Sharing this just because

It reminds me a lot of how Libras function, but at the same time, I think it applies heavily to most dating anymore. Either way, it makes a good point. This guy knows his shit.

(I have no idea if this pic will post or just be a link. preview isn't working for some reason)

Freaking a. :/

Lol dxp sucks right now.

No shit. It's freaking annoying. :/

Posted by Huldra
Rocky is a Leo moon? Well, that's one hell of a deja vu

Rocky is a Cancer moon, Joseph is a Leo moon.

Posted by Ssupes
What's going on Rocky?

NOW the image linking is working.

Last night, it was just a url.

Posted by 4ND5
i think i do the same. venus trine neptune and venus opposite pluto. obsession and delusion.

with the neptune it just doesn't always turns out as i expected but it's not a big deal.

Maybe not for you, but what does that do to the other person?

One of my favorite movies.

So who do you think is the main cause for the relationship to fail, him or her?
She emotionally checked out without communicating with him which is wrong.
What did he do wrong? How was he selfish?
Yes he was crazy about her a little too soon but isn't that just called being human?
I think I need to watch the movie again.

No, it's called being delusional. We see it all the time here on the Libra forum- guys moving way too fast, like he said, projecting some sort of fantasy on this person, which IS very selfish.

You meet someone. You hit it off initially and are hooked. You start idealizing them, creating this person you THINK they are based on YOUR assumptions and notions that YOU made up. It has nothing to do with who they actually are. You aren't paying any attention to that and just focusing on the squishy honeymoon feelings and continuing to see this person how you think they should be according to your standards.

That isn't fair to the other person because they aren't that individual you made up in your head. Yet when they fail to live to those made up standards, it bursts your bubble, you retreat, leaving the other person alienated, confused, and worst case, dumped. Why? They did nothing wrong, it was you who created a pretend person and held it against them when they didn't live up to that image.

Selfish.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
No, it's called being delusional. We see it all the time here on the Libra forum- guys moving way too fast, like he said, projecting some sort of fantasy on this person, which IS very selfish.

You meet someone. You hit it off initially and are hooked. You start idealizing them, creating this person you THINK they are based on YOUR assumptions and notions that YOU made up. It has nothing to do with who they actually are. You aren't paying any attention to that and just focusing on the squishy honeymoon feelings and continuing to see this person how you think they should be according to your standards.

That isn't fair to the other person because they aren't that individual you made up in your head. Yet when they fail to live to those made up standards, it bursts your bubble, you retreat, leaving the other person alienated, confused, and worst case, dumped. Why? They did nothing wrong, it was you who created a pretend person and held it against them when they didn't live up to that image.

Selfish.

who is the selfish one? he is? but she dumped him...

They both were, dear.

Posted by Arielle83
He was needy and expected too much too soon. Lack of passion and drive. Wanted this relationship to be perfect and relied on it for happiness due to lack of drive.

She knew what she had and wasn't ready to settle until she met someone she could be challenged by. She was more action than him. She had more faith and he was more black and white.


Either way, I'd bang him.

Wow great analysis. I have to be more careful next time I watch movies.

Posted by 4ND5
i also didn't think too deeply about this movie. maybe because JGL's co star was a giant dinosaur in hipster glasses.

haha same i always thought it was a cute movie and he was innocent and she was a player until now. looking at the surface, thats what it looks like

Posted by Arielle83
He was needy and expected too much too soon. Lack of passion and drive. Wanted this relationship to be perfect and relied on it for happiness due to lack of drive.

She knew what she had and wasn't ready to settle until she met someone she could be challenged by. She was more action than him. She had more faith and he was more black and white.


Either way, I'd bang him.

Ok I am guilty of this, but usually it is me that gets dumped because I get too lovely, but I only get this way when people start talking sweetly to me and then I do it back and the flood gates open I want to tell thenwholenworld that I love them! It usually happens like 3 months in when I start projecting these feelings on the other person. Never clingy just lovey and people can't stand it so they withdrawal then I'm left hurt and wishing I at least had my friend back. 😢 but they are never forgotten they always still have a place there in the back of my head of the time they were wonderful. I never thought of it as a flaw until just reading this I might be putting people on a pedestal that they didn't ask to be on.

Thanks for sharing this rocky, I watched it 2 days ago. As scary as it is, also very real. It happens to a lot of people, mostly one of the parties (the one that has more feelings) is not able to make sense of it because not everyone is as open (or comfortable?) about it whilst ending the relationship as she is in this movie. I think we are able to like someone even though we might know he/she is not the one and we can be liked by someone although they know we are not the one😉
I think the most sensible thing not to get hurt is to be aware of this possibility, especially when there are doubts/confusion (e.g..here her not wanting to commit although her actions are very encouraging). It requires a LOT of strength and awareness, of course, when you have intense feelings for someone and you are getting 'something' back and most of the time it is hard to understand this without experiencing it. I did what she did before and someone has done it to me too. Now I know! 😉

PS. I am Taurus (with Libra moon) but I have seen this film in many people's lives regardless of signs, especially in younger ages; maybe it is part of the process of finding the one? Who knows, people are complex beings.