trying To understand...please help.

Hey Im new here n thought maybe I could get some insight on my situation. I met a Libra guy:
Sun Libra
Moon Libra
Mercury Virgo
Venus Leo
Mars Virgo
and then theres Me:
Sun Gemini
Moon Aquarius
Mercury Cancer
Venus Gemini
Mars Cancer

We started off interesting, single both getting out of relationships then boom. One night texting and flirting went to well a crazy night n we had sex. N then things where weird, for a while. It was like we couldnt really get away from each other since we where in a wedding together, n our close friends where the ones gettin married. So we where just friends with benefits for a while. Then I started to notice I wanted to see him more, and go out on dates. So i told him, we should just stop. N every time I do this, he pulls some stunts or does silly things to get me to come back to him. Like pop up places or call me like we didnt just have a arguement the night before.

I can tell at times I give him a headache, and he has told me this. So why doesnt he just leave me alone and find another chick. He says he wants to be just FWbs but then doesnt want me goin with other guys. And he's also explained that he only wants to sleep with me. N when I ask him why he just says ionno thats just what i want to do.

I thought the whole point of a fwb was to not have feelings. Its like he likes the fact that I enjoy his company and want to be with him. It doesnt make sense to me ... why fight with a chick.. call her..text her.. explain to her... go places with her...bring her around your friends...pop up places you know she is then turn around and say where just friends?

lol... wth is up with the gem/libras.

My pluto is in Scorpio his is in Libra... how does that effect us?

both uranus and neptune arein sag.... except my neptunes in capricorn.

For example... if your sun conjuncts his neptune or uranus...

since they are not conjunct ..does that mean im out of luck?

The telepathic tie is there between you, almost to where you can expect him to call right before he does

that has happened WAY to many times... I even know when hell pop up sometimes. Or ill get a sense like, I think i might wanna look cute today, cause i have a feeling ill end up seeing him. N sure enough i almost always do and not because i arrange it ..it just happens.

we both know what the other wants..... as much as we try to fill in the blanks. like i want sex or i want to go to the movies..or why didnt you call...or i just want to chill. At the end of the day... doesnt that just mean we want eachother.

thanx ashley.. im a lil confused by all this especially cause i didnt know you criss crossed planets to find a match.

does our sun-sun and moon -moon match ups count for anything?

thanx again.. well we shall c. I liked him instantly since i met him. N yeah when i thought the other guys/exes where gonna call. they probably did the opposite. lol. with him its always been right.

n sometimes he says stuff i kno isnt true.. n i wanna ask him so badly ..why are u lieing..i know the real answer. But its hard out here nowadays..u dont kno whose telling the truth n who isnt. but ne wayz... if it works out or if it doesnt work out.. im pretty sure we wont forget eachother...EvER.

If a Libra guy says all he wants is fwbs. that is all he is looking for.

They are the ultimate charmers and fear offending anyone.. so by being upfront w/ you he is trying not to hurt your feelings.. Don't take this personally, you could be the coolest chick, just not for him (and vice versa). It is super easy to read into their natural charm and charisma but the bottom line is that they are people pleasers and can make anyone feel like they are the only one in the room.

My advice- stop sleeping w/ him! (I know, its hard, their HOT!!) But your obviously not going to be happy w the fwbs thing (don't blame u, never works once feelings are involved) But sex is high up on the Libra males hiearchy needs,so why not take that away and see if things develop on other levels instead of leaving yourself vulnerable?

The weird thing about this libra..is he explains his games to me. Hell go ..why do you think I called you yesterday? why do you think I did this instead of that? because I knew you would think this? How in tha hell does this show he cares..if anything it shows he is a asshole. Who thinks its fun to persuade and minipulate me. No I dont blame him entirely because of course Im continuing to comply. But where do you draw the line.. when do the mind games ... you guys say are "telling me what i want her" end? I have a feeling if I did start a relationship, it would be a endless web of minipulation and lies. Hearing this and reflecting on what has been happening over the past months. I no longer am all that interested in him ne more.

I mean I see it 2 ways:

either he started off just want to have sex, and now likes me. more than he wants to reveal, so he keeps with the smoke screen. Because then hes a chump who cant admit his feelings and I win.

or second he is so desperate to keep me around because he doesnt want to dothe work or has trouble getting other girls. N his only game..is minipulation...which probably hasnt worked as well in the past.

Either Way.. I dont think im interested in a relationship with a person who cant admit there feelings or a minipulator with low self esteem.

thanks ladies lol

or hey maybe hes on the fence.. about what to do with me..lol indecisiveness is a libra trait to!

Either wAy...im ovER it..

yuppp sometimes u just can't wait for them to clear up or make up their minds, have fun, enjoy life and maybe when he is ready, he will come back

he thinks to much.. I like to just follow my heart. We are just different.

"he thinks too much.. I like to just follow my heart. We are just different"
- omg, are you sure ur not aries lol?! I am and my Libra guy thinks things thru sooo much, but at the same time I have learned sooo much from him. And he has learned from me.

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Anyways, it seems to me like their are some sketchy Libra guys out their ... Gemini and Libras are suppose to be a great match so why not find another one lol? I initially went on this board a year and a half ago when I started dating my Libra and was pretty freaked out by other ppls experiences! The key is you just need to find the right one, when they are into you it is an awesome experience, otherwise it seems they play a lot of games so not to offend and to satisfy their needs for beauty, relationships, sex, at any cost..

On the other hand they are so charming in other ways it is easy to "not to hear" when they are being direct- ie., "I am not ready for a relationship". I don't think you fall in this boat but my advice is to move on,keep friendly (but not sexual) w/ Libra, and if it is meant to be it will bein the end. Date others and go where it is easy. Good luck!

I definately agree with you firegirl.. I've dated a libra before and we pretty much had no problems, easiest relationship I ever had. This one just wants to be difficult ..n most likely has other motives. I definately am not goin to rule out dating another libra. N no im not a Aries.. but I never met one I didnt get along with or like!