true love?

is it true love even though you feel love to a certain person in the same degree as many others? do you feel love towards many people, say if you're a guy, do you love not just one girl but many other girls? is it possible?

if you feel that magical feeling, that sweet serenity or delight upon seeing one woman you dearly miss, is it true love? do you have that certain spiritual connection to her that even though you were just talking on the phone, you'd want to be with her for the night because it just feels right?

what if you feel the same way towards many other girls? is it true love just the same? can you love two or more girls at the same time? but what if you've already chosen one among them, but at certain times, you'd still feel that weird feeling towards another girl?

one more thing, do girls really know from the get-go that they would click with a certain guy? do you girls feel that? how accurate is the feeling? do you often eventually realize that it is indeed true?

what about guys? are we dumb? do we have to trust another girl's gut feels over true love? coz one thing i notice, women do not quit. ever. years and years have already passed but if they love you, they won't stop. no matter how many times you've already showed signs that you don't love them, they still pursue you. or is this just a virgo guy thing? coz i see a lot of threads about it in the virgo forum... @_@

also, i notice that women seem to have strong intuition. sometimes, even though i don't love them/her, they just magnetically hypnotize me towards them. and they don't stop. no matter what.

sometimes i want to give in NOT because i want to be "loved" but because i feel like if this woman doesn't quit, it only means that she truly loves me no matter what... and yes, for that reason, i kinda of want to give in because i want TRUE LOVE and for me TRUE LOVE OVERCOMES ALL.

Any thoughts?

Good lord. You need to understand what love is and what infatuation is. You can feel "magical" feelings with anyone or anything and it may not quite be love. I do believe you can love multiple people at the same time, yes. I do not believe you can be in love with multiple people at the same time. At least, it's not possible to fully and completely experience that serious, soul-fusing love at the same time. People who usually romantically love multiple people at the same time how serious signs of insecurity, emotional dysfunction or delusion. And you being reeled in by someone you don't love is not called love, it's called you getting manipulated. And it is a huge how of your emotional maturity to allow a woman that you do not care for to continue to pursue you after years (if you weren't into her in that way, you should've let her know and cut off all of her chances to reel you in). Some people just want people around on the sidelines for a good ego stroke from time to time, could this be you? And perhaps you're feeling weird feeling for the women you didn't choose because you feel guilty for letting them down in some way? And a woman chasing a man for years has little to do with love. How can she possibly love you when she can't even love herself enough to know when to stop chasing someone that doesn't want her? WOmen these days are very desperate and will do almost anything to get a man, not because of love but because of obsession, to fill a void, she's getting older and wants babies, to feel worthy, to have something to show off, to not be alone, financial reasons, because they're jealous of your ex, LOTS of reasons. But here is how you tell the difference. When chasing you, was/is she controlling, manipulative, extra persistent or did she give you the freedom to decide if you love her or to love another? This gets tricky to notice. For example, some females out here will do silly things like pretend to be good friends with a guy that she secretly is in love with/wanting. She will play friend while getting pertinent info out of the guy (what kind of women he likes, is emotional past, info about is family and friends, info about who he's dating and the things he really loves about her, try to get him emotionally invested in her...as a friend) and then once the friendship is built and solid, tell the guy that she's so suddenly in love with him, that something came over her and now she somehow sees this guy in another, more romantic way. Then you think ba

Then you think back on it and you realize how many relationships this "friend" destroyed of yours and how many times she has given false perspectives or horrible advice about the girl you were dating. I mean, this sort of this does truly happen, but you will know the difference based on the signs. Some women do feel that they click, some don't. Some think they do and later learn that they've made horrible a horrible decision. Some knew from the moment they saw the guy that he was the one and they live happily together.

Pretty much...you need to be with one woman at a time and also be clear about a few emotional levels before you truly know if it's love. If you're with this one minute and then with this one the next, it's going to be hard to really know and really feel all of the raw emotional that come from that (loving, being hurt, growing with the person, etc). It's like a person trying to really enjoy a meal with with appetizers floating around...you're not really going to experience the brunt of the entire meal and what it really has to offer if you're all over the place, confusing your senses and taste buds. I think some good questions to start with are...what are my feelings about love? Why am I motivated to love? Why do I love this person? What does loving this person mean for me and my future? Why/how can I love this person above all others or am I even mature enough to do this? Why does this person love me? How does this person love me?

@_@ I was like so confused with your long paragraphs, StarMooney. I pretty much notice though that my feelings for a certain person are not felt at the same time as my feelings for others. I do believe that that magical feeling of love would move me to stay with one girl. But I also feel the same way for other girls too. However, I also believe that there can only be ONE. I think I've already made a decision. But I am not ruling out other girls yet...

Sorry about the length, I get too deep sometimes. But all I can say is if you're serious about or chose one, stick with that and cut the others off. Your relationship cannot really blossom if you have side options. But I guess this is a recent choice you've made, so no harm done, it sound like you're on the right track.