The "wounded" Libra man?

Sagittarius here, new to the forum and would love some advice..
In a really small nutshell, I'm totally and desperately in love a with Libra man... someone other than my husband. There was never an affair, or anything like that.. we were just friends and I'd see him and talk to him at the skating rink he owned in town that my daughter goes to. It would take hours to tell you details, but again in a condensed version, I always got the feeling that he liked me, too. But #1, he knows I'm married and he's a God-fearin' southern boy, through and through. And #2, he's that whole closed-off type.. terrible marriage, but he and his ex owned the business together and he was always around her and her scheming family. His ex repeated cheated on him over the years, her and her family stole from the business, she was a compulsive liar, she'd take off for months with various men and leave him and their two boys alone.. honestly, a terrible person. And it took him months to tell me all that... it's not like he wore it on his sleeve. It took a really long time for him to open up to me, but before that I had no idea about what he'd been through. I'd just know that every time we'd get closer, he'd pull away. Two steps forward, three steps back. I never told him how I felt about him up to that point, and I fought my feelings every step of the way.
Anyway, they sold the rink back in February and she left town. I haven't physically seen him since then, but he and I continued to be FB friends and still PM'd or occasionally "chatted" online, After the last time I saw him, Feb. 7 to be exact, I thought "Well, it's in God's, or the universe's hands now... there's nothing more I can do." During this time I hit the meditation and soul searching hard. And after not hearing a word from him for six weeks at one point, I accepted that it was time to move on. And for the most part I did, even though he was always in the back of my mind.
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Well, we started communicating again shortly thereafter, just some polite, "how have you been" type of messages. But in the beginning of June, it started becoming more intense. We live "chatted" a few times, and some days passed messages back and forth all day. And while nothing "romantic" was discussed, a few things he said made me believe that he'd been thinking about me a lot lately, too.
So I knew he'd been looking for a job in truck driving. He did it for a while a few years ago, but had to stop when they kept having problems at the rink. He had mentioned many times that he wants to go back to driving. Well mid-June he got a job and has been gone since then...doing long distance runs all over the country. Just when I thought he was back in my life, he left again.
That's just a little background.. and I can provide more details if asked. What I need to know is this... HOW does one love a Libra who is closed off, with higher and thicker walls than I've ever encountered in my life? How do I get him to trust me and open up? I've read tons of stuff about Libras and how to start/have/keep relationships with them.. but nothing about helping them heal. Any advice?

What is wrong with your marriage? Or is it just open?

As a libra I really can't speak for the males.. scales weigh different, but I can say I'd totally stop talking to a married woman who seemed hot on my heals in some sort,

I'm afraid there's not enough room here to say what's wrong with my marriage. This isn't about that, and as I said, there's so much more involved..

But quickly will say this for certain... I made a commitment.. a sacred vow, to another human being 21 years ago, and I've always honored that commitment, even when I didn't want to. At times I've loved my husband with all my heart and couldn't imagine my life without him. At other times, I couldn't stand him and just wanted out. To say we've had our ups and downs in an understatement. But through it all, I never had feelings for someone else. I never even imagined, in my wildest dreams, that I could ever fall in love with another man. And then, it happened. I have no idea why. I didn't look for it, and I wasn't open to it. It came out of nowhere and knocked me on my ass. So to say I'm "hot on his heels" doesn't describe me one bit. It totally cheapens me, and my feelings for this other man. He's my twin flame, I'm sure of it without a single doubt. All I want to know is how to get past his walls and help him heal.

You want us to advise you in how to have an emotional affair?

Bitch, get a divorce first or shut the hell up.

Wow.. what a judgement bunch you all are. I'm outta here...

I've encountered the wounded Libra and regardless of relationship status (we were both single) the libra man will decide on his own what and who can heal him. If it was you, you would know by now. Sounds like he cares about your well being, but is already on his own path to healing. Though I can totally empathize with your feelings. The chemistry between Sagittarius and libra is very unique and not forgotten easily. I would let him go, and appreciate that you met another who brought up some aspects that you had not experienced before.

lol @ these selfish cunt buckets who come here, expecting people to help them have emotional and physical affairs with someone other than their S.O.

Pieces of shit you are and you expect no judgement? "OMGHERD, YOU'RE JUDGING ME! Waaah!" Get the fuck over yourself. So sorry you dislike being called out for the terrible human being that you are.

Haha, just remembered that the OP is a Sag.

WHAT a shocker. *cough*

Just based on the examples here, it's getting a little depressing NOT to see these Sag women known for having vaginas that flap in the wind. Ridiculous.

i'm with the others. if he needed your assistance to "heal" he would have sought it out. he is getting himself together. he doesn't need your mothering but it sounds like he enjoys your company.

i would spend some time thinking about how you find yourself "desperately in love" with someone else and then talk to your husband about it. maybe see to working out the issues in your marriage and heal that instead.