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Do you have children? I ask because, I always thought I would never spank my children (before I had any)...but, I also thought I would never give up playing with Barbie dolls and couldn't understand why my Mom wasn't 'into' it!! LOL
I am not saying that spanking is the only method of discipline and certainly should not be overused. But, it can have a small place amongst disciplinary techniques. For instance, time-out is very effective in many households...but, for my daughter it would have become a physical fight just to get her to comply and she was quite young! She was just too stubborn and refused adamantly to follow the time-out rules...even if it was only for 5 minutes!!
My favorite disciplinary technique however, (and the one she hated the most) was making her choose her punishment...I would state the facts and say, "What do you think I should do? What do you think your punishment should be?" It was usually grounding from TV, friends, phone...(her choice)
I think this method hit home better than spanking ever did...but, it does not mean that I never resorted to spanking...
I sometimes felt I had no other choice because she was impulsive and playful at such a young age and I had to be quick. For instance, she would run out into a street when she shouldn't. I quickly ran after her and swatted her bottom, saying "No! You cannot do that!" This was for her own safety!! She learned after a few times and no longer did such things...do you get where I am coming from?
She is now a lovely 14 year old girl. She does not seem damaged, (so far!) even though I have been a single parent since she was 1 year old. She amazes me and I am so proud of her! I guess she has similar sentiments about me as she occasionally tells me that I am her hero! (I realize this may change! LOL!) We have had trials and tribulations, believe me...but, it has made us stronger. You do what you have to do when you have to do it, and a person knows when that time is...