Should I expect more...situation with Libra male.

Hello everyone,

I would very greatly appreciate any insight anyone can offer on my situation.

I'm a 31y/o acqua female. Met a 34y/o Libra male. We have been seeing eachother for 1.5months.

Initially, he was over the top fast forward. I mean, in the first week, he was talking about us being perfect for eachother, meeting my parents, what our kids would look like etc. These things were red flags to me, but he seemed like such a sweetheart that I just let these things go.

Suddenly he cooled down - a lot. No more sweet text messages etc. but would daily always text in the morning to say good morning etc. Still, he would seem very interested and would want to make plans etc. Problem is, he only makes attempts to be available on the weekend, but not much during the week. Fine - we all can be busy etc. but I thought that was weird. We also predominantly have a relationship over text...and would talk maybe every few days or so. I talked to him about this and he said that he would like to call more and that he tends to hide behind text messages.

All of a sudden he will get intense again, but more so through showing his insecurity. I had to meet someone for work and his question to me is "was he better looking than me" I was thinking, sheesh, how insecure can one be. When I didn't know what to say, and just responded something to the effect of no, he responds "thank god". It comes up later and he says he wasn't joking about it at all.

I can't read this guy. He tells me that he wants to see me, that he misses me, is very concerned about things going on in my life, but I feel like he doesn't do much in terms of actually making more time for us to spend with eachother. he also flakes out on plans, a lot. Should i not expect to see him more than once a week? Should I not expect to talk on the phone versus having a text relationship?!?!

Another thing that shows this guys insecurity, I think, is the fact that he will always say things like " i need to workout to look better for you, or I need to look sexier for you". i don't get it. He's a very attractive and accomplished man, but feels the need to say such things.

Sorry this is so long.... please offer any insight you may have!!

He has been hurt in the past and hasn't gotten over it. He is extremely insecure. I think you are reading him just right. He is very into you but isn't healthy himself. He has some severe emotional baggage that he should address quickly. Unfortunately there is probably not much you can do to help him with it either. It is something he needs to sort out inside himself.

Thank you very much for both of your posts! Its funny, as if I don't respond within a short while to one of his texts ( I was sick one evening through to the next morning), he will send text after text, asking "are you there", numerous times, followed by calls etc and when I finally got up and was able to respond - he was going on and on saying "Thank God you're ok, I was so worried" All I had said was I had a small fever..hahaha It doesn't add up as being the same person who can go ages with any contact, when HE feels like it.

I think I will definitely back off... He has been badly hurt in his last relationship that ended 3 years ago. he was about to get married to her but then she confessed to having been seeing someone else for the past year. Maybe this is fueling his insecurities and making him be so wishy washy and keeping things at arms length.

And yes, I feel like I'm being strung along while he figures himself out and what he wants etc. No more of this as its consumed too much of my thoughts!!

AWWWWW it must be love.....stick with it for now....texting goodmorning is good....been concern is good also...🙂

Insecure=Clingy...You being and Aqua will not last too long with that kind of low value mentality...Aqua women need space and if he's showing signs that he's insecure you may be able to deal with it now but later you will end up dumping the dude, I'm an Aquarius and clingy insecure men are tolerable up to a certain extent then I can't breathe and I gotta go and get some distance and space between myself and that person...Plus insecure people are downers, no fun.

Unhealthy men move way fast, lightning speed fast part of that reason is because they don't trust themselves or love themselves enough to allow a person to slowly get to know them, they love bomb a woman to the point that she doesn't get to see his flaws until she's stuck in love and it's too late to get out quickly. Today he's insecure 6 months from now your having to hold his damn hand every time you don't respond immediately or have some place to go without him, hopefully he's not insecure and violent/emotionally abusive in some way (keep your eyes open for that kind of behavior)

we all been hurt and pushed around in our past but it's not your fault that happened, IMO I would call it and just be his friend...He needs to work that mess out before being with a woman.

Men/Women with low self esteem are too much work on an emotional level, this guy may be charming and cute and all that good stuff but I can guarantee you that his insecurities will work on your nerves to the point you will have to leave him alone.

A libra with self esteem is LOVELY, they are so much fun to date and be around.....

what's there to have insight about? he's a libra. seems pretty clear. if you like him, keep seeing him. if you don't, break up with him. i don't see any red flags on his part.

sound jus like me lol... but my gf build up my confidence which help me alot and i believe you should do the same.
if you really do care about this guy he need help jus like i did and i am thankful that my gf held it out for us , help us thru this problem.

Not many peoples can handle that its a challenge , its up to you to decide if he is worth your time.