Update on the flower petal pulling....

Soo I wrote on here before about how I thought my Libra was pulling flower petals. Until yesterday I had no idea what a mess I was in with him. First of all.... Never allow third parties in your relationship with anyone! No matter how serious, or not serious you are. I had a breif emotional break down yesterday and an incredible ephinany! I am compeletly content with him. I love our relationship! Its perfect. We both get along so well... Our goals are the same, our personalities flow well with each other. We are both perfectly fine not being commited to one another! Im happy being free to do as I please. It is all these other people who have been butting in, putting their two senses in where it doesnt belong, causing me too question everything. Its my fault I allowed it. Im at a stage in my life right now where Im learning that you cant trust people. You can only trust yourself. I found out my Libra was actually using The Rules Book on me. Is he using it on other girls I dont know. I do know that he spends a lot of time with me, more than any of the other girls. He says he just wants to be friends and I believe him. But he is a Libra so every know and then his feelings flucuate and he acts like he wants to be more then that. So to make this long story short. He does for a fact like me. He just doesn't want to be more than friends with me. It is that simple. Its everyone else filling my head with a bunch of BS that made everything so complicated for me. So a word for the wise... People are jealous of things they dont have and want, and will do whatever it takes to make you just as miserable as them. This includes your closest "friends."

* He does for a fact like me. He just doesn't want to be more than friends with me. It is that simple.

If you are happy with that, then be happy with that.

Why is he and how did you find out that he is using The Rules on you? He knows they were written for women to encourage them to have a backbone and thier own life. Most men generally don't have boundary issues so I am not really sure how he thought that would help him. lol! I am totally curios about this.

Uhhh, I can see where your friends might be negative to this "friendship" you have with the Libra.

You are way more invested in hoping this will be a romantic relationship, he isn't, but he cares for you greatly and thinks you are an awesome person, just not relationship material, so you accept it.

I don't think you should be so hard on your friends. From the outside looking in, it is easy to see you wish it was more, but it isn't. They are just concerned for your feelings. Don't want you to get hurt.

—? What are "The Rules?"

Its a book about how to train a person to be what you want them to be. Its for women, and it helps you actually get a husband. Worked like a charm for my cousin on getting her guy. My friends have agendas on bascially trying to keep me from being in any relationship actually. And I know it sounds like I want this to be more, but Im not ready for anything serious... I guess I hope when I am ready he might be the one around... It probably wont happen. Im not holding my breath. There will always be someone in my life though, just not sure who will be the one to actually settle me down. But right now Im completely content with how things are. 🙂

If I were one of your close friend , I'll tell you that you're in the state of denial , your affection for him is running very deep and you're ready for him but he isnt so you thought that was fine , you can go with the flow as him , your logics will create million of reasons that you 're happy with the way things are .One day, he will see you more than an awesome friend and he's ready , maybe he will, maybe not so be careful and take care of your little heart. Distancing yourself wont hurt either ...Well , now I know I should craw away after all the awful things I said here .
However , as a new acquaintaince , I'd like to say "Hello" and Best of luck 🙂

Don't come to down to hard on your friends. You said that it wasn't until yesterday that you realized you were happy with the situation as it stands, being friends. They were likely seeing the fluctuations you go through to come to that conclusion and their advice was more geared towards protecting your emotional side.

I think it is admirable that you have the ability to see the situation for what it is and be content with it, even though your heart might want something slightly different.

Capri, you are accepting it as "just friends" and like nic said, you just recently have done so. YOU WANT more with him though honestly. It is fine and, I agree, admireable that you are able to accept it for what it is, but be truthful to yourself and it will be a lot easier. Been there myself once. Cheers!

Capri your post on the Taurus board:

Alright I decided to turn to you Taurus' to help me gain some clairty on a situation which has arisen. I am a capricorn, my boyfriend is a sagittarius, and his new found BFF is a girl Taurus. Now I am good friends with a few girl Taurus' I always seem to get along well with other Taurus' just in general. However, this girl seems to be different. I have never met/talked to her before. She knows who I am, I know who she is. She mainly knows me through my bestfriend, because she slept with her old boyfriend, who was her current BF at the time. After she slept with him she actually wrote my friend online and told her how much her boyfriend really loved her. I have also had another person tell me she is a stuck up bi**h. I tried to add her myspace profile to mine, but she denied me. She was not the only person I added I added a lot of my boyfriends friends to my account so that we can all sort of get to know each other, not just to lerk their accounts. Well I got pissed off about it, and called my BF and was like look why did she deny me— I was like she likes you, shes jealous of me, she has a history of screwing up relationships, I dont like you being friends with her. He freaked out on me saying that she was sweetest person he ever met and she would never ruin a relationship . She also apparently told him he deserves someone better than me, who will not cheat on him. (I guess he failed to mention that when I slept with someone else me and him were not even dating!!!! and when we were dating he slept with at least 5 other girls or more) The reason I mentioned that, is because it seems like she wants to date him. Well apparently they talked about me and he came back saying that, "She is not going to add you so you can lerk her page, she said if you want to be friends with her you have to write her and get to know her." I was like wtf are you freakin kidding me, its fn myspace kiss my a $ *. I am NOT going to write her like its a privledge to be friends with a wh0re.... So tell me is this a Taurus gone bad or what? Im dealing with an unfaithful Sagg and a bull who needs to be yanked at the horns. What should I do?? Write her, befriend her— Or find a sneaky way of nicking the friendship in the bud?? I mean I guess if my BF loved me, I wouldn't have to deal with this, but I love him so I need a way to deal with this....

Maybe this is why the Libra doesn't want to be more than friends, because you have a boyfriend.

Libras can "smell" if you have another relationship or won't be exclusive to them---just so you know.

Atom, that is very true.

Yeah me and the Sagg broke up actually... A lot of the reason is because of that Taurus girl... and Because I am kind of wanting to be solo... The Libra knew about it. It deff made him jealous, but I didnt read too much into that so much. Hes a jealous guy. Its true though he worries if he dates me if I could do to him what I did to my ex boyfriend. Truth of the matter is I got really hurt in that relationship. I need a lot of healing time before I can be a faithful person to anyone again. Otherwise every lover is going to get treated badly because so far I havent been able to let go of the past. Thats why Im really okay with just being friends with my Libra. Neither one of us is in a position where we need to be "in love" with someone again. If anything he is helping me grow up a little bit. Im still young. Many more mistakes to come... But Im deff keeping my guard up... But you are all probably right... IM in denial! I might have deeper feelings for him... Deeper then I think... I cant help it those damn eyes of his read me wide open like a book, and though I dislike this...I like this...

important to heal first. before anything else. otherwise it's not fair to that other per (OR you, in the long run).

So you were seeing the libra and th sag at the same time? If so the libra probably won't take you serious.