Can We Talk?

Hey,

I am not sure why things have turned out the way they have. It seems awfully quite around here lately, and this could be my doing or it just may be a koinky dink— Someone told me that I need to stop assuming things and being so sensitive. I know I can be a flamer sometimes too. Are you all not talking to me anymore? If I have stepped on your toes, then I wish you would just say so and not just go silent!

I dont understand the boundery lines that are being crossed here sometimes. Like people telling other people that they talk too much or that their behavior in unacceptable, therefore, they need to change how they are etc...to me that is crossing personal bounderies that souldnt be. Nobody should be telling anyone what to do or how to act on a messageboard. We are adults here and not children. I feel sometimes like a being treated like a child. I have already been raised and I dont like it when someone tells me I need to change my ways! I would like to all get along but continue to talk and debate and argue in the same way we always have before. Why does everything have to change. I am all those same people combined. I am at times raunchy and other times serious or looney or lovey dovey, isnt everyone? I just had different names and I tried to explain that the reason for that was to maintain a little privacy when talking to a certain person. That is all. Everything I said was true and all of it was ME. Star, this has bothers me and I think you and I can get along very well if we could somehow stop this, and get beyond it. Some of the personal attacks are not made in fun, they are for flaming intentionally. When I do it, it is for fun only.

Star, I dont want to keep fighting with you. We use to get along fine before. I would like to see no more malicious personal attacks, or crossing personal boundry lines. I think we all know where they are!

I have a question now.

This might be a good question for Morgan, because she can really talk about everythig and is always asking some good and thought provoking questions.

Anyways, here goes. This is what I am wondering:
Was there a specific time in your life where something huge (significant)happened to you, or YOU made it happen, that changed your life or entire outlook on life?
For example, for me it was a number of things, but it was when I hit 40, I just knew I had to do something drastic, or I may not survive the second half of my life. I quit a good job; I went back to school; and I ended a long relationship. They say(prof.)that it is hard to do just one of those things, but I went for it all three. I was so stressed out at that time, I sought professional help.
Well, I knew after I got through it all and graduated, that there was nothing in my life that would ever make me fear the unknown again! That I felt like I was self-contained unit and that no matter what happened to me, I WOULD surivive, and do it well. I no longer had a need to be fed, because I had learned to fish for myself. Although it was not being born again in the religous context, I did feel like I was free for the first time in my life. It all came together for me at that time in my life. I stronger and more connected to life or had more faith in myself and my abilities. It was like running a marathon for me! I beleive in me and I can do whatever I choose to do and that there is no limitations in life only my lack of imagination.

I would love to hear other people's how should call it? Defining Moments?

Suzy

Perhaps what I did was wrong. But, you can be mean to people...and I don't mean just to me. I don't know if you think you are being funny at those times?? But, you are right...I will not worry about you...I will worry about me....

My defining moments came about with the birth of my daughter at the age of 30. I went back to college, got excellent grades & won scholarships...then, while still in college, I became a single parent...it was all a struggle, but, it made me fiercely independent, an excellent problem-solver, and unafraid to face any challenge. It gave me faith in myself, and a "I/We can do this!" attitude. LOL! When my daughter was little, she kept telling me she wanted to be like me when she grows up! She is 14 now, and sometimes still tells me that I am her 'hero'!! LOL! Though there was very little money, and many hardships...there are many very happy memories...It made me a better person...but, I am still a work in progress!

I can't honestly say that there as been one defining even that has changed my life, its been more of a sequence of lots of little things. But, I'm really too young to be able to answer this question well. I think a lot of times when things do happen that really significantly affect us, the stresses had been building up for a while and they eventually force us to make an important decision. I do believe that everything happens for a reason, and I really wonder sometimes how everything I do now will affect me later on.

But anyway, Suzy, did you ever figure out your cycles and pinnacles according to numerology? It's really quite interesting and a lot of times quite accurate.

You have three major pinnacles in your life. You can figure out when they will occur by subtracting your life path from 36 to get the first pinnicle, and then adding 9 for the next two.

For example, my life path is a 22.
36-22=14, therefore the first significant change in my life was supposed to happen when I was 14.
14+9=23, the next one occurs when I'm 23
23+9=32, the last change is supposed to happen when I'm 32

Each of these four different section in a person's life (for me the fist being from birth to age 14, the next from 14 to 23, 23 to 32, and then from 32 on) are ruled by different influences. I'm not really sure if it works for everyone, and the ages might be off a little, but it's interesting all the same.

*My first sentance is supposed to read:
I can honestly say that there HASN'T been only one defining EVENT that has changed my life, but more of a sequence of lots of little things.

OK, Morgan..how did you find out what the number of your life path is? I would be very curious to know mine! Thanks!

"Are you all not talking to me anymore?". Does this include me? Curious.

As for life changes...there have been many HUGE changes in my life, through choice, universal decree and sheer dumb luck. Way too many too mention them all, but here are some, choosing to become a single parent rather than aborting, going to uni as a mature age student, travelling OS, meeting a man I met on the internet and marrying 4 yrs later, making the stand (on various occassions) for the underdogs and copping severe consequences for it, and the list could go on. BUT none of that changed my outlook on life, I have always accepted what is, what could be and what can't always be seen. There are never any mistakes in life, only experiences.

"There are never any mistakes in life, only experiences."

That is beautiful, Lawgoddess! You are one wise woman!

HAHA thats sorta how "bad" and "good" have a balance, its not necessarily a mistake when ppl think its "bad" because in the end sometimes it turns out good. And thus its called an "experience". Thanx lawgoddess for presenting a better explanation than the one i was trying to explain on this other post.

but then again..its our choice whether to take anything anywhere, ah well...its like once you think you figured out something, something else comes and makes it even more confusing, its like we werent meant to know everything, just wonder. But in a way, i dont want to know the real truth, cus then id feel like my life is over.

Yeah Lena...how blasted boring would it be if we knew all the answers!

Star..thanx (lol) but I am not really all THAT wise...just another person struggling through life choosing to find positives in all negative situations..as most of us do.

Yeah, well, Lawgoddess, I am always impressed with your posts...I feel a connection with much of what you say and feel inspired at the same time!
So, to me you are wise...but, spoken like a TRUE wise woman...you do not believe this yourself!

LOL indeed.

Well Suzy.... a certain defining moment that changed me forever... I would have to say my whole life has been a long defining moments so far... maybe when I get older the eternal moment will end... My view on life is always changing and never the same (though alwys similar). I can honestly say that there have been some major occurances in my life that afected me, but never all at once- the effect takes a long time to seep into me.

P.S. I hope everyone had a Happy Thanksgiving (except Lawgoddess, I hope you had a happy Thursday evening =) and that everyone remembered that Thanksgiving wasn't the only holiday- Chanukah started the night after (just to bring some more awareness out)

P.S.S. I really have to stop typing so much in these posts or no one's going to read them =)

Chanukah— love to hear more about that. Have missed seeing you around Gwen.

Star..you are a sweety.

THANK THE LORD for some rational ppl in here!

Lena...too cool. Love your witty answers...I am sure though they have a sarcastic edge at times...I LOVE IT! LOL

LOL Lawgoddess! Likewise!

LOL! Gwen, leave it to you to always be politically correct! Thank you for reminding me of such things...I do need a wake up call now and then!