's NEVER a good idea to even turn your eyes towards a man that is already taken. But for the women that are not looking for commitment (and just like the thrill of being the "mistress" or the "other woman" they see it as a "Blame him, NOT ME" game. But I have a problem with a woman who is trying to actually COMMIT to a man who's already proven his distrust towards others. Trying to commit to an already taken man is another story!

***The saddest thing in life is seeing two people who truly 100% love each other, who can't be together because they are incompatible.***

THE SADEST!!!!!

Preach it LS, I agree with everything else you speak about spiritual connection, commitment and marriage. All this is learned through actually going through these processes.