Self help for confused Libra

Okay so I have been talking to alot of my guys friends lately and we got into the conversation of relationships. Now they all told me they wouldn't date me because I am a big flirt. Now being a Libra I think us women flirt to be reminded that we are still wanted, attractive, ect. That we can still turn heads. I don't think that it's insecurity or anything of that matter.

When I was in high school I was chunky, and didn't really date that much. After high school my life started to change. I was a late bloomer I guess you could say. And boy did I bloom. I lost weight, toned up (I work out now) and matured physically. Now I get all this attention and that I'm not use to. Do you think I just don't know how to handle it? All this attention?

I have confidence and I believe in myself. I work and am going to school for my masters degree. I have alot going for me ... so why do I feel the need to still be accepted. Or is it even that? Is any other Libra women going through this? I had a date with a guy the other night and everything went well. So I thought. The next day he text me saying it's not gonna work out. I found out today he said I was nice and all but that he was afraid I was too friendly with everyone else.

That hurt me when I heard that. 😢 Sometimes I don't even realize it. It comes natural for us libra's ... we get along with all kinds of people and can fit in just about everywhere. It's all natural for us ... It's all fun. Harmless really. But if this is ruining my future relationships then should I try to tone it down? Should I change myself? Or should I just find someone to accept me for me. I feel horrible because I don't want people to get the wrong impression about me ... you know ... think that I'm a slut or something. Being a Libra I take everything personal. Ladies any advice.

when I was younger (not much older than you are now, I'm 25) I didn't know what I was up to either, I didn't realize how much I was flirting. However, you're wrong about one thing, it's not harmless. It's a powerful tool/vice for us, it can garner us many things and as you said a lot of attention, but it can lead people into believing we care for them in a way we don't or that we care for someone else in a way we don't.

You need to just start focusing on the way you interact with men. It's not easy to turn off, because it is a natural libran instinct. But you need to control it a little more. Learn what flirting is, pay attention to what you do. Libra uses the eyes and body language as her tools, but also, I've noticed a lot of what she says. She uses this naivet? that you already talked about "I don't even realize it" and it comes off as this sexy innocence. I would wager if you listened real close to the THINGS you said, you'd realize that even though you didn't intend them sexually, they can be taken apart and made...dirty.

I don't think being a Libra you get to lay claim to that one. It happens to any sign in the zodiac when there are self esteem issues. You should enjoy the attention but are you SEEKING it in your "behavior" as apposed to just more people noticing in general. Although, that being said, Libras ARE more of a flirt then the rest of the zodiac.

As far as the accusation of being "slutty": guys can be just as slutty as a woman!! Unfortunately, their buddies will pat each other on the back for it. It's an archaic double standard that is finally being recognized. Are you being overly sexual with your body language? (you might want to tone that down- it certainly can give the wrong impression and get you in trouble at the same time). Are you selective about who you are extra flity with? That could also give someone the impression that you might be promiscous. It really depends on the perception of the individual.

Being a class act takes an attitude that comes within and shows on the outside. Look to a role model and try to emulate that persons conduct until YOU feel comfortable with who you are emotionally and then comments like that shouldn't bother you. You obviously still don't feel comfortable yet in who you've become and evolution is an ongoing thing.

If this guy isn't into you.......let him go! It's his loss. Don't let what other people say hurt you. ONLY YOU have to answer to YOU. Beauty is on the inside ! Just be you.

Good luck!

I agree that all librans are naturally flirtateous and yes it can be a two edged sword. Like A muse a libra said. You have to learn to control it. I didn't mind my ex husbands flirty nature, I knew he was mine and he wasn't going anywhere. Actually he was more jealous with me than I with him. Imagine that! I am a scorp!

I guess it never crossed your mind that maybe there is nothing wrong with you but the guys in your circle are still not confident in THEIR sexuality?

There is a huge difference between MEN and boys. These are still little boys.

You are young. Have fun and play safe. In the end, they will all kick themselves for being too chicken to ever do anything about it.

Thank you guys ...

I just haven't had much luck with this whole dating thing. Even the older one was immature ... infact he was the worst. I know it's not all fun and games, but it shouldn't be this stressful right? It should be fun and I should enjoy there company and vice versa. But being a Libra when it doesn't work out I right away feel like it's my fault, I wasn't good enough, ect. Why do I do this to myself? Is it just a Libra thing? EXHALE!

Now my next date ... how do I teach myself to chill? I am hoping the more I date the better I will get. I wanna relax and enjoy the moment ... not be constantly thinking and wondering if I'm good enough, or if he likes me. Oh and rushing. That's my other problem. I am finding that men are liers and will tell you anything to get what they want or not tell you so they don't hurt your feelings. I hate that.

* not be constantly thinking and wondering if I'm good enough, or if he likes me.

You need to turn it around. You need to start wondering if you like him and if he is good enough for you. This isn't just you interviewing for a spot as gf .... you have to interview him for the spot of bf. How does he treat you? How does he treat those around him? How does he treat the waiter? How does he treat his mom? What does he say about her?

Stop worrying about how you are doing and start worrying about how he is doing. Make a game of it.

Obviously you are very attractive as you have a bunch of dates lined up. Now you are just looking for someone who you are compatible with and wants what you want.

I know. We libras love everyone and believe everything everyone tells us because it would be impolite to do otherwise but try to see if you can tell.

If you are worried about guys lying to you to get you into bed, don't sleep with them to impress them or get them to comit or any other reason. Do it because you want to with no expectations.

Dating is really hard. Stop taking it personal because it isn't. It isn't about how good or not good you are .... it is about how compatible you and your perspective partners are. You can pretend to be someone else but truth surfaces and eventually it will come out and lead to heartbreak for both of you. So just take a deep breath, stop worrying, and keep going. Eventually you will find someone who is completely delighted by everything about you.

You should not judge yourself based on the comments from one or two guys. Some zodiacs have issues with their girls flirting around. Some days even i have an issue and will get all jealous but some other days I simply don't care. And If I remember clearly, I got more jealous whenever a libra or aries was flirting around and was quite ok with the gems and aquas flirting around. And during young ages, things are quite different inside a libra brain.

a non-Libra guy's point of view: you're young, beautiful and a flirt. most of my gal friends are. DON'T CHANGE YOU. the just friends will love you as you are. the more than just friends will either (1--get jealous and walk away and wait until you come back to them OR make you life HELL w/ arguing and fighting, or, (2---not get jealous because he understands YOU. either way, remember: if a guy is nutz about you, he can be possesive.