forgiveness...

i know i've created threads on forgiving before, and after a million others. but im just thinking about it again right now and it never ceases to amaze me how closely linked forgiveness is to "forgetting"

i may forgive, but it sometimes seems impossible for me to forget... i realize it takes years. many years. if at all. i can forgive, but i seem to forever behave differently around someone bcuz of a heavy enough slight. my trust in them on the grounds of a certain principle is more or less gone.

i like to think and hope people can change, but this reaction is deeply instinctive and kind of sabotages the ability to grow and move on if you ask me.

its possible im being melodramatic right now, but w/e

thoughts? who is able to forgive as well as forget? can anyone identify with the above? is your trust rattled as well when someone wrongs you... someone close perhaps?


what do you think would help you forgive people better? err... more easily?

I easily forgive and forget...but only so many times.

Eventually, I run out of chances to give...and when that happens, I may forgive, but they will never get another chance to do it again.

The closer the person was to me, the more cut off they will be....they will never hold the same position in my life again.

ALSO, sometimes it may seem like I haven't forgiven someone for something they did to me because what they did was very telling of their character (showed their true colors, so to speak,) and I decided in the process that I don't particularly care to associate with them...and at that point it's not really about what they did...I forgave them for that...just can't forgive them for who they are. If that makes sense?

I FIND IT A LOT EASER TO FORGIVE THEM ONCE THERE DEAD.