Sugoi!!

does weight matter in a guy to you? i guess this falls into the category of "do looks matter".

Well, it doesn't matter *too* much to me, for example I have dated a rather overweight guy who was very goodlooking and who I was very attracted to. But if we're talking about obesity, I would say that I wouldn't look to get involved with an obese person. Reason one, they tend to acquire health problems, and I worry enough about my loved ones dying or getting an awful disease already. Reason two, I want to start a family fairly soon, and I want a healthy partner to do that with, someone who can keep up with children and not have an automatically increased chance of premature death. Reason three, I'll be honest, I'm probably not going to find myself being attracted to an obese person. If attraction isn't there, how can I have a relationship, marriage or family with them?

P.S. Speaking strictly about looks, I usually go for the tall, medium-built (not too muscular but not too skinny) types, usually dark hair and dark eyes, but not opposed to light eyes. I have also been with a guy who was only a couple inches taller than me, and I'm only 5'4"...I'm not really that strict on looks, as long as the overall picture is good, then a great personality and mind make the small flaws disappear.

Oh God yes! But I have to add, when i married my hubby he was very much overweight....love truly does conquer all.

But since then he has lost half his body weight and is now just a little chunky.

This is going to sound terrible, but, oh well...

Weight for me is a maintainence issue - it's really not that hard to eat well, exercise and keep yourself fit (unless there's some medical excuse).

So...I find obese people offensive in the way that I would find someone offensive who neglected to wash, or use deodorant.

It's not the physical aesthetic I find repellent, but rather the idea behind it.

My answer to the question is that if i really like the person then i wouldn't care about a few extra kilos. They'd just better be careful not to put on anymore though!

I think looks are important in the case of you've got to be attracted to the person to want to get to know them. I think you've got to have it all. There's no use having a 'nice' guy or girl and not wanting to ravish them! Then again, i wouldn't want a great looking girl or guy and not like who they are. This is an empty experience 🙂

Gee my english is bad. Cortica, i need a few lessons!

Where are you from Libragirl?

I can see your point, Cortica. I am stricter with myself than I am with my guy...I feel it is part maintaining also.

I have dated a few knock-out gorgeous men in my life and I do not prefer them. They were all conceited and too 'this is all about me' mentality! LOL! Two of them, I suspected steroids and not nature had given them all they had!

I like a guy who can beat me at arm wrestling...but, he doesn't have to be a body-builder! I lift weights regularly and do aerobics also...but, the weight lifting is my favorite! Even my daughter's (old) boyfriend once said to my daughter, when I was pulling a patio table apart to put into storage, "Wow, your Mom is really buff!" Then he said to me..."flex that arm again!" I just smiled and said, "and don't you forget it! Now, don't be messin' with my girl!" LOL!

I am more attracted to the person inside than the outward looks...but, this is something that takes time in getting to know the person...so, initially, they must have something that attracts me...again, though, I think I place more weight on how they treat me initially, rather than how they look.

Good for you, Lawgoddess, in seeing his inner beauty! How did it happen that he lost weight? Was it a woman's influence in diet? I am curious...

my GOD my own mothers body is better looking than mine LOL im just a lil short skinny/normal thing.. 😢 although im thinking about getting toned so erm yeah..LOL

dude, but my boobs are SMALL. theyre not like FLAT but still, theyre not like huge either. *sigh* oh the disadvantages of being asian..LOL no j/k. But oh wells, im proud of my boobs! huge knockers wouldnt look good on me anyway.

Luz, worry not, I am not large chested either (I'm your average "B" cup, which is probably more information than you wanted, but hey, we're relating here...lol). I have found that for all my insecurity over the years regarding my chest size, not once has a guy who's actually seen them complained, in fact the opposite. I think guys are just happy to have a pair of real live boobs in front of them. lol. Most of them, when it comes right down to it, go for firmness, perkyness and shape rather than size. However, I am still contemplating getting mine augmented, just because I feel that I could be more proportioned, and I think it would be a kick in the pants to have big juicy ones. lol. Who knows, I may or may not do it...but it's fun to think about finally being able to wear one of those extremely low-cut dresses and not be worried about how I'm filling it out. lol.

lol! thats great pheonix, we can relate 😉 i'm proud of my boobies, i dont care if its big and if it was literally flat i wouldnt care either, its all about how im going to carry myself, which im trying to find out right now.. i think i should carry myself whichever way would fit ME. And if ppl love then they love if they dont then who the frock cares! Anyway, our boobs rule LOL wee.

I lost thirty pounds and it took a lot of hard work. I could do it again if I wanted to. It's a matter of motivation. If I can do it, anyone can. It's that simple. I don't agree with people saying they can't. Just say I won't! I have like some chubby guys before and it doesn't bother me.

Woohoo! Here's to all the girls with petite-sized, handful-or-less breasts in the world! Not saggy, and proud of it!! LOL 😛

We should burn our bras...lol

LOL *burns* burn baby burn =p

twinkee, sorry, I posted at the same time you did 😛

In reference to your weight loss, that is awesome! Last year I lost 26 pounds, I was never what you'd call "fat", but that weight didn't look right on my frame, so I joined a gym and with a lot of hard work, it came off over the course of like 6 months. I know how hard it can be. I do like that everyone has the power to change their appearance if they want to. I feel for ppl who have a lot of excess weight though, because just taking off 26 lbs was HARD FREAKING WORK!

LOL @ Luz..."disco inferno"...hehe