What does friendship mean to a Libran

OK this really gets to me today.

As you are all aware, my Libran ex lover is now supposedly a really good friend but when I look back over the past 11 months of knowing him it seems its only ever me who picks him up when he's down, comes around to his place when he's about to get "smashed" and drink himself stupid coz the world is so against him, I've never judged him, never given him any negativity....I realise he's not in the best place and continually try to make him happy.

Last night I was chatting with him and I was clearly in need of a shoulder from him in particular (he has big shoulders LOL) coz nobody can talk to me like he does..honestly, that I love about him......work has been getting on top of me, amongst a few other issues and I really would have liked it had he picked up on the fact he was actually needed for once to lean on, if only to say "lets catch up tomorrow night for a drink". He just added to it though and made me feel worse (yes this was online, not face to face so yes I understand its hard to determine one's mood/state of mind) but I clearly told him I was low....he basically just said "SNAP out of it, its not worth it" and Im pretty sure he did realise he didnt handle it the best but also didnt redeem himself at all during our conversation so at the end I just said "goodnight, take care of yourself"

What I'd like to know is...and you'd think I'd have asked enough questions from you all, and after almost a year, I'd have him somewhat worked out but is this something you are all guilty of?? Do you need to be asked in so many words??

What upsets me the most is that less than 2 weeks ago he made it clear he was feeling pretty low and I didnt hesitate to come and see him and showed him how flexible I could be....he just called me his "guardian angel"....whatever!!!

As if it didnt take everything in me to forego wanting more from/with him and being a true friend (and trust me I have been that for and to him), but the one time I really needed him?? he says "snap out of it"??

I know none of YOU Librans would treat friends like this.......I truly have found one that is very selfish 😢

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr@me for being so loyal

There re ups and downs moments in every relationships , Chatz . I dont know what kind of friends you re with your ex ? Soulmates ? Best friends ? Coffee Friends ? Acquaintances ? Remember , 11 months with him , you two were on off many times and you re the one who loved him deeply ( and I sense you still do) while the man couldnt make up his mind and that was the reason you two broke up . What can you expect from a man who even cant treat his special someone right ? If he cant fulfill your expectations and wishes before , how in the world he can do it now for an ex lover who is now a friend ? Just do what you feel right and enough , find another kind shoulder if you need to have some comfort , as I'm sure there must be many for a nice lady like you . Dont hold any expectations , if you can give then give and leave it just that , dont expect to do many wonderful things so somehow he will change his mind or " comes to his senses" because he never will . He is just the way he is . Also , dont keep any special feeling anymore when you decided to be friends , it 'll just hurt you more when your ex seems to move on or just string you along because he cant find anyone better at the moment. However , if he 's a "good" like you implied and you regeret to lose a friend , just keep in contact but no "EXPECTATIONS" . Otherwise , treat him as an acquaintance for he never can hurt you anymore when your heart isnt with him. 🙂

Chatz, I know I have told you this before, but. You still love him and still want what he can't or isn't willing to give you. You have to totally separate yourself from the emotional love etc. To be his friend and as a friend, yes he shouls be supportive. I don't know one libra who isn't a great friend, especially when it comes to advice and just a kind word. A great person to turn to when you're down. They seldom if any judge either.

He is unbalanced in all areas it seems, so you won't get anything different. He might not be able to support you even as a friend in the way you need him too.

Like KG said, you and Atom might be blinded by what is right in front of you... Fire and Fire damn I know that would be hot!!! 😉

He should be supportive. Ooops.

Hate to say this, Chatzy, but he's acting like a. . . .



typical guy.


Ow. Now you KNOW all guys aren't like that. . .

: )

I'm sorry he didn't "get" it. Hope things are getting better for you at work and regarding the other stuff going on.