Slob libra girlfriend...relationship death spiral

Me:aqua sun,moon scorp asc

Her:lib sun, gem moon, pisces asc.



Okay, my girlfriend and i have been dating for a year and 6 mo. Went from living at my family home to her moms apt untill we get our own.......when we were living alone at the house i did most the cleaning. Partly because this was my grandmothers house, and she was always a spotless type of woman when she was living. My girl would help me out and make an effort here and there which was awesome.....but as she became more comfortable around me i realized how sloppy, and careless she really is...and its driving me up a brick wall!(AND TO DRINK). fast forward and her mom slips a disc at work..shes bound to her apt and we basically moved from my house to her moms apt. Needless to say i didnt know what i was stepping into. Now i come from a 2 family house woth 2 bathrooms, carpet, and a patio, with a yard...all need to be maintaoned respectfully. When she was at my house she saw me on my knees cleaning, and washing, and folding and the list goes on. I lead by example. Now as a man i was never the cleanest person, but when i have a female around my presence, i tend to get my shit together. She knows how i like to see things. Anyway, i get to jer moms apt and instantly realize that this girl dosent lift a finger to clean up after herself. This is a big 2 bed 2 bath apt. So she basically jas one whole side of tje apt to herself. Her bathroom is a constant wreck, she takes off clothes and leaves them in the bathroom constantly.the sink is constantly dirty and her products are everywhere. So after a week there are at least 3 pairs of pants and underwear thrown in the corner or a string of panties mext to my washcloth. If she cooks then sje dosent wash after. If she fucks up a pot, she wont scrub it. It just gets left on the sink for days untill i got ballistic about it. Her room is a disaster. I have stopped doing any of her laundry because she does not fold clothes. There is a couch in her room that i havent auctually seen because there is a constant mound of unfolded clothes that never moves. Now i only was what i bring there. She dosent mop or sweep. If you walk barefoot throigh the apt, you feet turn BLACK because of the dirt that is never mopped up. Her bed is a hamd me down from her mom which is sunken in the middle, but shes still sleeping on it... she dosent wipe down or dust any of her furnature so, dust gets caked up everywhere...HOW DOES A 26YR GIRL LIVE THIS WAY. I cant take this shit. And when i tell her nicely she blows me off. That is untill i spaz the fuck out and leave for a couple days, she moves some shit around and calls me up telling me she did some cleaning. Im at the point where im sleeping on the couch in the living room because i cannot live, or think properly in filth, and she is content with living, seeing, and breathing it. Sometimes i just watch her move through the apartment and leave shit all over the place. I feel like im a parent when im chasing her down telling her to put up the shit she just used. I dont have kids and this is killing all desire to have one if this is the type of shit im going to have to deal with. This is by far the sloppiest woman i jave ever met, and i dunno if i can break ground. Im not putting 20k down on our apt if she cant even keep her room clean. I needed to vent, and i need some scotch, i might be single real soon.

Hire a cleaning service.

You have to ask yourself if her lack of cleanliness is a deal breaker.

Also if this is the same chick your were talking smack on a few months ago it's already dragged on for too long as it stands.

Posted by seraph
When you're living with other beings in the same apartment that aren't pets or people...

Actual phone convo between my date and I, circa 1999, staying over at her place while she ran out to get groceries.

Me: "Buy flour, I want to make pancakes."

Her: “Should be some left!”

Me: "There's plenty, but it's full of ants and some other stuff."

Her: "Oh just sift them out."

Ew no..

Geez reading this thread and your last one, I'd say it's about time to let this one go.

You basically can't stand a lot of things about her.

I can actually be a neat freak at times and hate when my house is dirty, so I get that. But to complain that much about the sex between you two (if she's the one your last thread was about) and even daily routines now shows that you constantly think about how bad she is for you.

Maybe you just need to vent and get that stuff off your chest. But it does sound like you can't stand her...not good for either of you.

Yeah, that would be a deal breaker for me, personally.

Dirtiness and disorganization stress me out. I've also found that if someone is careless about their living space, that sloppiness tends to spill over into other aspects of their life (work, personal responsibility etc.).

Maybe you could speak with her about designating a day or 2 out of the week to both do some housekeeping? It might give her more motivation if you two are doing it together. Old habits die hard though, so I'm not sure how long you'd be able to sustain that routine before she reverts back to her usual ways.

I think it's preference. I started making my bed since I've met my Taurean (John). I've started picking up after myself. Before he comes over (twice) NO SEX!! I make sure the house is clean. He wanted a pic of me and I said, "I just cleaned a two story home! I'm all stinky, and sweaty!"...he didn't care (I sent it).

NOW, Taurean told me he would take care of the yard; AND then some (inside); uh, not! I LOVE doing laundry, but to have my man go down on his hands and knees to clean the kitchen flooring and I'm just starring at him? Not! 😡 If and WHEN we do make love, am I just going to lay there and wait for it to be over?

Morale of the story is, 50/50 NO 90/10 as girlfriend got too "comfy" in having him clean the home, apartment, etc.

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

PS: I've seen jpg of a man cooking in the kitchen (DXP)...I said, "I want a man like that! I PROMISE I will clean the kitchen!" 😆

Posted by tiziani

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Posted by tiziani

Hahahahahaha

I would be running out of there so fast!

I'd love a slob woman. Nothing sexier then a woman who cares less then even me. Personally I need tasks and responsibilities to not quickly get bored.

I'd be like you just lay there while I do all this bs, then afterwards ima fuck the laziness out of you.

If that didn't work though I'd totally drop her.