The Past

I am always hearing this "you must deal with your past and clear it up before you can move into another relationship" something like that. Why? Why cant we just forget it and not look back at all. I get weary of always having to drag the past back up and look at it. Why cant I just forget about it. I can do it until someone tells me that this is wrong. Who says so? Much of my inspiration comes from the bible and when God tells Abraham and Lot and their wives to run from the city of Sodom and Gommorrah he told them not to look back. If they did, and they did, they would turn to stone. What I take from this teaching is, to not look into the past at all and to keep moving forward. That if we are always turning and looking backward we will stay there and become frightened; we will become frozen in our fears. I can relate to this, and I think the only way for me to be able to keep going is to NOT keep looking back! Can anyone tell me why they think it is better to examine our past and how it is beneficial?
Love
Khai-Khai

Well, first, don't let anyone else tell you how to live your life...ever, even if they claim to be "experts" or even if they seem very worldly, intelligent or philosophical. You do what works for you, and unless you're hurting someone else by the way you live your life, no one has a right to comment on it. Second, I see the point you're making about moving on and not looking back--but, if we never look back at all, then won't history repeat itself? Won't we keep making the same mistakes because we never took the time to examine the ones we've already made? I think the challenge is to find the balance between learning from your past, and moving forward into your future. I don't think it has to be all or nothing...I think you can do both. It is hard to move forward if you are continuously living in the past, but it is also highly detrimental not only to yourself but to others to blindly take off at full speed ahead, never looking back at your mistakes and decisions...because if you don't at least contemplate your past, then you never can learn enough from it to successfully move forward. That is just my philosophy for myself, hope it made sense 🙂

Well...I am getting worried because you haven't responded girl. Let me know how you're feeling...